Did you ever stop writing to somebody? What was the reason?

Im not minding the argue.
But… ahah i think i have separation anxiety, if its like what u said🙄😅😔
And i think every problem i have in friendships comes from that.

Big hugh from me to you you are just like a son to me

Big hugh from me to you you are just like a son to me

Parsa is my adopted son😂😁

Sorry, but the reality is that many people just suck and don't give a hoot of others, diseases or other mental disorders only represent a very low percentage of the reasons they stop talking or writing with you. Most of the times they get sick of you or just don't need you anymore, that's why they stop writing.

You could be right. I don't really want to believe that tbh, but I guess people are like that as well. Tho, there could be reasons behind that as well sometimes.

Now that is an interesting subject. I think i started to write to people online back in 2010, or even before, when there was ICQ and such "talking softwares", and i literary talked to hundreds of people. If we got some kind of connection i would say there are 3 main reasons to stop writing:

1. Getting repetitive - i mean no matter how interesting it can get in time it gets repetitive and boring and either i or he/she will stop writing, real life makes things interesting, mutual experiences, so for me just writing online is limited to time, sometimes it lasts longer, sometimes shorter, yet it will end sooner or later

2. Getting too personal - in time some people can develop feelings, i am not looking for anything romantic online, so when it happens i will stop writing

3. Lack of intensity - i dont expect super intensity in writing, but when i get one message per month that is like too little to be entertained to me and i usually forget that one exists, so i just lose interest. For sure its nothing personal, some people dont have time or inspiration. Sometimes its just goes, sometimes not.

Now that is an interesting subject. I think i started to write to people online back in 2010, or even before, when there was ICQ and such "talking softwares", and i literary talked to hundreds of people. If we got some kind of connection i would say there are 3 main reasons to stop writing:

1. Getting repetitive - i mean no matter how interesting it can get in time it gets repetitive and boring and either i or he/she will stop writing, real life makes things interesting, mutual experiences, so for me just writing online is limited to time, sometimes it lasts longer, sometimes shorter, yet it will end sooner or later

2. Getting too personal - in time some people can develop feelings, i am not looking for anything romantic online, so when it happens i will stop writing

3. Lack of intensity - i dont expect super intensity in writing, but when i get one message per month that is like too little to be entertained to me and i usually forget that one exists, so i just lose interest. For sure its nothing personal, some people dont have time or inspiration. Sometimes its just goes, sometimes not.

@Ogi76 im totally agree with 2

I did with people who were being silly. For example asking if im gay, if i say im not they ask me to be gay, i say if this conversation goes on like this, ill delete it, and possible also block you, they just go on, they even send a friend request. Very annoying.

But this isnt already in stage of a penfriendship, maybe more in the "get to know Phase"

you're right! i dont call asking someone to become gay a penfriendship no more!

But this isnt already in stage of a penfriendship, maybe more in the "get to know Phase"

I once immediately stopped after the first letter because they (American) wrote about themselves in the third person. That actually scared me.

I also stop(ped) when people use me as their, what I call "emotional waste basket" - because that's how I feel. If they write pages and pages about themselves and their problems, and severe problems, giving details I would not write about and do not wish to hear about. To me, mindfulness is important, and since they started writing that way from the second letter, I could not see those potential pen friendships continue.

I do/did prison penpalling but havent heard from many since the rona

whats "rona"? co"rona"?

I do/did prison penpalling but havent heard from many since the rona

@LandRoverDiscovery2 yep

ok

@LandRoverDiscovery2 yep

I do/did prison penpalling but havent heard from many since the rona

I do that to @Ilexforest

@Fleurke havent heard from them since rona though

Now i do penpalling and also wanna find someone to sing kids songs with someday (my biggest wish)

I almost never take the initiative to write letters to others. Since I need to use a VPN to access the outside world, my internet situation makes it hard for me to keep long-term connections. I fear that one day, when my VPN stops working, or if I decide to stop paying for it, the friends who chose to be with me would be left with the sorrow of farewell.

I would suggest that you get the mail address or at least one other social media contact to stay in contact

I would suggest that you get the mail address or at least one other social media contact to stay in contact

Thank you for your advice.🤠🤠