🥰🪄 Attractiveness 🫶❣️

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

Btw i looked on google and i found this in English if people like to read it: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2026/may/27/women-faces-rated-more-attractive-study and also https://www.thesun.co.uk/health/39226666/womens-faces-rated-more-attractive-by-both-sexes/

In the Dutch news they even mentioned Darwin so i tag @Lianshen bc he is the PPG Darwin!!! 😛 😛

It's a very interesting news. I guess there are a few things to say about it:

- Maybe men tend to rate women more on pure attractiveness, whereas women potentially blend attractiveness with socio-cultural cues more than men.
Said more simply, it's very possible that the dummy men we are see a woman and see "good to breed"; period.
Women, on the other side would be more like : "So, he looks smart, and trusstworthy, also kinda rich; damn, he is handsome".

It's a bit caricatural, but in general, women seem to give less value to attractiveness alone (at least for long term relationships) and more to resources when looking for a partner (resources in the sense: earning capacity, ambition, social status, intelligence...). The idea here is not to say it's 100% like that, or that there are visual cues that show these traits, but that if it can make a woman believe it, then it affect her attractiveness rating of a man.


- Concerning Darwin, 2 things:
First, I am wondering if other species think the same way. Do the female peacock think that males are the beautiful ones? Or would they also rate females higher? It's hard to know and the question Darwin and some successors have sounds a bit anthropocentrist to me (honestly, it's more journalists who link attractiveness to that rather than biologists themselves); but it's a really difficult and intriguing question.

Second, Sexual dismorphism (a handsome male) is often because the female has a very strong choice over the mate. For humans, maybe women tend to choose their partner a little bit more than men, we still have mutual mate choice. So women may be a little bit selective in humans, potentially, but probably not enough as to create a sexy son with blue and green shiny body hair.



Concerning Married at First Sigh; consider that your sample is very special : It's really small (just a few people), and of a special kind. I don't think it's representative of the general population. I think your mother can just make more funny comments about the weird individuals who might appear in this kind of show 🙂

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

I found myself amazed by how liking someone can blind my judgement on their attractiveness. I don't think I would find a woman very attractive with a moustache, but I was proven wrong years ago because it was unusually funny.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

I believe it differs a bit whether it's a man or a woman; so I will only respond for the second: I believe what makes a very attractive woman is when she shows genuine interest, and not just superficial interest. When someone wants to know you and your interests in details, or share activities you like, it is extremely difficult not to fold for such a person.

I guess it demonstrates caring, social intelligence and, depending on what you like, just intelligence in general. Often, it also goes in pairs with what kind of person you are (so confident, shy etc.)

There are other things of course, but I will keep those secret, ahah.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

I think if we talk romantically, I could be deterred by look no matter how much I like someone for their character. It has to be a mix of both look and character to make someone suitable. Someone very beautiful can turn out to be the most repelling person if their character is horrible.

Overall though, I tend to believe that a good character compensates for a "bad look" more than a good look compensates for shitty behaviour.

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

Not so much. I would really dig into perceived traits associated to "attractiveness". I'm sure there are good explanations; for example women looking more trustworthy or less agressive maybe; even if it's not necessarily true!

For your tv show, not at all. There are always people like that, and somehow, I wouldn't expect much less from some show/medias...

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

It's more type than looks for me. Tattooes are usually something I look for..piercings...but these aren't a deal breaker. She's not this week's feature on my 600 lbs life, and she doesn't look like she's an extra for a historical film that takes place in Dachau.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

I must excrete some kind of metaphysical pollen because I attract and usually are attracted to;

Bipolar

Some kind attachment to substances (usually alcohol)

Stubborn and/or excitable and high strung

I half joke that I don't always have gf's .. I have symptoms of my disease. It's been that way for many years.

One of Jawbreaker's early songs was titled "Caroline" ... there's a bit of Caroline in all of the girls I seem to be involved with.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

I'd honestly say character. Looks are relative thing. Cute to me could be hideous to someone else.

And no. You need both. Attraction is important. Good looks and no character? Hard pass...

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

Hahah MAFS again.. nothing surprises me with reality TV

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

Thank u very much @Lianshen and @Based_Aura for reacting!!! 🙏🙏😊🥰 I have to bike almost now to school but when i am back i will look up what they wrote about Darwin Lianshen because maybe u like to read it also because of what u wrote!!!! 🙂 And @Based_Aura sorry about MAFS again but it was really in my head because we did not expect it to be like that AT ALL and i wanted to talk about it. 😛 😛

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1) I personally don't care about the features. Like I know people sometimes say "yeah you say you don't care but I bet if there was a very very ugly man in front of you you'd be like 🤢🤢🤢" but no that's not true, I really don't care about the features of a person. I guess style is a bit important to me because it shows things about your personality 🤷‍♀️ but I don't really have beauty standars or criteria.

2) I like honest people and people I can talk about deep stuff with. I wouldn't say "smart" because I don't care if you can't do basic maths if we can have an interesting conversation. I like truth worthy people as well because yeah I hope I can rely on someone.

3) Character is the most important thing for me of course 🩷💛🩵

4) I think for MAFS it's only one person so I wouldn't generalize it 🤷‍♀️ but for the study I'm not really surprised that women find women very pretty like we always compliment each other, but I think men have a bit more of an ego about their looks and try to compete more so they wouldn't admire women (yes I'm aware that not everyone is like that of course but it's just what I've seen, lived and heared in general).

Thanks Yue for the forum and have a good day everyone ☀️

Lianshen: would I be remiss by simply assuming that animals are nearly exclusively driven by the primal urge of reproduction? This would explain the physical attributes of males in certain species to “distinguish or extinguish”. Facial features which would hint at the animal equivalent of a “provider of food on the table” or “a reliable and caring partner” may be less enticing for a female great white shark - leaving aside that their average size exceeds that of a male counterpart. In a similar vein, a female black widow may consider the nurturing nature of a mate only appealing if taken literally. Reproduction and the main pursuit of survival of the species would also suggest that females of nearly any given animal species - to a varying degree excluding humans - are naturally attracted to male qualities and vice versa?

The evolutionary tale may still be relevant in a human context if applied in the more complex habitat in which humans roam free. This naturally calls for a different set of attributes which may provide a different substance to the concept of natural selection.

The usual disclaimers are relied on when a lawyer ventures far beyond its natural ecosystem - as most certainly is the case here.

This forum has a great potential to start gender war hahaha.

I must excrete some kind of metaphysical pollen because I attract and usually are attracted to;

Bipolar

Some kind attachment to substances (usually alcohol)

Stubborn and/or excitable and high strung

Cool, you will enjoy when World Cup start and when both European hooligans and instagram fans arrive in you country.

1️⃣ and 2️⃣ I am waiting to see will anybody accidentally describe me 😂.

3️⃣ You probably won't get 100% honest answer on this question from people online and offline. Everybody will claim that (only) character matters in order to present themselves as individuals with high moral, but their behaviour and general attitude toward life often speak differently.

This forum has a great potential to start gender war hahaha.

Cool, you will enjoy when World Cup start and when both European hooligans and instagram fans arrive in you country.

1️⃣ and 2️⃣ I am waiting to see will anybody accidentally describe me 😂.

3️⃣ You probably won't get 100% honest answer on this question from people online and offline. Everybody will claim that (only) character matters in order to present themselves as individuals with high moral, but their behaviour and general attitude toward life often speak differently.

yesssss....I'm banned from local football club stadium where I live. Long story lol..

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1. I think once I love/like someone I find everything about them prettyyyy, but I do have typee, someone who is attractive, just in general, in type of clothing I prefer old money aesthetic or "CEO Mafia" vibes, especially for guys 🤭✨, and I don't like street style that muchhh, actually I don't like it at alllll. And I like long hairs or at least enough long for me to be able to play with it, since I'm someone who lovesss playing with other peoples hairssss.

2. I like people who just don't let everyone innn, like they don't treat everyone with same care and attention as they treat me, and I like nerdss, smart, confident but unbothered by everybody else's business and only care about people they like/love. To be honest, I loveeee it someone notices small things about me, but don't even care about othersss but like not unkind, also older than meee. I like someone who has got cold hands, is physically clingyyyy (only with mee 🔪🥀) emotionally mature and calm and gentle because I find reassurance and comfort in physical touchhh and I overthink a lotttt and it's bare minimum but I don't like people who are not loyallll. I don't like someone who is selfishhh or toxiccc. And sinceee I'm veryyy jealous possessive when it comes to someone I loveee I just hopeee that they put me over everybody elseee, no matter how unsignificant or significant the circumstances might beee (when we're serious about each other) and also I don't like people who are phone additcts, have bad posture, messed up routine and don't take care of themselves, likee if they can't give time to themselfff and only live inside their phoneee, how would they give me timeee?? That sums it up all, I guessss 🥹✨ Oh and alsoo someone who keep improvising themselffff all, physically, mentally, socially and likee in sense of smartness toooo.

3. Bothhhh, both are equally importantttt to meee ✨

4. I didn't get thattt, but I guess it's okaeee to turn someone down because they don't match your preference, it's better than arguing everyday laterrrr and coming to hate each otherrr, besides in MAFS, though I've never watched onee but I kinda got the gist of it in your otherrr forum, Yueee, it's first impression that matters, and no matter how many people say "looks don't matter" they dooooo!! And that is why I fix everything about me that makes me feel self conscioussss (That is a part of lovinggg yourselfff, I believe.)

5. I'm just reallyyyy curiouss, if you have ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? 🐣✨

Lianshen: would I be remiss by simply assuming that animals are nearly exclusively driven by the primal urge of reproduction? This would explain the physical attributes of males in certain species to “distinguish or extinguish”. Facial features which would hint at the animal equivalent of a “provider of food on the table” or “a reliable and caring partner” may be less enticing for a female great white shark - leaving aside that their average size exceeds that of a male counterpart. In a similar vein, a female black widow may consider the nurturing nature of a mate only appealing if taken literally. Reproduction and the main pursuit of survival of the species would also suggest that females of nearly any given animal species - to a varying degree excluding humans - are naturally attracted to male qualities and vice versa?

The evolutionary tale may still be relevant in a human context if applied in the more complex habitat in which humans roam free. This naturally calls for a different set of attributes which may provide a different substance to the concept of natural selection.

The usual disclaimers are relied on when a lawyer ventures far beyond its natural ecosystem - as most certainly is the case here.

This is a little bit of an overstatement, but yes, animals (and humans too; at least I'd argue I was very much driven by it in my teens) are often driven by the urge of reproduction, to some extents.

What you label as "distinguish or extinguish" is close to sexual selection as a concept. Many traits, including in humans, are used as cues for distinguishing the quality of a mate. Some signals goes as far as being a handicap to say "See me miss? this long tail? yes... I can afford it and still survive well. Am I not sexy? (¬ᴗ ´¬ ) " ; or even as straight up exploitation with dishonest signals.

It's important, however, to remember that those are not conscious processes. Such traits don't exist "in order to attract" mate in a literal sense; not more than beards in humans, for instance, but more because sexual selections operates through those signals.

Facial features which would hint at the animal equivalent of a “provider of food on the table” or “a reliable and caring partner” may be less enticing for a female great white shark - leaving aside that their average size exceeds that of a male counterpart.

I do not know the mechanisms behind the species, so I could not tell you for sure. I imagine that, indeed, picking a mate goes less through a beauty contest for the male than maybe agility, pheromons or eventually come after copulation with sperm competition (which is very common in species in which multiple males mate with a female)... I think it's a good example that even in other species, "attractiveness" is not always a main determinant.

In a similar vein, a female black widow may consider the nurturing nature of a mate only appealing if taken literally

There were famous experiments in behavioural ecology about praying mantis investigating why males would get eaten in exchange of reproducing. Reproduction induces a huge energetic cost on females, so some researches suggest that the extra nutrients gained by a female eating a male increase her egg production, hence her reproductive success, depending on the context.
Plus, when she starts gnawing on a male's 'brain', it sometimes doesn't prevent him to keep being diligent in his duty; which is suggested to increase his reproductive success too by giving more seeds to miss Hannibal Lecter (and further showing that brain is not that vital for us males: this is the second time I say this sentence today...)

Reproduction and the main pursuit of survival of the species would also suggest that females of nearly any given animal species - to a varying degree excluding humans - are naturally attracted to male qualities and vice versa?

Yes, with some caveats.

First; I would probably talk more about preference/mate choice (n,ot to use sexual/selection pressure).

Second, I don't think you need to exclude humans at all in this. Attraction would even be more reasonable for us, I believe. It's true, however, that we love to overcomplicate everything by adding layers of cultures, religions, ideologies, concept of love...

Third, and this is more to precise a little, but I'm sure you got a glimpse of it already: mutual choice is not guaranteed. In many species, the choice is rather one sided; often by the cost of reproduction. In some species, males are the limiting sex (either because they bear the cost of reproduction more, invest heavily in parental care, are rare...), and those are generally the chosy sex. Finally, choice is sometimes affected by the context... You don't chose much when the potential mate is agressive, huge competition... or that there is only one "choice".

The evolutionary tale may still be relevant in a human context if applied in the more complex habitat in which humans roam free. This naturally calls for a different set of attributes which may provide a different substance to the concept of natural selection.

Indeed; this is why we rarely stop to only evolutionnary explanations for humans, but investigate a mixture of "nature-culture" or gene-culture coevolution. That can give surprising and very interesting interpreation as to why humans behave a certain way. Evolution is comparable to the foundation on which culture will build a house. Falling all for biological determinism or social constructivism is usually nothing but sad.

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

HEY YUE!!!!!!!!

Long time no see, missed writing in your forums!

There I am, all fresh back again ✌️

1. Well. That clearly depends on who you're asking. But in my case, since I'm heterosexual I like a female appearance. Meaning the stereotype of long hair, etc. But tbh, that doesn't really have to say anything. I had crushes on several girls considering looks which looked totally different. So not really a "certain" type of look I like the most. You could say that I have a thing for brunettes tho. Love that. But we'll I already dated someone with blonde and red hair, so really, I don't mind either of them, I liked both of their hair as well. It's just a small preference, but I really don't care that much about looks as long as they don't " turn me off"

2. Well, as an introvert I feel attracted to introvert people. Idk if that's a regular thing of introverts, but for me, since I'm a pretty calm guy, I need someone to match my energy. What I like is someone calm but confident, and that's not scared of showing vulnerability towards people they trust. I also think it's attractive to be able to focus on a single person only, such as in a relationship. I like when people have the trait to truly care about their partner, and let them know they are being cared about.

3. Definitely character is more important. Looks might attract, definitely, but the character is what you hold on to on long term.

4. Nope, not really haha

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1. I think dyed hair is really pretty especially unnatural colors like blue or purple (for girlsss) or dark hair (for boys) . Skin color idc bc all are pretty (idk if it's offensive or stay but I think black girls are really pretty) . Tattoos are really hot (ok it kinda depends what tattoos) piercings always, I like more alt make up styles. I also think that alt clothing styles are really pretty like goth, punk, grunge or emo, scene etc (but the real shit not the "tiktok styles" there is a difference sometimes)

2. As long as they are open and nice everything is fine but as soon as they make racist ,homophobic/transphobic , nazi or Epstein,, jokes" then I'll definitely never talk to them again. I love people who give me the feeling that I'm welcome and people who don't judge

3. Kinda both because it would be a lie if I said I only care about character. So I'd say only both bc I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who is pretty but has a shitty personality

4. No

*maybe "how would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself" is a good question

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

Hello Yueeeee!!!! well, talking about someone attractiveness indeed attractive (AHAHA) cause we talk about how a human so attractive lmao

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

Honestly when it comes to look, Based on how often I observe people, it is clear that everyone has an attractive side of their physical appearance. Some have makeup that is so good that it looks very eye-catching, some through their clothes are so neat like old money, some like to dress elegantly, edgy, goth, classic; some of look cool with their korean, or mullet or wolf-cut hair etc etc.
In my eyes, I see each person looks radiant and very attractive when they already know what makes their energy radiate. Yes, when they know how to express themselves well, they know what they like and what they need, by itself their aura of confidence radiates very well and that is how we can see them as very attractive figures. So that what i think about what an attractive person looks like.
IMO, it's our job to make people notice our true color hehe

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

Again, just like looks, each person's personality can shine through in their own way. Some people seem attractive with their shyness, like a cute one, while others have a very strong aura, a leadership spirit, an alpha personality, and a cool way of thinking that i respect.

Everyone has their own personality traits that are attractive, as long as they have confidence.

And honestly, as I interact with and make friend with many people, I've been able to adapt and accept people with different personalities and vibes. As long as they aren't hurtful or toxic (including toxic positivity), I can still see their attractive side.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

Honestly both are important and have their own role. Just as there are times when couples need to meet family, business colleagues or friends, neat, well-groomed, and good demeanor are very important to make a better impression so that the person they are talking to is also comfortable. For a harmonious relationship, good interpersonal qualities are essential. One aspect to maintain a harmonious relationship is good individual character. This could include good emotional intelligence, emotional stability, self-regulation, self-awareness, self-initiative, how a partner manages anger, their romantic nature, how they make their partner feel valued, etc.

It could be said that physical appearance is for a relationship's image, dignity, and self-esteem in public (family, colleagues, business partners, or simply for the eyes), while non-physical aspects are what sustain long-term harmony within the relationship.

Because clearly, a relationship isn't just about two people, but also about two families, two worlds that bridge each other into one. So, not only love needs to be nurtured, but also maintaining harmonious connections with family and relationships is also important.

That's why when a relationship successfully reaches the stage of marriage, it also becomes a symbol of success for the couple in the relationship. People may not be aware of invisible conflicts within, but harmonious relationships are often perceived as a sign of reliability, maturity, and personal stability in professional and social environments.

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

Honestly i don't want to comment much about that, cause indeed it's her right to decide whatever her want, so i wouldn't say any further.

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

Wellll i think your question are enough!

Wowww i did not expect so many answers already because i thought maybe this time my questions are bit sloppy!!! 😛 😛 ANDDDD im really happy that @Colin_Der_Backfisch u are BACKKK and alsoo Abbyy @Whatsername_!!! 🙂 I wanted to answer too but there are some things i want to think about again also after what mayuuram wrote so i will post my answers in this afternoon.

And Nidhiii ❣️ and Abbyyy 🫶 i added ur questions bc they are really nice!! So the new questions are:

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

Alsoo thnxxx Korisnik, Based Aura, Savi and Lianshen and i hope maybe in the future also others come back like Stasyyy @PinkiePie, Roseee @Idkbro and Sarahh @psysarah15!!!

@Yue_ I thought of a new question as well:

What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not?

@Yue_ I thought of a new question as well:

What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not?

Owww that is nice to add!!!! I quickly added in the list so now all the questions are:

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

I really have to bike now because i have 1st class but if anybody has more questions i can add them later when im back!!!! And i will also answer all the new questions and i hope maybe others also like to do that!!!! Thank u very much!! 💞🙏🙏🥰

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1. I like people who are weirdly attractive and I don’t believe in like Beauty Standars tbh. My crushes be so random tho.

2. Depends honestly, I only hate like when they are pissed super fast or a backstabber

3. Both!!! Like character slightly more obvious, butt he/she also has to like look atleast somewhat put together . I like people who take care of themselves like skincare and shi, like pls boys it is NOT gay to wash ur face with face wash😔

4. Not really a lot of people like looks more

5. I have no type!

6. Depends on the person

7. Like I said my crushes be random, that shi be hitting me on a random tuesday at 11

8.noo bye girls and boys be yourselfs y’all pretty when u be urself