Your lovestorys

Hey - Some minutes ago, I saw a discussion by @Yue_ about dating and since I've had a couple of relationships in the last three years, I was curios what you could tell me about your lovestory(s) that came to an end. How long was it, were you happy, what happened?

This is a nice forum @Colin_Der_Backfisch and i actually also want to read what people write. But i cant write anything yet i am sorry bc my love stories are like a fridge!!!!!!

BUTTT maybe for example @mayuuram, @Idkbro, @diogenes_cask, @H_E_A_R_T, @Annika2007, @martutuni, @alewashere, @Txya and others who read this forum can tell stories. I hope that some people will do that!! 🙂

my love story was a spanish girl i met on penpalworld. I said the wrong things, so she blocked me, without responding. I messed it up totally. Thats all im gonna say: i wanted to forget about her, put my mind on other things.

This is a nice forum @Colin_Germany and i actually also want to read what people write. But i cant write anything yet i am sorry bc my love stories are like a fridge!!!!!!

BUTTT maybe for example @mayuuram, @Idkbro, @diogenes_cask, @H_E_A_R_T, @Annika2007, @martutuni, @alewashere and others who read this forum can tell stories. I hope that some people will do that!! 🙂

Yknooooo, It would be very long to tell my love story until I finally met my boyfriend, because I have gone through the innocent, naive, stupid, ironic, but funny teenager phases 🤣

Yknooooo, It would be very long to tell my love story until I finally met my boyfriend, because I have gone through the innocent, naive, stupid, ironic, but funny teenager phases 🤣

Nooo you mean stylish, nice, fun, good, stressyy, relaxing, sleepy and super cool phases so you can give the good tips!!!! So when you have NOTHINGGGG to do than you can tell EVERYTHING!!!! 😃

my love story was a spanish girl i met on penpalworld. I said the wrong things, so she blocked me, without responding. I messed it up totally. Thats all im gonna say: i wanted to forget about her, put my mind on other things.

Thanks for sharing!

I'm taught that a true gentleman's heart should work like a safe box. Therefore I can't tell too much of details but I can try to summarize it. My cumulative experience in love is that Eros is the worst shooter of all the times, I'm full of broken arrows but none at my heart. 🙂

Nooo you mean stylish, nice, fun, good, stressyy, relaxing, sleepy and super cool phases so you can give the good tips!!!! So when you have NOTHINGGGG to do than you can tell EVERYTHING!!!! 😃

haha, it's ok yue, i admit in past imma kinda naive. but things has changed when i get older.

your welcome 🙂

Thanks for sharing!

I will share you my first love story . He was a boy 17 and me also 17. If met him in another village where im going to school. We never kissed but he always chasing after me when we go out our at the busstation . He was maddly in love with le and me also had butterflies when i saw him . I evening i was sitting with a friend who told me please y. He is so in love with you i becomming really red hhhh . He was sitting also with me and we holding hands all night but sadly i was scared to beginning a relationship because he was badboy but i always think about him 😊

I will share you my first love story . He was a boy 17 and me also 17. If met him in another village where im going to school. We never kissed but he always chasing after me when we go out our at the busstation . He was maddly in love with le and me also had butterflies when i saw him . I evening i was sitting with a friend who told me please y. He is so in love with you i becomming really red hhhh . He was sitting also with me and we holding hands all night but sadly i was scared to beginning a relationship because he was badboy but i always think about him 😊

This is so cute 🥰🫠☀️

I'm taught that a true gentleman's heart should work like a safe box. Therefore I can't tell too much of details but I can try to summarize it. My cumulative experience in love is that Eros is the worst shooter of all the times, I'm full of broken arrows but none at my heart. 🙂

This is really beautiful BUTTT i hope the next arrow does NOTT break and you can tell us nice stories on this forum. 😇😇

This is so cute 🥰🫠☀️

I agree too!!! Super nice story @Fleurke!!!! 🥰🥰❤️

And what about you @Colin_Der_Backfisch?? Maybe you can also tell smt about YOUR love stories to us? 😃

I will share you my first love story . He was a boy 17 and me also 17. If met him in another village where im going to school. We never kissed but he always chasing after me when we go out our at the busstation . He was maddly in love with le and me also had butterflies when i saw him . I evening i was sitting with a friend who told me please y. He is so in love with you i becomming really red hhhh . He was sitting also with me and we holding hands all night but sadly i was scared to beginning a relationship because he was badboy but i always think about him 😊

Awww

That reminds me of the song 'Never love an anchor' from the Crane Wives. I'm not sure why, but I don't mind because I love that song.

Here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kkrYVWncJ5U

This is really beautiful BUTTT i hope the next arrow does NOTT break and you can tell us nice stories on this forum. 😇😇

I agree too!!! Super nice story @Fleurke!!!! 🥰🥰❤️

And what about you @Colin_Germany?? Maybe you can also tell smt about YOUR love stories to us? 😃

Alright. Here it comes:

I'll start at the very beginning. For explanation, idk how your school system works, in Germany it's 1st to 4th grade in the age of 6 to 10. Then you can choose between types of schools. The type I choose was from 5th to 13th grade, from 11 years to the age of 18.

So, in 5th grade, right after I finished my first school, there was a girl. I really liked her. And by now, I wouldn't consider it real love. But for what I knew back then of love, it definitely was. She was so important to me, and as I said, I really liked her. She was nice, kind of shy, funny, and very beautiful. I told her I had feelings for her. And unfortunately, she said she liked me. But just as a friend. So we became friends. Very good friends. And I got friendzoned really hard. But it didn't matter to me because I got to see her everyday in school. And she liked me. Just as a friend, but that didn't really matter. In 7th grade, we had a class trip. Right at the end of the year, because I'm 8th grade, we would be mixed and put together in new classes, so it would fit better with the different courses we chose. While being on that trip, I saw her holding hands with another boy. And it really hit me. Hardly. I mean we were just friends, she never told me she would feel romantic bonding or whatever, but I thought that she could've told me at least. So I did not talk to her until the end of 7th class. This period of time was around 2 weeks after the trip I think. And then the class was getting mixed. We were in separate classes, and had no contact. Even though we did not got together, I can say I was truly in love, because even now it still affects me.

In 8th class, I attended a camp. For children in the Netherlands. It was great and I enjoyed it. I think it was for 10 days or something like that. It was organized by our town, and so there were a few children I already knew. Like one girl, in the 8th class as well. From the same school. We were in the same group and always hung out together during the camp. After the camp was over, I invited the group to my house, we had a good time, celebrated birthdays together and so on. And I got attached to that one specific girl really fast. 3-4 months later we admired we had feelings for each other. We were together for 8 months, which was pretty unusual, considering our age. I really enjoyed the time, but I really did not enjoy with our breakup. It was her decision and I didn't even know why. Until I saw her - exactly two days later - with another boy (I knew him well, he knew we had a relationship) in town, kissing. So I assumed she was cheating on me, because normally you get to know one and kiss him within two days. But anyways, it really broke my heart. Once again. But this time, I was in a relationship. She was my first relationship and I really enjoyed the relationship itself, but afterwards I realized, she didn't do me good in any way. So by now I'm glad, it's over, even though I was happy during the relationship.

Some weeks later: I attended the same camp. Our friends knew about the breakup and she was there as well, it completely ruined my mental state. I felt like it was my fault because I was our friends struggling with who to believe and who to hang out with (she still tells lies about me). Anyways, I had some friend who believed me and as the camp passed over, we grew together. And after the camp one of the girls I became friends with supported me and I always told her about what my ex told other people in school, and she didn't cheated only on me, even on the guy with who she cheated with on me and so on. We gossiped a lot. And so it happened:

My second relationship. It didn't last long. It was good, and I enjoyed all the moments we had together. I really did. But I realized we went too close. I was still kind of "traumatized" by my ex and as time passed, I knew, we shouldn't be more than friends. So I told her. And she completely understood. I was really afraid of breaking her heart, but she understood completely. We had a relationship for around 3 months. And we still chat. Not that much, but we're still good. I'll meet her next time we'll attend the camp as well. Already looking forward to it.

Short recap: The girl from 5th class. When the classes got mixed, we went separate ways. But as time passed by, our group chat got active again. It was a chat between me, her and a group of friends, we went to eat pizza after school with. By the end of 8.th class we all had some video calls together and it began to be more. More chats, more talks, more calls. And our calls were always about 4 hours or more. And then, by midnight, most of them went to bet. So there we were left. She and me. Just the both of us. And since we've started in the group again, we started to talk in private. Sometimes those calls went from midnight to the next morning (6 am) with just the two of us talking. Also, I found out that she never really "betrayed" me. Holding hands with the boy was just a joke. I didn't knew it, so I obviously misinterpreted it. She told me and we started to laugh about it. We began to be better friends than we ever were. And when I ended my 2. relationship, she was there for me. And of course, some months later, we got together.

But it was not like any other relationship. It was way better. I mean, I seemed to never really have stopped loving her. From 5th grade to 10th grade (The relationship started 3 months ago and I'm still in 10th grade). It felt crazy. All those emotions and my memorys from the time earlier came back and made my feelings more intense. It was like being high i guess, haha. But it was really, really good. I never really had a very good relationship to my parents, and her family just "adopted" me. The mother, the father, the sister. I loved all of them. I really felt like home. Everytime I just entered her house. The feeling of being home, I never had when really being at home. And I loved her even more. For making me feel this way. And everything about her. I was the happiest person alive. But then, she split up. All of a sudden. She was acting weird before, but I never thought she was considering a breakup. So I was shocked. She told me it was too much for her. She had way too much stress. With her family, her friend, school, her hobbies, and then - me. She told me it would just be the wrong time. During that talk I just sat down and stared to the ground. It was like my life was over. I guess this is what a real heartbreak feels like. She was gone. My home was gone. Her family, the people around her, who made me feel loved as well for the first time, were gone. Everything I had - was gone. This relationship was the shortest. It was around 2 months, but clearly it was the best. Definitely. It wasn't toxic, like the first one, it felt right, not like my second one and it was special. It was everything I had and it still feels that way. I'd say I got over it, but I did not get over the way she made me feel. And what makes my thoughts go wild the most is that I don't know how it will continue to be. The breakup was more than an month ago, but already in two months the class will be mixed again. We tried to stay friends. But it's weird. It's not her fault, and I guess it's not mine either. But it just doesn't seem to work and it's eating me alive. I know I will continue to love her. Just like I did from 7th grade to 10th, when we were "strangers" or "friends". But I don't know in what extent. Maybe will stay friends. Maybe I'll get over her. Maybe, we'll get back together. I don't know. But I know, I will always love her.

What I learned:

I don't like the way I fall in love. It feels like it's was to fast. Even though it feels right every single time I regret it and I wish I could change it. But I can't.

My current love life:

So, right now, I'm single. But just as it was before, I knew something will be off. When my first relation was over, I found someone to talk to about it, and then we got together. Same with my second relationship and the beginning of my third one. So some weeks ago, after the last breakup, I risked to tell a friend. And I knew, what would come. So I tried to not fall in love with her. And it really worked pretty well. But unfortunately, she fell in love with me. It seems to be a curse. I fall in love way to fast.

Something else about my current situation: I don't know how I feel about relationships. The sister of the girl who fell in love with me a couple of weeks ago, told me, she had a crush on we as well (both were attending the same camp) and she said I'm someone one could easily fall in love with. I felt happy to hear but I decided to find out. I told another girl, who I had a small crush on that I liked her some months ago and she told me the same. And another time I did, with another girl I had a Crush on. And she responded the same way. So I don'tknkw what to do. I promised to myself I would continue to try to be happy while being single, and it works pretty well right now. But my last girlfriend still is on my mind. I don't know what's coming. And I know I never will. But I try to make the best out of it and right now, it works pretty well.

I'm sorry I wrote such a long text, I know, some of you don't mind, but as you can see this issue really is important to me right now, that's why I made this forum HAHA

Thanks for reading🤝😌

Awww

That reminds me of the song 'Never love an anchor' from the Crane Wives. I'm not sure why, but I don't mind because I love that song.

Here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kkrYVWncJ

Nice song i never heard it thank you @Miss_Penpal

Alright. Here it comes:

I almost went to sleep bc it is super late now but i read EVERYTHING that you wrote!!!!! And now i dont really now exactly what i must feel and write bc i think now several things at the same time. So it scares me too. I really mean that like if you are hurt so much from a relationship!!!!! And if it happens several times i think i am like broken glass how i would feel!! And i am also really sorry that you had so much pain from everything. BUTTTT you are only 1 year older than me but i didnt even have ONEE relationship and it feels like you are a LOTTT more what you know about it. And that is also good for you but also you feel pain. So it is very double. I hope that you understand what i mean.

I could not stop reading what you wrote but i felt very painfully too what you felt. At least it hit a lot. And i dont know if i can do that like how you describe it. You said you continue things. But i dont think i can do that. And i am now very afraid that people hurt me in the same way too. It is very difficult the situation for you now. But i really hope that everything gets better for you too!!! 🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈

I almost went to sleep bc it is super late now but i read EVERYTHING that you wrote!!!!! And now i dont really now exactly what i must feel and write bc i think now several things at the same time. So it scares me too. I really mean that like if you are hurt so much from a relationship!!!!! And if it happens several times i think i am like broken glass how i would feel!! And i am also really sorry that you had so much pain from everything. BUTTTT you are only 1 year older than me but i didnt even have ONEE relationship and it feels like you are a LOTTT more what you know about it. And that is also good for you but also you feel pain. So it is very double. I hope that you understand what i mean.

I could not stop reading what you wrote but i felt very painfully too what you felt. At least it hit a lot. And i dont know if i can do that like how you describe it. You said you continue things. But i dont think i can do that. And i am now very afraid that people hurt me in the same way too. It is very difficult the situation for you now. But i really hope that everything gets better for you too!!! 🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈

Hey, thanks for the kind words. I'm not suffering as much as it might sound. Of course, broken hearts are not nice, and healing them isn't easy. It's a long and painful process; you have to learn to let go again and again. But as you said, there are good sides to it too. You'll learn from it. I think everyone reading this, who has been in at least one relationship, would agree with me when I say that you'll grow from it. You learn new things, you develop incredibly and you change your perspective on many things. So it's nothing to be afraid of. I'm not proud of my trait of falling in love too quickly, and I'd like to be able to change it, but since I can't and I'm grateful for every single experience, I've realized it's not worth thinking about it anymore. I know, it might sound crazy to be thankful for every experience, but I really am. For the good ones, obviously, but also for the bad ones, because I most likely won't have to go through them again. And please don't be afraid of relationships or that someone will hurt you. People hurt each other; that's normal. I can't promise you'll have a relationship where you won't get hurt, just as less as I can't say you would. And don't worry about the fact that I've had several and you haven't. As you can see, it hasn't worked for me even once, and even if it would've had, it wouldn't be meaningful. The only thing that matters to me are the impressions and experiences, and you'll gain them over time, regardless of whether you're in a relationship or not. Just go with the flow. Please don't force yourself into anything; it won't end well. Believe me, I've experienced that often enough in all kinds of situations.
So: don't worry about it until you have to. Whether you're in a relationship or not, you'll gain great experiences and develop further 🙂

I could not stop reading what you wrote but i felt very painfully too what you felt. At least it hit a lot. And i dont know if i can do that like how you describe it. You said you continue things. But i dont think i can do that. And i am now very afraid that people hurt me in the same way too. It is very difficult the situation for you now. But i really hope that everything gets better for you too!!! 🙏🙏🙏🌈🌈

Even if people end up hurting you, I think everything happens for a reason. And if you ever make up, it'll only strengthen the relationship. The most important people in your life are the ones you went to hell and came back with.