🥰🖼️ Interview with Mayuuram 🌺❤️

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Sorry, I am going to go back a ways, I hope that is alright.... I am American. I am from the liberal hub to end all liberal hubs, Boston, on the North East Coast. You say that liberal Americans, surprise you, and you don't know quite what to make of them.... Are they really that open? Then you check the things they say with other Americans. Interesting method there. A lot over here, depends on what part of the country you are from. When you ask if we are really that open... I am just curious about the issues you are discussing with them and where they are from? Please don't take my questions as judgement. I am just seeking a better understanding. On what issues is your culture different from liberal americanism?

ofcourse, in Indonesia, there are still those who adopt to Eastern culture where the majority of its people are very strict with religious law (87% moslem) which also mixed up with patriarchal system and the diverse culture. which i think some of people here got mixed up with this and that (i'm reffering to urban people who move to jakarta). although I feel that as a citizen who live in Jakarta (Indo), the original jakarta people (who is not an urban) itself imo are already open minded, but it turns out there are those who are more open minded. Jakarta itself is the city center of this country, so its industrial movement is very fast.

In this interview, i'm not saying that American is bad of course. liberal here is more about me seeing how an American is given more options and for me with openness of mind people are more open to wider options and with more opportunities/chance/experiences. which not like here (Indo). which I think is why America can advance to become a developed country. They do not have very strict limitations like here (Indonesia), which for some people in Jakarta dream of a life full of options, full of freedom like in America.

and During my time with my friends who are Americans, I saw that there is a side of America that is similar to Jakarta (I mean the citizen similar, both are individualistic, independent, but the difference is only in the number of options/opportunities as I said before) that is why people here (indo), if they feel too tied down by limitations, will run to America.

hope my words in the interview not misinterpreted, if it yes, then i'm sorry

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Thank you for the response. I appreciate it. 🙂 No your words were not misinterpreted at all. But I want to say something to you about the USA... The choices we have here or that you think we have here much of it is false. Much of it is based on gender and much of it is largely and practically only available to the extremely wealthy. Being an American woman is not without it's headaches. For example when I hire a contractor I pay a large fortune more. They over charge me because I am a woman. They don't listen to me and do whatever the hell they want. Then my Finnish husband doesn't understand why the project was so expensive and I must explain it is because I am a woman. He doesn't understand, that gender and cost can be linked here. Another great example would be what we call "the pink tax." A thing I refuse to pay on principle. But women are instructed to always be making themselves beautiful with various cosmetics that cost a fortune. Women's shaving cream for legs, costs far more than man's for face. It is the exact same thing and exact same amount. So women pay more. Men don't have to worry about their appearance in the same way. So they have a lot less cost. I would present to you, that cages can take many shapes. The American shape, puts the bars a step away. A little less directly visible. But they are still there at least for women. Much much much less so for men.

Thank you for the response. I appreciate it. 🙂 No your words were not misinterpreted at all. But I want to say something to you about the USA... The choices we have here or that you think we have here much of it is false. Much of it is based on gender and much of it is largely and practically only available to the extremely wealthy. Being an American woman is not without it's headaches. For example when I hire a contractor I pay a large fortune more. They over charge me because I am a woman. They don't listen to me and do whatever the hell they want. Then my Finnish husband doesn't understand why the project was so expensive and I must explain it is because I am a woman. He doesn't understand, that gender and cost can be linked here. Another great example would be what we call "the pink tax." A thing I refuse to pay on principle. But women are instructed to always be making themselves beautiful with various cosmetics that cost a fortune. Women's shaving cream for legs, costs far more than man's for face. It is the exact same thing and exact same amount. So women pay more. Men don't have to worry about their appearance in the same way. So they have a lot less cost. I would present to you, that cages can take many shapes. The American shape, puts the bars a step away. A little less directly visible. But they are still there at least for women. Much much much less so for men.

Thank you so much for sharing this with me. I truly appreciate your openness and the insight into the realities many women face in the U.S., especially the forms of inequality that still persist despite the image of freedom and choice. You're absolutely right, cages can take many shapes, and sometimes the ones we don't immediately see are the hardest to escape. honestly, i know the sad truth about america but i don't mention here cause i'm worry it might hurt or belittle someone else (since in this forum mainly not talking about america, so i don't talk a lot about america), plus i don't know if you are HPS or no, so i try my best not to offends you (since you directly reply me). And yes i agree that the pink tax is like oppressing woman to pay more, even though the products offered are actually the same to the men's version but the different only the color, like razors, pink razors (labeled specifically for women) are more expensive than men's razors. (while actually men razor also use paint to color the razor, blue or black with the same price, they had better quality tho). And about the pink tax itself also occurs here. there are several sides in America that are similar, because again social issues do not only occur locally, but also globally.

And aside from that, US itself always interesting to talk about, in my major, visual communication & design, in here we often discuss about issue that occurs in globally (including america), and I do hope the issue of inequality in America will improve, because a lot of Indonesian citizens (especially women) also support the equality campaign, because living in equality is everyone's right.

Ah ya, anyway which part of America are you from, Mrs?

Let me start by asking what HPS stands for? I am not familiar with this.... Whatever it is.
You would have to try pretty hard to offend me. I am not an easy one to offend. So please don't walk on eggshells.
Honesty, is an important thing. One should never curb their honesty not to offend. Though it might be prudent at times to consider how we speak truth and choose words with care.

I agree. Equality is a right. Here lately, things have been rolling back. They are discussing disenfranchising women who have taken their husband's name from having a right to vote. They have stripped freedom of choice about controlling one's own body from the majority of the country. Next they will be coming for our right to an independent bank account and our right to work outside the home. Women's rights are in terrible jeopardy as is independence for women. I fear soon we will be living in our father's homes until we are purchased for a biblical bag of silver and dragged off by our hair by a caveman to his home. It is really getting bad here for women lately.

I talked about my experience with contractors.... My husband didn't understand it at all. The whole thing shocked him. I asked him to deal with it but he said he was too busy and I told him it would cost 3 times as much if I dealt with it. he asked how that could be I responded I am female and that is how it goes with this industry when you are a woman. He didn't believe it. So, I proved it to him. he was horrified. You should have heard him curse a blue streak in his native language Finnish, when he got the bill. I just said, "see." I will never be dealing with contractors again. There are places in which women are far more equal than they are in this country even when this country is at it's best on this issue. In Scandinavia, there is nearly no pay discrepancy between men and women. Here, women make 30% less with same education doing the same job doing equal work and workload with equal success.

Ahh! YES! You understand perfectly about cages. Especially the ones hardest to escape in which the bars are hard to locate. Exactly.

You can call me Amanda. Mrs. or Ma'am, is my grandma. 🙂

I am from the North East Coast.... New England. I grew up 5 minutes from MIT and Harvard University, in the Boston area of Massachusetts. Today, I live on a small homestead farm in Central MA, between Boston and Worcester, perhaps a bit closer to Worcester, (Worcester is pronounced woos-tur woos oo as in book. tur as in turf) This area is known for it's insane names for stuff. And for stuff being pronounced differently than written. It drives visitors insane. Secretly I am horrible enough that watching them struggle amuses me. I live close to a road called Wattaquatuck. Try saying that 10 times fast.... Originally this region of MA was called Lancaster. Boston back then was called by it's native american name still, Shawmut.