Did you ever stop writing to somebody? What was the reason? 日常生活与习俗

Did you ever stop writing to somebody? What was the reason?
Too much efford, too often? Too less time because of family or daily business etc.?

Or just because other reasons?

Yeah, many many times. Cause that people wanted to write elsewhere or they ask too many private questions.

Okay, but in that case you should think about the sense of a penfriendship.
A penfriendship usually developes into a deeper dive into topics.

Not for me. I can write with someone in the normal way without topics of my private life.

Because the messages were getting to be further and further apart

Because the messages were getting to be further and further apart

This is usually the case for me too. At some point maybe life just gets busy for either person, or someone loses interest.

I've also have that situation in real life for years now, where after months one of us will text the other. I don't like it but I also don't want to say anything.

I think I also almost lost touch with another friend, but now we chat more often again.

I guess life happens. And no matter how many times it happens, it doesn't get easier when the path diverges from a good friend.

To be honest, I was always left, sometimes rudely and suddenly, without explanations, sometimes with more politeness, some other times quietly. The first kind of leaving is the most fastidious, but I think that in this cases (especially when the contact is effectued by the other), the person was looking for something else and he was not so coehrent with himself or with the spirit of a pen pal. So, I always think it was better that way.

Did you inform your opponent that you won´t write back anymore or did you just "ghost" him/her ?

I think ghosting is one of the meanfulest actions you can do with somebody - let people alone with the reason and just don´t care anymore isn´t that nice.

Last time I had a penpal we grew apart over the years though we became penpal after signing up for it through the Briogirl Focus on the Family Christian penpal magazines penpal program. We just didn't have much in common as she was a cheerleader from Eugene Oregon and I loved anime and more.

Like I want a friend/penpal who will keep in touch and not ghost me or whatever. I've been ghosted before and its not a good thing. I have autism and social anxiety so I have a hard time making friends and talking to people irl. The longest penpal relationship I've had will be 20 years next year in June cuz that's how long I have been penpals with my best friend.

Many people leaved penpal gate, some moved to another country, or just blocked me because of some problems we had.

there are my 3 reasons:
1. i don't want me to get to deep and turns romantically or disappointed or hurt even more
2. they are... hmmm, well, its them who talks or ask for weird stuff
3. and this is the the most not so serious reason, sometimes i ran cause their aura/charms way too strong, cant hold the shine! ☀️🌡️ (yet i won't admit even a bit, and yet there's principle that i must keep)

When I made a profile here, and other places, I thought I'd never be a person to just stop replying. I feel bad when I stop, well not always but often. When they ask weird questions, just answer boringly (ok, lol, etc) and the conversation is just the same crap over and over again. Or a particular situation, a girl was "jealous" or whatever that I had a friend from the same country as her, no matter what we were talking about she'd always start saying stuff like "Do you like her more", and "i'm sad 'cause you have another bestfriend". Only because she was from the same country too, like I had lots of friends from other countries as well, she didn't care about those.... but anyway usually its not me but the other person who stops replying....

yes and even blocked against my principles. because after days of having fun in-depth conversations it suddenly started to feel like I was becoming that person's property. asking why you were online, why you talk to other people. I wasn't afraid but it feels strange how people try to dominate someone

I think mostly people start to think about the reasons when its done. Maybe those are too deep in their own world and or try to compensate something with it.

yeah some ppl

yeah some ppl

Why?

That doesnt matter 😉 private problems but we keep in touch with some and talk really rarely