🥰🖼️ Interview with Mayuuram 🌺❤️ Everyday life and customs

Thank you very much for your answer @mayuuram and i like a lot what you write!! I am happy that in my family it is not like the dictator what you write like for example shouting or physical abuse or anything like that at all. If people would shout to me i always freeze like an ice cube and dont know what to do very well. But my parents are not like that at all. Also my dad is not like that. He is very kind but if he says something you have to do that really!!! But that is not a problem and he only says that if he thinks that is appropriate or that it is good for me or the family. So he does not abuse that at all.

But he does sometimes find difficult to say some things and it would be VERY strange like cuddle a lot or saying things because he has different way about that. So for example when i got hurt with a bike accident some time ago he does not hug a lot but he went to a shop and bought two boxes of strawberries because he knows i like that a lot. And that is his way to give you support and that he loves you. 🥰🥰 But my mom and aunt are very different about that and they give hugs or say things more directly in a nice way. And i like both ways. I hope that is the same for you!!! 🌈❤️🌈

oh yes, every parent has it way to show their love, there is no perfect parent, sometimes they make mistake too, cause being a parent are never been easy, especially it's their first time, It's as if they are still trying to find out what parenting style suits their child.
but if it bother you or you wanna know something, you can take initiate first. but first talk to your mom to back up you haha

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16: What is your biggest dream for the future?

My biggest dreams are having a small harmonious and warm family with me and my partner as a cool parent. both of us working from home so our kid never feel lonely or feel the loss of parental role.

17: If you would live in a different time and in a different place, what would you choose and why?

Living in different time and place eh? well i already feel elated & embrace my current life haha so i choose to stay.

18: If you marry in the future with somebody, how does that work in Indonesia? Can you choose that or the parents and is there a special Indonesian wedding dress in white or a different colour?

You ask such a nice question. usually, Indonesian wedding, like the decoration, theme, outfit, etc chosen by mutual agreement between the bride and groom and the family. but again it comes back to the condition of the family. If the family contributes more to the wedding capital than the bride and groom, usually they seem to have the power to determine the decoration, theme and outfit. Especially if the parents have an annoying nature and often control. However, if the parents are wise, usually everything is left entirely to the bride and groom. However, usually to respect the family, two concepts are usually used, one traditional concept and one modern concept. Let's say, my boyfriend's family is Minang, more or less my wedding will be grand like this https://pin.it/5ErGFrRMG 

19: Do you want children in the future and if yes how many? What is the most important lesson that you want to teach your children?

Hmmmm children. maybe maximum 2. because having a child in my opinion requires a lot of time, capital, and energy. especially when educating children, each phase of a child's life has a different way and approach. like when they are babies - toddlers, let's say the child still doesn't fully understand every sentence and teaching that we give, so at that stage it is the parents who are trying harder to understand and to maintain attitude. because the age phase of 0-3 is a phase where the child imitates adults more about what humans should be like, including speaking style, behavior, etc. and then, the older the child, the more assertive the parents should be, but still show that their parents' attitude is because they love their child and want him to be the best person. That is why, according to psychologists, assertive parenting style is a parenting style that has a very positive impact on the child.

and if i have children, it's simple, i just want to teach them how to be human. because there are still many people who don't act like humans, still practice the law of the jungle, bullying, harassing people, committing sexual violence, etc. would a normal human being with self-control act like that? no..

20: You wrote a very nice forum about the line!! I will add the link here: https://penpal-gate.net/forum/13-anything-and-everything/9978-the-line ! Will you write new forums in the future? And can we ask more questions in the future in this forum or make a new part in this interview when we think of new questions? 😛

Actually i still don't know, but it's possible 🤣 and yes, you can ask me anything and anytime, My door is wide open for you and for anyone who wants to ask, feel free!

Thank you very much @mayuuram for the interview so far!!!! But i hope that all the interviews in the forum will get new parts because i think that would be very interesting!! 😃