Did you ever stop writing to somebody? What was the reason?

Did you inform your opponent that you won´t write back anymore or did you just "ghost" him/her ?

I think ghosting is one of the meanfulest actions you can do with somebody - let people alone with the reason and just don´t care anymore isn´t that nice.

Last time I had a penpal we grew apart over the years though we became penpal after signing up for it through the Briogirl Focus on the Family Christian penpal magazines penpal program. We just didn't have much in common as she was a cheerleader from Eugene Oregon and I loved anime and more.

Like I want a friend/penpal who will keep in touch and not ghost me or whatever. I've been ghosted before and its not a good thing. I have autism and social anxiety so I have a hard time making friends and talking to people irl. The longest penpal relationship I've had will be 20 years next year in June cuz that's how long I have been penpals with my best friend.

there are my 3 reasons:
1. i don't want me to get to deep and turns romantically or disappointed or hurt even more
2. they are... hmmm, well, its them who talks or ask for weird stuff
3. and this is the the most not so serious reason, sometimes i ran cause their aura/charms way too strong, cant hold the shine! ☀️🌡️ (yet i won't admit even a bit, and yet there's principle that i must keep)

When I made a profile here, and other places, I thought I'd never be a person to just stop replying. I feel bad when I stop, well not always but often. When they ask weird questions, just answer boringly (ok, lol, etc) and the conversation is just the same crap over and over again. Or a particular situation, a girl was "jealous" or whatever that I had a friend from the same country as her, no matter what we were talking about she'd always start saying stuff like "Do you like her more", and "i'm sad 'cause you have another bestfriend". Only because she was from the same country too, like I had lots of friends from other countries as well, she didn't care about those.... but anyway usually its not me but the other person who stops replying....

yes and even blocked against my principles. because after days of having fun in-depth conversations it suddenly started to feel like I was becoming that person's property. asking why you were online, why you talk to other people. I wasn't afraid but it feels strange how people try to dominate someone

I think mostly people start to think about the reasons when its done. Maybe those are too deep in their own world and or try to compensate something with it.

yeah some ppl

yeah some ppl

Why?

That doesnt matter 😉 private problems but we keep in touch with some and talk really rarely

yes and even blocked against my principles. because after days of having fun in-depth conversations it suddenly started to feel like I was becoming that person's property. asking why you were online, why you talk to other people. I wasn't afraid but it feels strange how people try to dominate someone

That's because that person has separation anxiety. They feel like you're going to leave them if you don't respond quickly or have stronger bonds with other people. So they tend to claim you, because they're afraid to loose you. Past trauma and experiences led to them having that kind of anxiety.

That's because that person has separation anxiety. They feel like you're going to leave them if you don't respond quickly or have stronger bonds with other people. So they tend to claim you, because they're afraid to loose you. Past trauma and experiences led to them having that kind of anxiety.

I know people who have separation anxiety with close friends and family, but they don't 'claim' them. And I've seen people who 'claim' others without any anxiety. So you're right that separation anxiety plays a part in this, but you're also wrong since it's not BECAUSE of that that some people do that. There are just people who don't care how others feel as long as they get what they want.

I know people who have separation anxiety with close friends and family, but they don't 'claim' them. And I've seen people who 'claim' others without any anxiety. So you're right that separation anxiety plays a part in this, but you're also wrong since it's not BECAUSE of that that some people do that. There are just people who don't care how others feel as long as they get what they want.

I don't agree. Close friends and family aren't likely to leave you, as they know the worst parts of you already and still stay around you. Most people with separation anxiety don't even know they have such anxiety, as they don't want to do an inner search for their feelings and ignore them. I don't believe people really want to hurt each other without there being a deeper level of fear.

I don't agree. Close friends and family aren't likely to leave you, as they know the worst parts of you already and still stay around you. Most people with separation anxiety don't even know they have such anxiety, as they don't want to do an inner search for their feelings and ignore them. I don't believe people really want to hurt each other without there being a deeper level of fear.

Also @Fleurke, you can react with such an emoji, but separation anxiety really leads to such bad unconscious behaviour.

I have a question? Do you know my life? Do you know what my life was like? I didn't post this emo with a bad intention. I'm not going to tell you why I'm posting this emo, I can only say if you want to be in my entire life line that I've already walked, then only then can we discuss about an emo

No need to be so defensive. I'm just giving an insight of a possible cause for people to act a certain way. It's supposed to help understand people better, not attacking strangers on the internet.

I don't agree. Close friends and family aren't likely to leave you, as they know the worst parts of you already and still stay around you. Most people with separation anxiety don't even know they have such anxiety, as they don't want to do an inner search for their feelings and ignore them. I don't believe people really want to hurt each other without there being a deeper level of fear.

Sorry, but the reality is that many people just suck and don't give a hoot of others, diseases or other mental disorders only represent a very low percentage of the reasons they stop talking or writing with you. Most of the times they get sick of you or just don't need you anymore, that's why they stop writing.

Im not minding the argue.
But… ahah i think i have separation anxiety, if its like what u said🙄😅😔
And i think every problem i have in friendships comes from that.

Big hugh from me to you you are just like a son to me

Big hugh from me to you you are just like a son to me

Parsa is my adopted son😂😁

Sorry, but the reality is that many people just suck and don't give a hoot of others, diseases or other mental disorders only represent a very low percentage of the reasons they stop talking or writing with you. Most of the times they get sick of you or just don't need you anymore, that's why they stop writing.

You could be right. I don't really want to believe that tbh, but I guess people are like that as well. Tho, there could be reasons behind that as well sometimes.