Hello everybody! 🙋♀️ One of the last forums i make before we go on holiday is smt i wanted to do already for some time!!! BUTTT i wanted to think abt the questions that are nice for this forum. 🙂 Before the summer one time Rose @Idkbro said we also need forums that you can talk abt super serious stuff too!! And i think that is right. So i made this forum with questions. I hope that maybe some people like to read and maybe also to give their answers. Thank you very much!!!!! 🙏🙏🥰🥰
nice forum @Yue_ @Idkbro This forum might be useful for people who want to reflect on themselves or are confused about certain questions in their heads. good job!
Questions:
1️⃣ Do you think that dreams tell smt about your REAL life or that maybe they say something about the future?
In the supernatural world, there are some people who have a sixth sense, which ability has other branches, such as being able to see spirits, have strong intuition, can predict future, etc. and in religion, several religions (like Christianity, Judaism, Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, pantheism, and shinto) acknowledge that the supernatural world exists, thus validating the existence of human powers that have not been solved by scientists.
and about dream that could tell something or predict things that would happen in real life, honestly it happen several times in my life, and it specifically similar with the same activities, even though I've never been there before and have never done that. so yes, i believe that.
but some dream also depending on our psychological condition, some are just dreams. believe or not, it's your choice
2️⃣ Is there something that you believed but later you changed your mind about it?
when i was kid until 17, i believe that every dominant man is interesting and i adore a man that can protect me, that can provide me. but it was before i learn and know about what is equality, femicide, and dark history about gender inequality. and now, every man who act soo dominant, for me it look like a manipulation just to have & control a woman completely, including the rights that they have.
yes i was a naive for having thought that it would be nice if i had someone who dominant.
but, rn, no longer. i don't like dominant man. And thanks God, i met my BF who really respect, appreciate, and support equality. so we protect each other, we teach each other, we learn each other, we understand to each other. and it's all because we seen each other as a partner that has equal value, and deserve equals right, treatment, education, respect, everything.
3️⃣ Can you also have TRUE love without that you are hurt?
pain, hurt, disappointment arises because we have expectations And those expectations weren't met. For me, to overcome that, at least from the start I was upfront about what I wanted, what I needed, and what my goals and plans were for the relationship, and yea we match our vision & mission. At least if it turns out the prospective partner objects, he will withdraw himself, and only those who are brave and confident will agree.
if you wanna know, in my relationship, i rarely having fight with my bf. we both don't like childish yet drama fight, so everything need to communicate in mature way. and yes, because of we have the same mindset, the output is we rarely in fight and more to love.
4️⃣ What do you believe that happens if you die? And if you believe that you go to heaven how does that look like? For example you meet others who also died?
Actually, this matter comes back to each person's beliefs, but in Islam, there are many stages that humans must go through before finally entering hell or heaven. This depends on how much the kindness and harms that they did in their life. if you are a good person, you can go to heaven, if you are harmful, maybe you are criminal, corruptor, rapist, etc, then you go to hell.
honestly i kinda scared and uncomfortable to talk about afterlife, cause i still feel like I'm not good enough to talk about it. so yea, let's skip it. I don't want to overthink it.
5️⃣ Do you think the opinions of others about you are important?
some of matters, some of not. i mean, if it comes to people that im closed to, yes, it's matter, but if it comes to stranger or people who barely know me, nahhh, it's unimportant. i bet most of them only seen me, not 'feel' me. cause if they could 'feel' (emphatic person) they wouldn't dare to have opinion about someone they are barely know. instead, at least they would try to get to know the person FIRST, before judging.
6️⃣ What is the best decision that you ever made in your life?
1. learning about human psychology (also ethnography, anthropology, theology, psychology of design, etc)
2. learning about Equality and inequality & Social issue
3. studied in my institute (biggest & best art institute in my country)
4. dating my bf
5. be myself & stop listen to what hater said about me.
7️⃣ Did you ever feel depressed or super anxious? And if yes: what do you do to get out of it?
yes ofcourse, and how to cope is, i put it all out, like from journaling, whether on social media, in notes, etc, that's also why i love forums in here. or singing the songs that align with what inside my head, or if i lazy to do both, i choose to cry it out and tell it all to my bf.
8️⃣ Which person do you miss the most who left you or who died or who you have no longer contact with?
honestly i miss my elementary friend, she moved to somewhere i don't know. like we are bestfriends, but people said because of one or two condition, they moved.
9️⃣ What life lesson have you found out in the hard way?
that no matter how your condition is, you will only fully depend on yourself, not others, or even your family. at least you still can share it to your partner, but you still need their consent. if not, you cannot force them to understand or help you.
cause they are not your therapist or your helper, but they are your partner who would company you to be a better version of yourself. cause you deserve to be better in your own way, you deserve to learn, to get life lesson, you deserve it.
🔟 DId anything unexpected and nice happen to you in the last month? It can be something big or small.
yes it did, but i don't like to share it on public haha cause yea, not everyone is able to show such a nice reactions, some of would troll or jealous. so better to keep it to myself or to people i'm closed to.
and as usual, thankyou @Yue_ to keep making forum, i really had a nice time in answering this! 🤗🌸💐
