I don't mind if older people write to me. What bothers me is when someone doesn't put their real age on their profile. I don't care about age, but I care about honesty, and lying about something like that doesn't leave a good impression on me.
I understand that sometimes you just get a vibe from someone and you KNOW you shouldn't trust that person, and that's totally fine. But if you feel that way toward all adults, I'm not sure what to tell you except than change your availability settings.
I don't mind if older people write to me. What bothers me is when someone doesn't put their real age on their profile. I don't care about age, but I care about honesty, and lying about something like that doesn't leave a good impression on me.
I understand that sometimes you just get a vibe from someone and you KNOW you shouldn't trust that person, and that's totally fine. But if you feel that way toward all adults, I'm not sure what to tell you except than change your availability settings.
Totally understandeble 👍👍👍👌👌👌💪🤝
Hi, @Miss_Penpal! Thank you for answering on this forum 🤗 I also totally understand your point! Ofcourse, honesty is key. And I dont feel uncomfortable with every older person! It's just, sometimes I just kinda feel something is wrong when I chat with someone. And then I will try to stay chatting with that person, but it just feels kinda uncomfortable. And when I feel that way, then I just tell that person how I feel about chatting with him/her/it. Soooo thank you! 💞
I don't mind if older people write to me. What bothers me is when someone doesn't put their real age on their profile. I don't care about age, but I care about honesty, and lying about something like that doesn't leave a good impression on me.
That and the rise of not-so-subtle AI pictures. I haven't seen too many on here yet but it's bound to happen here and there
There are actually only 2 people here a knew they had not the right age on there profile: Micheal who allready left ppg, and @Alliatysia .
Hello frozenpizza,
I am much older than you, so allow me, to give you my opinion.
I think, you can be really proud of yourself, because you listening to your gutfeeling. If you feel uncomfortable, just stop communicate with this people.
Writing with penpals should be fun, not stressing you out. Or creeping you.
If you want to polite just tell them: Sorry, I cannot write with you anymore. - But you do not have to do this! You don't own anyone an explanation.
If the people still writing to you, just delete their posts without reading.
Everybody, but especially young people, have the right to decide, who you want to befriended with. You have the right to change your mind, even if you startet the correspondence.
It is so great, that you are able to talk about this.
Disclaimer: Old-woman-advice 😃 - Many brains are wiser, than one alone. You did good!
Hi @Nannica! ❤️ Thank you SO MUCH for chatting on this forum! And thank you for the tips, I will use them for next time! Andd I totally get you! I k own that alot of older people are really nice to me, and I am grateful for that 🤭 But there are some people who dont want to be that nice, and then I want to be polite so, like you said, then I just say that I dont feel comfortable to chat with them, so I archive the chats with them. Thank you again! 💞
Way i see it, anyone online can play a role one wants. Girl, boy, grandpa, grandma, 13, 54, 101. i cannot know and i dont wanna check. If i am amused by way someone thinks, writes i will go on with talking, if not i will end that talking. And for sure it functions other way too. For sure if i was a real teen i would set age limits, i mean back than when i was a teen last thing i got on mind was talking to old people. Now that i am old i really dont care anymore, i just wanna kill time when i got nothing else to do.
I don't think that this would be a conversation on equal terms. You may be a nice person, but unfortunately not everyone is like that.
An older person has much more experience. That can be good, but also very unhealthy.
What if the older one starts to manipulate? I believe that not every young person can see through that.
With that, I do not mean to belittle young people. They simply are not as experienced yet.
That's why I don't really think it's right to contact younger people.
Here in the public forum it's okay... but in a private chat? I think that's wrong.
I understand your feelings, frozenpizza001 but as Nannica said, this place is almost safe and if you can report something of really weird or bad, you can block anyway a person disturbing you also with no direct offense. There are a lot of good persons here, and some flesh hunters, as in all the social networks and in the "real" life. It's up to us to block and ban them.
i'm from india and creeps are everywhere here not those cool modern fellas but true creeps those do illegal things, and i dont have a very good experience with them when i was in school somethings happened to somethings which I cant say out loud, and on online i still afraid to use any kind of social media due to this
I think what everybody saying is interesting but also that here on PPG is not so big issue. Bc for example i only had one time that if was not safe but @Etienne already blocked that person. And everybody can decide the settings or block or report like for example @Jabmax said. And if adults dont write on the forum when we have super serious stuff or just funny forums i think that the forum would be almost like dead. And same with interviews for example and other things. So i think most feel really safe and if smt is wrong you can always say it. And almost everybody from the forum i also can chat with private and it is nice and super funny often!! 😛 😛
I think if you don't feel comfortable with someone you can stop talking with them. In real life, you don't have to force yourself to hang out with someone you don't like. It's the same online, you don't have to force yourself to chat with someone if you feel something's wrong.
But @Idkbro I think it's not safe to send pictures to people met online when the ask you to because you never what they're going to do with that picture (a selfie is enough for an AI to create an account on a site pretending it's human). And it's easy to modify a picture so even when they send you a selfie it may not be their real face.
I think if you don't feel comfortable with someone you can stop talking with them. In real life, you don't have to force yourself to hang out with someone you don't like. It's the same online, you don't have to force yourself to chat with someone if you feel something's wrong.
But @Idkbro I think it's not safe to send pictures to people met online when the ask you to because you never what they're going to do with that picture (a selfie is enough for an AI to create an account on a site pretending it's human). And it's easy to modify a picture so even when they send you a selfie it may not be their real face.
well no,it depends. it's safe with some friends that you know,but not with other people. there is no need to generalize i think
well no,it depends. it's safe with some friends that you know,but not with other people. there is no need to generalize i think
I think he's writing in general meanings. Your friends too, for joke maybe, or if someone steals their data, could be leak your personal pictures. Today I think we should be really careful with everything we let circulate online, even when it seems safe. They are some wise words by a old man online from 1996, but I know everyone needs to learn on its own skin.
i understand your concern @frozenpizza001 It's great that you already knows your boundaries and what you experience is a normal reaction as someone accidentally crossing your boundaries.
even me as an adult, i still experience some uncomfortable act from several guys in here, and always, the first thing they do is call me things like "beautiful girl" "honey" "darling" which i know they are trying to flirt, and always, it ends up they harass me or degraded me when i explained that i don't like and i feel uncomfortable. (some of guys couldn't stand of rejection which is so pathetic)
several guys also pro at manipulating conversations so that the conversation leads to 21+ which I don't really comfortable.
my tips, always stay alert and be careful, never give your number and never move to outside PPG to have convo. cause if they really see you as friend, they would choose to stay here and wouldn't force you to do something you don't want.
