✨The Line 👧🏻➖👨🏻✨

Hi Mayuuram,

my daughter was very prematurely. We talked a lot about that topic
and also watched some films together to raise awareness. As we know now (she is 24)
she had her experiences and I am glad that we can talk about it. Our relationship
is better than ever.

I like it a lot that I have the possibility to message people all over the world
and I was surprised that I had many contacts with members under 18.
I think it is easier when you are female. But I have not experienced anybody
under 18 who hit and crushed on me.
And again I think PPG is a pretty save place and I don`t have other social media access.

Best wishes for your research and I like your interest in sensitising.

Christine

I think it's a mistake to talk about a (clear) line between childhood and adulthood, while we already talk about adolescence, that the process is gradual, varies between 2 individuals and belongs, in the end, more to a spectrum that a real border. It sounds so complicated that no country really agree with each others...

Now, as others have said, I also think that Penpal-Gate is pretty ok. It sure is difficult to know what is happening for everyone, but from what I have seen, when there is a problem, the teenagers on the forum are the first to react and warn everyone that a user is not ok, resulting later in a ban and a safer place for everyone.
Because of that, I think teenagers here know their personal boundaries or at least what they should be warry of without the need for adults to be involved (with the exception of @Etienne who acts as a guardrail of course).

alright, thanks for your answer i really appreciate it ☺️✨

I also wanted to say one more thing. Actually two because i think it is really nice that @mayuuram made this forum because everybody can write their opinion about the topic. 🙂

What I wanted to say more is that i have chatted on the forum a lotttt and also private chats with adults too and almost everybody like for example @Pennarossa2024, @Simone724, @Lianshen, @Sabri_KC, @mabah and Lir_Elhan and of course @Etienne and also female adults like @HappyvomSee, @H_E_A_R_T and @Fleurke and people above who already wrote comments and so many more who are ALWAYS very respectful and kind for example if you have questions or if you mistakes they are VERY patient. That is very nice and important. And I feel always very safe about that. There is not even a single time that was different with my friends here who are now on PPG and in the past Michael too. I think it is important to also say that. 🙂 Only one time that was different but that person is not a member anymore. But the people here now i trust and are very good persons i think.

Now I have to sleep because it is SUPER LATE again!! 😛 😛 Good night everybody!!! 😴😴😴✨✨🌙🌙☄️☄️🪐🪐

yeppp i'm so glad to hear that then! @Yue_ yes i agree some of ppg member here are nice and respectful that's why i hang here. I'm here only wanna know just in case some of them have different opinion/perspective remember that there are so many members here ☺️

Hi Mayuuram,

my daughter was very prematurely. We talked a lot about that topic
and also watched some films together to raise awareness. As we know now (she is 24)
she had her experiences and I am glad that we can talk about it. Our relationship
is better than ever.

I like it a lot that I have the possibility to message people all over the world
and I was surprised that I had many contacts with members under 18.
I think it is easier when you are female. But I have not experienced anybody
under 18 who hit and crushed on me.
And again I think PPG is a pretty save place and I don`t have other social media access.

Best wishes for your research and I like your interest in sensitising.

Christine

thank you for such a heartwarming answer Christine! ☺️✨

If you're going to meet up with somebody you only know online, you should always at least tell one adult you trust. And don't do it if you haven't switched pictures, called, facetimed etc to make sure you don't meet up with a catfish.

This is very important I think. Even if you are an adult yourself, telling someone you trust about what you are doing, like meeting someone for the first time (or even taking a hike alone) can avoid so many problems.

I think we should not set boundaries between teenagers and adults, but if we feel uncomfortable or strange from the person we are talking to, we can move away calmly and gradually.

Sometimes there were people who would send me messages saying they wanted to get to know me and become friends. I didn't mind this even though I knew they were older than me, and then they would start talking in a strange way and talk about things that were bigger than my mind, and I would immediately block them, and this thing It happened to me more than once and they were all older than me, but to this day I don't mind being friends with people older than me because I'm sure that everyone is not bad.

Thankyou for your opinion @psysarah15, yes i agree the part of sayings that to make friends shouldn't be limit as long as both parties show respect to each other.

@H_E_A_R_T Christine you wrote a very beautiful answer but what do you mean with sensetizing? 🙄🙄 Sorry if that is a stupid question!! 😛

And I think @Lianshen is right that also for adult people it is important to be safe and maybe for all the adults that is more important. Because i dont date at all now so that is less dangerous and if others date it is different right than if adults date. So I think Lianshen is right that adults who have different dates have to be also very careful and be safe like for example telling others if they date.

With sensitising I meant that Mayuuram draws attention to this topic in this forum
and even plans to add it in her comic project.
Before my daughter made some experiences I was very naive with that.

Hello Fellow Penpals! 🙋🏻🙆🏻
I wonder do the young teenage know about The Boundaries Line between them and the Adult? 🤷🏻

I'm referring to the Boundaries that shouldn't be crossed and the boundaries that limiting, and protecting younger parties to unwanted things like Grooming, Pedophile, Sexual abuse or harassment, etc

For teenage (under 18), what do you think about it? do you think it's important or not? And what if you meet people who very attractive (but way older than you & above 18) catch your eyes, will you still stuck in the line? or you no longer mind it?

and for adult, what do you think about the boundaries? And how you deal with younger age (under 18) who hit & crush on you? what do you think of that phenomenal? do you think it's cute or does it make you scared/worried?

Since it's my first forum, i'm much looking forward for every point of view, perspective or if you have any thought or anything, feel free! ☺️✨

I think this is a very interesting forum, thank you for making it @mayuuram!
About the line, I believe it's very important to know about it and respect it. I don't know how to put my thoughts into words to answer your other question, but I'll still try my best. Just know it won't be very accurate because I have no idea how to put this...
I get crushes on pretty much any guy I find somewhat attractive (it's mostly fictional characters though, I don't really feel comfortable around real people, but there's still one or two real life guys in my past crushes), so of course I'll still respect the line, since my affection doesn't really last long. It's kind of like finding a cat cute, you don't adopt all the stray cats you see just because they're pretty.
I'm sorry, I really tried to find a way to put my thoughts into words, but I re-read what I wrote and it's only a fraction of what I think... Maybe I would be able to answer the question better if it wasn't so general, so if you want to ask questions to understand what I meant better feel free to do that.

I think you wrote it in a very nice way @Miss_Penpal and I like what you said and understand it. 🙂 And you are right about the cats 🙂 It will be too many and my dad would go crazy with 7821038128 stray cats 😛 😛

Hello Fellow Penpals! 🙋🏻🙆🏻
I wonder do the young teenage know about The Boundaries Line between them and the Adult? 🤷🏻

I'm referring to the Boundaries that shouldn't be crossed and the boundaries that limiting, and protecting younger parties to unwanted things like Grooming, Pedophile, Sexual abuse or harassment, etc

For teenage (under 18), what do you think about it? do you think it's important or not? And what if you meet people who very attractive (but way older than you & above 18) catch your eyes, will you still stuck in the line? or you no longer mind it?

and for adult, what do you think about the boundaries? And how you deal with younger age (under 18) who hit & crush on you? what do you think of that phenomenal? do you think it's cute or does it make you scared/worried?

Since it's my first forum, i'm much looking forward for every point of view, perspective or if you have any thought or anything, feel free! ☺️✨

I can understand teenagers' fascination with someone older than themselves. Let's be honest, every one of us was once that silly teenager ‘in love’ with some actor, singer or even their teacher. However, it is up to us, as adults, to explain and make young people aware of the consequences if they meet someone who unscrupulously takes advantage of such a teenager or child. After all, they are too young to understand the emotions they are experiencing or the way hormones work in their newly maturing bodies. So it is up to us, as adults, to help them to understand so that they do not make a mistake that could turn out to be a disaster. Mistakes are going to be made anyway, who among us doesn't make them and learn from them, but they should be the least severe mistakes possible.
So as much as I can understand this, I cannot understand adults who can look at teenagers or children through the prism of sexual attraction. How can someone look at a 5 year old girl and decide that she is an attractive and alluring woman that they would want in their bed???? Well how? This is just plain sick and we should protect the young from such people. The worst thing about it, unfortunately, is that we never know if suddenly someone we have known all our lives will turn out to be this kind of monster, who one day plays football with our child, and the next day molests him or her without any qualms of conscience, explaining that it was the child who seduced him or her. This is simply sick and incomprehensible.

I thought that the forum question was only about people on PPG that you chat with but if it is also for in real life it depends I think too because most of the time in a relationship a guy is older than you so that is also normal. And the most important thing is that you love each other and it is good and safe of course. 🥰🥰🩷🧡💛🧡❤️🩷💚🩵

With sensitising I meant that Mayuuram draws attention to this topic in this forum
and even plans to add it in her comic project.
Before my daughter made some experiences I was very naive with that.

well i'm just trying my best!

cause in my current research (for my thesis project), my main topic theme are about social issue, i got a lot of stories from people about their struggles, and yeah, some of us actually still living in confusion about lot of things, don't know how to ask for help, and the worst, they even don't realize about what they did.

and now i'm still working on this project and will be a long term one, with various topic about social issue. that's why i create this forum to know about people's experience & pov about this case 😊

I think you wrote it in a very nice way @Miss_Penpal and I like what you said and understand it. 🙂 And you are right about the cats 🙂 It will be too many and my dad would go crazy with 7821038128 stray cats 😛 😛

with that amount, @Yue_ can create a cat island 🤣

well i'm just trying my best!

cause in my current research (for my thesis project), my main topic theme are about social issue, i got a lot of stories from people about their struggles, and yeah, some of us actually still living in confusion about lot of things, don't know how to ask for help, and the worst, they even don't realize about what they did.

and now i'm still working on this project and will be a long term one, with various topic about social issue. that's why i create this forum to know about people's experience & pov about this case 😊

Their are so manny people who are scared to ask help they are ashamed. Its sad because asking help is so good

I can understand teenagers' fascination with someone older than themselves. Let's be honest, every one of us was once that silly teenager ‘in love’ with some actor, singer or even their teacher. However, it is up to us, as adults, to explain and make young people aware of the consequences if they meet someone who unscrupulously takes advantage of such a teenager or child. After all, they are too young to understand the emotions they are experiencing or the way hormones work in their newly maturing bodies. So it is up to us, as adults, to help them to understand so that they do not make a mistake that could turn out to be a disaster. Mistakes are going to be made anyway, who among us doesn't make them and learn from them, but they should be the least severe mistakes possible.
So as much as I can understand this, I cannot understand adults who can look at teenagers or children through the prism of sexual attraction. How can someone look at a 5 year old girl and decide that she is an attractive and alluring woman that they would want in their bed???? Well how? This is just plain sick and we should protect the young from such people. The worst thing about it, unfortunately, is that we never know if suddenly someone we have known all our lives will turn out to be this kind of monster, who one day plays football with our child, and the next day molests him or her without any qualms of conscience, explaining that it was the child who seduced him or her. This is simply sick and incomprehensible.

exactly! that's what i concern about.. especially for people under 17 who hangout with an adult. i mean, yea we cool to interact with everyone without minding their ages.. as long as both of parties know about the line that separate & protect them. but what if? what if we only assumed that they know about the line?

cause i worrying about the naive one, disclaimer, i never see them as a dummy, but more into, naive people tends to think that people are as positive as them and without realize it they are falling into a trap that they themselves are not aware of.

Their are so manny people who are scared to ask help they are ashamed. Its sad because asking help is so good

yeah it is. that's why visual communication (from comic, movies, illustration book, carrousel post feeds) exist, at least they got answer and got indirect help without making people know they need one.

Ok thank you! 😛😛 So i think that on PPG it is almost always safe. That is because two reasons: people live in countries very far away a lot and also because people on PPG are almost always very kind and with respect. That is what I think. So for me it was only one time that what you described is a problem. BUTTT it will not be a problem again because if you would meet a person i would always first ask my mom and i also promised even others on this site like @Roseeeee and @HappyvomSee and others to let them know first so i think that is safe. 🙂 And if somebody would be acting weird that you feel not really comfortable you can always block that person too or tell @Etienne about it. So I believe that on PPG it is very safe and I think others will probably agree like for example @Esma-Nur, @Miss_Penpal, @Emmiiii_17_11, @Roseeeee, @Sarahsalah27, @Pennarossa2024, @H_E_A_R_T, @Simone724, @mabah, @Sabri_KC, @Lianshen, @-Kiki- and @martutuni. ✨✨🏆🏆 And I forget so many others now who can tell their opinion too. 🙂

I chat a lot with anyone and it is almost always nice and funny!! And people who are older are always very patient and kind if for example i stay maybe stupid things or if i make mistakes with English if i type too fast. 😛 And sometimes also in French but that is more difficult. 😬😬 And I have friends from every ages here and i like that because it is always different if you write. So i think that is nice of PPG. 😺😺🥳🥳🥳 I hope that answers your question but i am curious what others will say! 🙂 And thank you for making a very nice forum @mayuuram. 🥇🥇🥇🎁🎈🎀

I think that ppg is very safe,you rarely meet weirdos. when you do,you just need to report them