Did you ever stop writing to somebody? What was the reason?

yeah some ppl

Why?

yes and even blocked against my principles. because after days of having fun in-depth conversations it suddenly started to feel like I was becoming that person's property. asking why you were online, why you talk to other people. I wasn't afraid but it feels strange how people try to dominate someone

That's because that person has separation anxiety. They feel like you're going to leave them if you don't respond quickly or have stronger bonds with other people. So they tend to claim you, because they're afraid to loose you. Past trauma and experiences led to them having that kind of anxiety.

That's because that person has separation anxiety. They feel like you're going to leave them if you don't respond quickly or have stronger bonds with other people. So they tend to claim you, because they're afraid to loose you. Past trauma and experiences led to them having that kind of anxiety.

I know people who have separation anxiety with close friends and family, but they don't 'claim' them. And I've seen people who 'claim' others without any anxiety. So you're right that separation anxiety plays a part in this, but you're also wrong since it's not BECAUSE of that that some people do that. There are just people who don't care how others feel as long as they get what they want.

I know people who have separation anxiety with close friends and family, but they don't 'claim' them. And I've seen people who 'claim' others without any anxiety. So you're right that separation anxiety plays a part in this, but you're also wrong since it's not BECAUSE of that that some people do that. There are just people who don't care how others feel as long as they get what they want.

I don't agree. Close friends and family aren't likely to leave you, as they know the worst parts of you already and still stay around you. Most people with separation anxiety don't even know they have such anxiety, as they don't want to do an inner search for their feelings and ignore them. I don't believe people really want to hurt each other without there being a deeper level of fear.

I don't agree. Close friends and family aren't likely to leave you, as they know the worst parts of you already and still stay around you. Most people with separation anxiety don't even know they have such anxiety, as they don't want to do an inner search for their feelings and ignore them. I don't believe people really want to hurt each other without there being a deeper level of fear.

Also @Fleurke, you can react with such an emoji, but separation anxiety really leads to such bad unconscious behaviour.

I have a question? Do you know my life? Do you know what my life was like? I didn't post this emo with a bad intention. I'm not going to tell you why I'm posting this emo, I can only say if you want to be in my entire life line that I've already walked, then only then can we discuss about an emo

No need to be so defensive. I'm just giving an insight of a possible cause for people to act a certain way. It's supposed to help understand people better, not attacking strangers on the internet.

I don't agree. Close friends and family aren't likely to leave you, as they know the worst parts of you already and still stay around you. Most people with separation anxiety don't even know they have such anxiety, as they don't want to do an inner search for their feelings and ignore them. I don't believe people really want to hurt each other without there being a deeper level of fear.

Sorry, but the reality is that many people just suck and don't give a hoot of others, diseases or other mental disorders only represent a very low percentage of the reasons they stop talking or writing with you. Most of the times they get sick of you or just don't need you anymore, that's why they stop writing.

Im not minding the argue.
But… ahah i think i have separation anxiety, if its like what u said🙄😅😔
And i think every problem i have in friendships comes from that.

Big hugh from me to you you are just like a son to me

Big hugh from me to you you are just like a son to me

Parsa is my adopted son😂😁

Sorry, but the reality is that many people just suck and don't give a hoot of others, diseases or other mental disorders only represent a very low percentage of the reasons they stop talking or writing with you. Most of the times they get sick of you or just don't need you anymore, that's why they stop writing.

You could be right. I don't really want to believe that tbh, but I guess people are like that as well. Tho, there could be reasons behind that as well sometimes.

Now that is an interesting subject. I think i started to write to people online back in 2010, or even before, when there was ICQ and such "talking softwares", and i literary talked to hundreds of people. If we got some kind of connection i would say there are 3 main reasons to stop writing:

1. Getting repetitive - i mean no matter how interesting it can get in time it gets repetitive and boring and either i or he/she will stop writing, real life makes things interesting, mutual experiences, so for me just writing online is limited to time, sometimes it lasts longer, sometimes shorter, yet it will end sooner or later

2. Getting too personal - in time some people can develop feelings, i am not looking for anything romantic online, so when it happens i will stop writing

3. Lack of intensity - i dont expect super intensity in writing, but when i get one message per month that is like too little to be entertained to me and i usually forget that one exists, so i just lose interest. For sure its nothing personal, some people dont have time or inspiration. Sometimes its just goes, sometimes not.

Now that is an interesting subject. I think i started to write to people online back in 2010, or even before, when there was ICQ and such "talking softwares", and i literary talked to hundreds of people. If we got some kind of connection i would say there are 3 main reasons to stop writing:

1. Getting repetitive - i mean no matter how interesting it can get in time it gets repetitive and boring and either i or he/she will stop writing, real life makes things interesting, mutual experiences, so for me just writing online is limited to time, sometimes it lasts longer, sometimes shorter, yet it will end sooner or later

2. Getting too personal - in time some people can develop feelings, i am not looking for anything romantic online, so when it happens i will stop writing

3. Lack of intensity - i dont expect super intensity in writing, but when i get one message per month that is like too little to be entertained to me and i usually forget that one exists, so i just lose interest. For sure its nothing personal, some people dont have time or inspiration. Sometimes its just goes, sometimes not.

@Ogi76 im totally agree with 2

But this isnt already in stage of a penfriendship, maybe more in the "get to know Phase"

I once immediately stopped after the first letter because they (American) wrote about themselves in the third person. That actually scared me.

I also stop(ped) when people use me as their, what I call "emotional waste basket" - because that's how I feel. If they write pages and pages about themselves and their problems, and severe problems, giving details I would not write about and do not wish to hear about. To me, mindfulness is important, and since they started writing that way from the second letter, I could not see those potential pen friendships continue.

I do/did prison penpalling but havent heard from many since the rona

I do that to @Ilexforest

I almost never take the initiative to write letters to others. Since I need to use a VPN to access the outside world, my internet situation makes it hard for me to keep long-term connections. I fear that one day, when my VPN stops working, or if I decide to stop paying for it, the friends who chose to be with me would be left with the sorrow of farewell.

I would suggest that you get the mail address or at least one other social media contact to stay in contact

I would suggest that you get the mail address or at least one other social media contact to stay in contact

Thank you for your advice.🤠🤠