🥰🪄 Attractiveness 🫶❣️

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In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1) I personally don't care about the features. Like I know people sometimes say "yeah you say you don't care but I bet if there was a very very ugly man in front of you you'd be like 🤢🤢🤢" but no that's not true, I really don't care about the features of a person. I guess style is a bit important to me because it shows things about your personality 🤷‍♀️ but I don't really have beauty standars or criteria.

2) I like honest people and people I can talk about deep stuff with. I wouldn't say "smart" because I don't care if you can't do basic maths if we can have an interesting conversation. I like truth worthy people as well because yeah I hope I can rely on someone.

3) Character is the most important thing for me of course 🩷💛🩵

4) I think for MAFS it's only one person so I wouldn't generalize it 🤷‍♀️ but for the study I'm not really surprised that women find women very pretty like we always compliment each other, but I think men have a bit more of an ego about their looks and try to compete more so they wouldn't admire women (yes I'm aware that not everyone is like that of course but it's just what I've seen, lived and heared in general).

Thanks Yue for the forum and have a good day everyone ☀️

Lianshen: would I be remiss by simply assuming that animals are nearly exclusively driven by the primal urge of reproduction? This would explain the physical attributes of males in certain species to “distinguish or extinguish”. Facial features which would hint at the animal equivalent of a “provider of food on the table” or “a reliable and caring partner” may be less enticing for a female great white shark - leaving aside that their average size exceeds that of a male counterpart. In a similar vein, a female black widow may consider the nurturing nature of a mate only appealing if taken literally. Reproduction and the main pursuit of survival of the species would also suggest that females of nearly any given animal species - to a varying degree excluding humans - are naturally attracted to male qualities and vice versa?

The evolutionary tale may still be relevant in a human context if applied in the more complex habitat in which humans roam free. This naturally calls for a different set of attributes which may provide a different substance to the concept of natural selection.

The usual disclaimers are relied on when a lawyer ventures far beyond its natural ecosystem - as most certainly is the case here.

This forum has a great potential to start gender war hahaha.

I must excrete some kind of metaphysical pollen because I attract and usually are attracted to;

Bipolar

Some kind attachment to substances (usually alcohol)

Stubborn and/or excitable and high strung

Cool, you will enjoy when World Cup start and when both European hooligans and instagram fans arrive in you country.

1️⃣ and 2️⃣ I am waiting to see will anybody accidentally describe me 😂.

3️⃣ You probably won't get 100% honest answer on this question from people online and offline. Everybody will claim that (only) character matters in order to present themselves as individuals with high moral, but their behaviour and general attitude toward life often speak differently.

This forum has a great potential to start gender war hahaha.

Cool, you will enjoy when World Cup start and when both European hooligans and instagram fans arrive in you country.

1️⃣ and 2️⃣ I am waiting to see will anybody accidentally describe me 😂.

3️⃣ You probably won't get 100% honest answer on this question from people online and offline. Everybody will claim that (only) character matters in order to present themselves as individuals with high moral, but their behaviour and general attitude toward life often speak differently.

yesssss....I'm banned from local football club stadium where I live. Long story lol..

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1. I think once I love/like someone I find everything about them prettyyyy, but I do have typee, someone who is attractive, just in general, in type of clothing I prefer old money aesthetic or "CEO Mafia" vibes, especially for guys 🤭✨, and I don't like street style that muchhh, actually I don't like it at alllll. And I like long hairs or at least enough long for me to be able to play with it, since I'm someone who lovesss playing with other peoples hairssss.

2. I like people who just don't let everyone innn, like they don't treat everyone with same care and attention as they treat me, and I like nerdss, smart, confident but unbothered by everybody else's business and only care about people they like/love. To be honest, I loveeee it someone notices small things about me, but don't even care about othersss but like not unkind, also older than meee. I like someone who has got cold hands, is physically clingyyyy (only with mee 🔪🥀) emotionally mature and calm and gentle because I find reassurance and comfort in physical touchhh and I overthink a lotttt and it's bare minimum but I don't like people who are not loyallll. I don't like someone who is selfishhh or toxiccc. And sinceee I'm veryyy jealous possessive when it comes to someone I loveee I just hopeee that they put me over everybody elseee, no matter how unsignificant or significant the circumstances might beee (when we're serious about each other) and also I don't like people who are phone additcts, have bad posture, messed up routine and don't take care of themselves, likee if they can't give time to themselfff and only live inside their phoneee, how would they give me timeee?? That sums it up all, I guessss 🥹✨ Oh and alsoo someone who keep improvising themselffff all, physically, mentally, socially and likee in sense of smartness toooo.

3. Bothhhh, both are equally importantttt to meee ✨

4. I didn't get thattt, but I guess it's okaeee to turn someone down because they don't match your preference, it's better than arguing everyday laterrrr and coming to hate each otherrr, besides in MAFS, though I've never watched onee but I kinda got the gist of it in your otherrr forum, Yueee, it's first impression that matters, and no matter how many people say "looks don't matter" they dooooo!! And that is why I fix everything about me that makes me feel self conscioussss (That is a part of lovinggg yourselfff, I believe.)

5. I'm just reallyyyy curiouss, if you have ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? 🐣✨

Lianshen: would I be remiss by simply assuming that animals are nearly exclusively driven by the primal urge of reproduction? This would explain the physical attributes of males in certain species to “distinguish or extinguish”. Facial features which would hint at the animal equivalent of a “provider of food on the table” or “a reliable and caring partner” may be less enticing for a female great white shark - leaving aside that their average size exceeds that of a male counterpart. In a similar vein, a female black widow may consider the nurturing nature of a mate only appealing if taken literally. Reproduction and the main pursuit of survival of the species would also suggest that females of nearly any given animal species - to a varying degree excluding humans - are naturally attracted to male qualities and vice versa?

The evolutionary tale may still be relevant in a human context if applied in the more complex habitat in which humans roam free. This naturally calls for a different set of attributes which may provide a different substance to the concept of natural selection.

The usual disclaimers are relied on when a lawyer ventures far beyond its natural ecosystem - as most certainly is the case here.

This is a little bit of an overstatement, but yes, animals (and humans too; at least I'd argue I was very much driven by it in my teens) are often driven by the urge of reproduction, to some extents.

What you label as "distinguish or extinguish" is close to sexual selection as a concept. Many traits, including in humans, are used as cues for distinguishing the quality of a mate. Some signals goes as far as being a handicap to say "See me miss? this long tail? yes... I can afford it and still survive well. Am I not sexy? (¬ᴗ ´¬ ) " ; or even as straight up exploitation with dishonest signals.

It's important, however, to remember that those are not conscious processes. Such traits don't exist "in order to attract" mate in a literal sense; not more than beards in humans, for instance, but more because sexual selections operates through those signals.

Facial features which would hint at the animal equivalent of a “provider of food on the table” or “a reliable and caring partner” may be less enticing for a female great white shark - leaving aside that their average size exceeds that of a male counterpart.

I do not know the mechanisms behind the species, so I could not tell you for sure. I imagine that, indeed, picking a mate goes less through a beauty contest for the male than maybe agility, pheromons or eventually come after copulation with sperm competition (which is very common in species in which multiple males mate with a female)... I think it's a good example that even in other species, "attractiveness" is not always a main determinant.

In a similar vein, a female black widow may consider the nurturing nature of a mate only appealing if taken literally

There were famous experiments in behavioural ecology about praying mantis investigating why males would get eaten in exchange of reproducing. Reproduction induces a huge energetic cost on females, so some researches suggest that the extra nutrients gained by a female eating a male increase her egg production, hence her reproductive success, depending on the context.
Plus, when she starts gnawing on a male's 'brain', it sometimes doesn't prevent him to keep being diligent in his duty; which is suggested to increase his reproductive success too by giving more seeds to miss Hannibal Lecter (and further showing that brain is not that vital for us males: this is the second time I say this sentence today...)

Reproduction and the main pursuit of survival of the species would also suggest that females of nearly any given animal species - to a varying degree excluding humans - are naturally attracted to male qualities and vice versa?

Yes, with some caveats.

First; I would probably talk more about preference/mate choice (n,ot to use sexual/selection pressure).

Second, I don't think you need to exclude humans at all in this. Attraction would even be more reasonable for us, I believe. It's true, however, that we love to overcomplicate everything by adding layers of cultures, religions, ideologies, concept of love...

Third, and this is more to precise a little, but I'm sure you got a glimpse of it already: mutual choice is not guaranteed. In many species, the choice is rather one sided; often by the cost of reproduction. In some species, males are the limiting sex (either because they bear the cost of reproduction more, invest heavily in parental care, are rare...), and those are generally the chosy sex. Finally, choice is sometimes affected by the context... You don't chose much when the potential mate is agressive, huge competition... or that there is only one "choice".

The evolutionary tale may still be relevant in a human context if applied in the more complex habitat in which humans roam free. This naturally calls for a different set of attributes which may provide a different substance to the concept of natural selection.

Indeed; this is why we rarely stop to only evolutionnary explanations for humans, but investigate a mixture of "nature-culture" or gene-culture coevolution. That can give surprising and very interesting interpreation as to why humans behave a certain way. Evolution is comparable to the foundation on which culture will build a house. Falling all for biological determinism or social constructivism is usually nothing but sad.

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

HEY YUE!!!!!!!!

Long time no see, missed writing in your forums!

There I am, all fresh back again ✌️

1. Well. That clearly depends on who you're asking. But in my case, since I'm heterosexual I like a female appearance. Meaning the stereotype of long hair, etc. But tbh, that doesn't really have to say anything. I had crushes on several girls considering looks which looked totally different. So not really a "certain" type of look I like the most. You could say that I have a thing for brunettes tho. Love that. But we'll I already dated someone with blonde and red hair, so really, I don't mind either of them, I liked both of their hair as well. It's just a small preference, but I really don't care that much about looks as long as they don't " turn me off"

2. Well, as an introvert I feel attracted to introvert people. Idk if that's a regular thing of introverts, but for me, since I'm a pretty calm guy, I need someone to match my energy. What I like is someone calm but confident, and that's not scared of showing vulnerability towards people they trust. I also think it's attractive to be able to focus on a single person only, such as in a relationship. I like when people have the trait to truly care about their partner, and let them know they are being cared about.

3. Definitely character is more important. Looks might attract, definitely, but the character is what you hold on to on long term.

4. Nope, not really haha

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1. I think dyed hair is really pretty especially unnatural colors like blue or purple (for girlsss) or dark hair (for boys) . Skin color idc bc all are pretty (idk if it's offensive or stay but I think black girls are really pretty) . Tattoos are really hot (ok it kinda depends what tattoos) piercings always, I like more alt make up styles. I also think that alt clothing styles are really pretty like goth, punk, grunge or emo, scene etc (but the real shit not the "tiktok styles" there is a difference sometimes)

2. As long as they are open and nice everything is fine but as soon as they make racist ,homophobic/transphobic , nazi or Epstein,, jokes" then I'll definitely never talk to them again. I love people who give me the feeling that I'm welcome and people who don't judge

3. Kinda both because it would be a lie if I said I only care about character. So I'd say only both bc I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone who is pretty but has a shitty personality

4. No

*maybe "how would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself" is a good question

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

Hello Yueeeee!!!! well, talking about someone attractiveness indeed attractive (AHAHA) cause we talk about how a human so attractive lmao

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

Honestly when it comes to look, Based on how often I observe people, it is clear that everyone has an attractive side of their physical appearance. Some have makeup that is so good that it looks very eye-catching, some through their clothes are so neat like old money, some like to dress elegantly, edgy, goth, classic; some of look cool with their korean, or mullet or wolf-cut hair etc etc.
In my eyes, I see each person looks radiant and very attractive when they already know what makes their energy radiate. Yes, when they know how to express themselves well, they know what they like and what they need, by itself their aura of confidence radiates very well and that is how we can see them as very attractive figures. So that what i think about what an attractive person looks like.
IMO, it's our job to make people notice our true color hehe

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

Again, just like looks, each person's personality can shine through in their own way. Some people seem attractive with their shyness, like a cute one, while others have a very strong aura, a leadership spirit, an alpha personality, and a cool way of thinking that i respect.

Everyone has their own personality traits that are attractive, as long as they have confidence.

And honestly, as I interact with and make friend with many people, I've been able to adapt and accept people with different personalities and vibes. As long as they aren't hurtful or toxic (including toxic positivity), I can still see their attractive side.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

Honestly both are important and have their own role. Just as there are times when couples need to meet family, business colleagues or friends, neat, well-groomed, and good demeanor are very important to make a better impression so that the person they are talking to is also comfortable. For a harmonious relationship, good interpersonal qualities are essential. One aspect to maintain a harmonious relationship is good individual character. This could include good emotional intelligence, emotional stability, self-regulation, self-awareness, self-initiative, how a partner manages anger, their romantic nature, how they make their partner feel valued, etc.

It could be said that physical appearance is for a relationship's image, dignity, and self-esteem in public (family, colleagues, business partners, or simply for the eyes), while non-physical aspects are what sustain long-term harmony within the relationship.

Because clearly, a relationship isn't just about two people, but also about two families, two worlds that bridge each other into one. So, not only love needs to be nurtured, but also maintaining harmonious connections with family and relationships is also important.

That's why when a relationship successfully reaches the stage of marriage, it also becomes a symbol of success for the couple in the relationship. People may not be aware of invisible conflicts within, but harmonious relationships are often perceived as a sign of reliability, maturity, and personal stability in professional and social environments.

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

Honestly i don't want to comment much about that, cause indeed it's her right to decide whatever her want, so i wouldn't say any further.

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

Wellll i think your question are enough!

Wowww i did not expect so many answers already because i thought maybe this time my questions are bit sloppy!!! 😛 😛 ANDDDD im really happy that @Colin_Der_Backfisch u are BACKKK and alsoo Abbyy @Whatsername_!!! 🙂 I wanted to answer too but there are some things i want to think about again also after what mayuuram wrote so i will post my answers in this afternoon.

And Nidhiii ❣️ and Abbyyy 🫶 i added ur questions bc they are really nice!! So the new questions are:

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

Alsoo thnxxx Korisnik, Based Aura, Savi and Lianshen and i hope maybe in the future also others come back like Stasyyy @PinkiePie, Roseee @Idkbro and Sarahh @psysarah15!!!

@Yue_ I thought of a new question as well:

What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not?

@Yue_ I thought of a new question as well:

What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not?

Owww that is nice to add!!!! I quickly added in the list so now all the questions are:

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

I really have to bike now because i have 1st class but if anybody has more questions i can add them later when im back!!!! And i will also answer all the new questions and i hope maybe others also like to do that!!!! Thank u very much!! 💞🙏🙏🥰

Hiii everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I know i wrote a lot below so u can also just skip to questions if u prefer that!!! 😛 😛 ⬇️⬇️⬇️

In the Dutch news there was something and i think it is also in the news of a lot of other countries because it is a super large project about attractiveness. So what happened: in 76 countries there was a study and they showed pictures of faces of MEN and WOMEN. And there were 30,000 people in the study. It turned out that the MOST men thought that the women faces were prettier and gave higher scores. BUTTT the SAME was with women who also said the same thing about women faces!!!! 😳😳🙄 So they gave higher scores for photos of women faces than men faces!! If u can read Dutch here is the news online and im sure it is also in other countries on the news. By the way: i dont mean that women who said other women are more attractive than men want to have relationship with women but are also heterosexual but still they said the women faces are prettier.

A second thing i was really surprised and it is about MAFS in The Netherlands and that is the tv show Married at First Sight and here is a separate forum about it. Now both my mom and i expected that men would think a LOTTT more than women that looks are very important. And that for women it would be more about how they think of the inner person and character than the looks. BUTTT it was the OTHER WAY AROUND!!!! 🤐🤐 That was really not what we expected!! One bride said she did not even want to marry because of his looks and that never happened before on the show. ANDD several couples the men wanted to continue but the women stopped not because character but the looks!!!

So that is why i wanted to make this forum but i hope these questions are nice but i hope u add questions if u have nice ideas!!!

⭐ Questions:

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

➡️ Do you maybe have a nice question for the list that i must add?

I wanted to apologize for the questions because i am really curious but i am not sure how to write the questions. And i wanted to thank everybody who still answers them or post what they think!!!! 🙏🙏⭐❤️

1. I like people who are weirdly attractive and I don’t believe in like Beauty Standars tbh. My crushes be so random tho.

2. Depends honestly, I only hate like when they are pissed super fast or a backstabber

3. Both!!! Like character slightly more obvious, butt he/she also has to like look atleast somewhat put together . I like people who take care of themselves like skincare and shi, like pls boys it is NOT gay to wash ur face with face wash😔

4. Not really a lot of people like looks more

5. I have no type!

6. Depends on the person

7. Like I said my crushes be random, that shi be hitting me on a random tuesday at 11

8.noo bye girls and boys be yourselfs y’all pretty when u be urself

Thankssss Maori Linnn!!! 😊😊🥰 Before i want to tell my answers i really want to tell what happened today AFTER school because i talked with two other friends about it and i dont mean MAFS but the study of the faces!!! 😛 😛 And they said DUhhhh so i asked why and they said as joke are u stupid??

So they asked from our class of each person the face if from all who are prettier guys or girls. And i said girls BUTTT i think it does NOT count because some are your friends. And they said: ok what about random so we did that too from others in school and still i think now they are right because mostly it was girls and they thought that TOO. But that does not mean u want a relationship with another girl so i dont mean that but just generally i thought the faces were prettier and they thought that also. 🙄🙄 So maybe the study is right but it can also be that we are more used to say for example to a friend if she looks pretty it is not a problem to say that. But it would be SUPER WEIRD if u say that to a guy just like that. And she also asked of one guy to rate from face but i did not want to do that and i think @mayuuram understands why. But mostly i think from girls faces that the study is maybe true now.

Sorryyy for the long post but i wanted to share it and im curious if maybe u also think that if u are honest about it like for example of your friends or people u know. 🙂

Ok these are my answers to the questions (ALSOO the new ones) 😛 😛

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

I think @Korisnik is right about that looks are ALSO important but i think also that it does not mean that u must have a type. So for example if i watch a series i can think like somebody is nice but than that person can look really different than another person that looks special to u. But still some things are that it is nicer if the guy is taller than me but that is not really difficult. 😬😬🙄🙄🙄 I think it is nice if a person can make u calm and feel secure and i know that is mostly about character but i also think it is about how he looks. So u feel from only the look already that he respects u and that u can feel ok. Im not sure if others understand what i mean but already from a look u can tell that a bit. 🤭🫣🫣 Im not a big fan if a guy is super flashyyy with a LOTTT of jewelry or has clothes with super big brand logos or only wears things that are expensive and that he looks down if u just wear from H&M for example or other more normal clothes. And also it is nice if he has good hygene and u see he takes good care of himself. Sorryy if is super long list!!! 😵‍💫🤐

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

I think the most important for me is that u feel safe and calm with him. And i dont only mean safe like he does not hurt u in any way but also that for example he does not joke or gossip about u or that if u maybe suggest something that he only turns it down and thinks it is stupid. So that he respects u and that u can also be urself and it is ok. 🙂 I think those are the most important things. And of course that he can be trusted and faithful so if u give ur ❤️ to him that he does not break it when he can and does not care at all.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

I think character is the MOST important and i know maybe it is super weird but i think that also u can see little bit from that in the look. Because if u are with a person u also have a feeling how he is as person EVENNN if it is only from the look still u have that strong feeling if u know how he is.

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

No not anymore of the men and women faces but i wrote that already above this post but at first YESSS but now no not anymore!! And about MAFS still yes because i expected it more from men that they would turn down their bride ONLY because of the look but it is mostly the other way around. But maybe it is also because the men were too much liking the bride so that they wanted to keep the relationship and the brides doubted it more.

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

If u mean really relationship then NOO!!!!!! I feel not ready for that now even if others think it is stupid and u should already have at least one relationship now or maybe more but i just feel that way now. And if u mean like mini crush from series or other things than maybe yes but that is different that u would really have a relationship because that would be weird because of some things. So YES and also NO!!!!!! Also curious what ur answer is Nidhi!!!

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

Keep for myself!!!!!!!! Or maybe tell only my best friend and she must swear she keeps mouth shut or i die immediate because of it!!!!!!!!!! ☠️🆘❌🙅‍♀️

Abbyy @Whatsername_ what about u??

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

Im not sure if i understand the question. So maybe if i see somebody i can say like ow she is pretty as compliment but i mean it. But if it is a guy that i think is handsome i prefer keep it to myself and keeping inside and NOTTT telling it to anybody. And if u have a crush than i think it is more than just saying somebody is attractive because in that case u have more romantic feeling about that person. Im not sure if u mean that?? Maybe @Colin_Der_Backfisch that u can explain it because im not sure what u mean.

Ok these are my answers to the questions (ALSOO the new ones) 😛 😛

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

I think @Korisnik is right about that looks are ALSO important but i think also that it does not mean that u must have a type. So for example if i watch a series i can think like somebody is nice but than that person can look really different than another person that looks special to u. But still some things are that it is nicer if the guy is taller than me but that is not really difficult. 😬😬🙄🙄🙄 I think it is nice if a person can make u calm and feel secure and i know that is mostly about character but i also think it is about how he looks. So u feel from only the look already that he respects u and that u can feel ok. Im not sure if others understand what i mean but already from a look u can tell that a bit. 🤭🫣🫣 Im not a big fan if a guy is super flashyyy with a LOTTT of jewelry or has clothes with super big brand logos or only wears things that are expensive and that he looks down if u just wear from H&M for example or other more normal clothes. And also it is nice if he has good hygene and u see he takes good care of himself. Sorryy if is super long list!!! 😵‍💫🤐

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

I think the most important for me is that u feel safe and calm with him. And i dont only mean safe like he does not hurt u in any way but also that for example he does not joke or gossip about u or that if u maybe suggest something that he only turns it down and thinks it is stupid. So that he respects u and that u can also be urself and it is ok. 🙂 I think those are the most important things. And of course that he can be trusted and faithful so if u give ur ❤️ to him that he does not break it when he can and does not care at all.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

I think character is the MOST important and i know maybe it is super weird but i think that also u can see little bit from that in the look. Because if u are with a person u also have a feeling how he is as person EVENNN if it is only from the look still u have that strong feeling if u know how he is.

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

No not anymore of the men and women faces but i wrote that already above this post but at first YESSS but now no not anymore!! And about MAFS still yes because i expected it more from men that they would turn down their bride ONLY because of the look but it is mostly the other way around. But maybe it is also because the men were too much liking the bride so that they wanted to keep the relationship and the brides doubted it more.

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

If u mean really relationship then NOO!!!!!! I feel not ready for that now even if others think it is stupid and u should already have at least one relationship now or maybe more but i just feel that way now. And if u mean like mini crush from series or other things than maybe yes but that is different that u would really have a relationship because that would be weird because of some things. So YES and also NO!!!!!! Also curious what ur answer is Nidhi!!!

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

Keep for myself!!!!!!!! Or maybe tell only my best friend and she must swear she keeps mouth shut or i die immediate because of it!!!!!!!!!! ☠️🆘❌🙅‍♀️

Abbyy @Whatsername_ what about u??

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

Im not sure if i understand the question. So maybe if i see somebody i can say like ow she is pretty as compliment but i mean it. But if it is a guy that i think is handsome i prefer keep it to myself and keeping inside and NOTTT telling it to anybody. And if u have a crush than i think it is more than just saying somebody is attractive because in that case u have more romantic feeling about that person. Im not sure if u mean that?? Maybe @Colin_Der_Backfisch that u can explain it because im not sure what u mean.

That's exactly what I meant! 🙂

Ok these are my answers to the questions (ALSOO the new ones) 😛 😛

1️⃣ What do you think is attractive of LOOKS of a person that u like? For example long or short hair or bold, height, skin colour, older looking or younger or having baird or moustache, tattoos, piercings, jewelry, make up style, type of clothing or ANYTHING that u think is pretty.

I think @Korisnik is right about that looks are ALSO important but i think also that it does not mean that u must have a type. So for example if i watch a series i can think like somebody is nice but than that person can look really different than another person that looks special to u. But still some things are that it is nicer if the guy is taller than me but that is not really difficult. 😬😬🙄🙄🙄 I think it is nice if a person can make u calm and feel secure and i know that is mostly about character but i also think it is about how he looks. So u feel from only the look already that he respects u and that u can feel ok. Im not sure if others understand what i mean but already from a look u can tell that a bit. 🤭🫣🫣 Im not a big fan if a guy is super flashyyy with a LOTTT of jewelry or has clothes with super big brand logos or only wears things that are expensive and that he looks down if u just wear from H&M for example or other more normal clothes. And also it is nice if he has good hygene and u see he takes good care of himself. Sorryy if is super long list!!! 😵‍💫🤐

2️⃣ What do you think is attractive of CHARACTER and how that person is from feelings and as person? So for example: super confident or shy or caring or like leader, being very smart or social or other things?

I think the most important for me is that u feel safe and calm with him. And i dont only mean safe like he does not hurt u in any way but also that for example he does not joke or gossip about u or that if u maybe suggest something that he only turns it down and thinks it is stupid. So that he respects u and that u can also be urself and it is ok. 🙂 I think those are the most important things. And of course that he can be trusted and faithful so if u give ur ❤️ to him that he does not break it when he can and does not care at all.

3️⃣ What do u think is most important: looks or character? And is it enough for relationship that u have ONLY attractiveness of looks or character or only both?

I think character is the MOST important and i know maybe it is super weird but i think that also u can see little bit from that in the look. Because if u are with a person u also have a feeling how he is as person EVENNN if it is only from the look still u have that strong feeling if u know how he is.

4️⃣ Are u surprised about the study above of the men and women faces and of MAFS that lot of women turned the guys down because of the looks but not the other way??

No not anymore of the men and women faces but i wrote that already above this post but at first YESSS but now no not anymore!! And about MAFS still yes because i expected it more from men that they would turn down their bride ONLY because of the look but it is mostly the other way around. But maybe it is also because the men were too much liking the bride so that they wanted to keep the relationship and the brides doubted it more.

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu)

If u mean really relationship then NOO!!!!!! I feel not ready for that now even if others think it is stupid and u should already have at least one relationship now or maybe more but i just feel that way now. And if u mean like mini crush from series or other things than maybe yes but that is different that u would really have a relationship because that would be weird because of some things. So YES and also NO!!!!!! Also curious what ur answer is Nidhi!!!

➡️ How would you tell someone that they are attractive, would you tell them right on the spot or keep to for yourself? (question from @Whatsername_)

Keep for myself!!!!!!!! Or maybe tell only my best friend and she must swear she keeps mouth shut or i die immediate because of it!!!!!!!!!! ☠️🆘❌🙅‍♀️

Abbyy @Whatsername_ what about u??

➡️ What does it mean for you to consider someone attractive? Is that different from having an objective crush? Or not? (Question from @Colin_Der_Backfisch)

Yes.. I should say ...yes. I see women I'm attracted to or find attractive almost everyday. But I never go any further than finding them attractive.

Im not sure if i understand the question. So maybe if i see somebody i can say like ow she is pretty as compliment but i mean it. But if it is a guy that i think is handsome i prefer keep it to myself and keeping inside and NOTTT telling it to anybody. And if u have a crush than i think it is more than just saying somebody is attractive because in that case u have more romantic feeling about that person. Im not sure if u mean that?? Maybe @Colin_Der_Backfisch that u can explain it because im not sure what u meame

yeah. It went something like this

Me: what it is?

Her: oh, I'm fine, how are you?

Me: not as fine as you.

That was a good month for me. I got two numbers with call backs using that line.

➡️ Have you ever gone out of your way or liked someone who is not even your typee??? (question from @Nishu

Yeah. When i was like, 14, and I quickly learned...

1) never punch above your weight

2) crushing on someone who is unattainable or unavailable is a waste of time and effort

3) stay in your comfort zone when it comes to romance and dating, unless you're committed to major changes in your life.

That's exactly what I meant! 🙂

Owww hahah good to know that!!! 😛 😛 I was a bit confused but i thought that is what i would maybe mean so just replied about that!! 🙂

yeah. It went something like this

Me: what it is?

Her: oh, I'm fine, how are you?

Me: not as fine as you.

That was a good month for me. I got two numbers with call backs using that line.

I know lot of people do that but i have NO IDEA how u can say that without dying in the floor right that moment from fear what they say and do!!! 😵‍💫😵‍💫🤐☠️ I think it is really brave but i cant do that and ALSO be still alive no way!!! 🙅‍♀️

Yeah. When i was like, 14, and I quickly learned...

1) never punch above your weight

2) crushing on someone who is unattainable or unavailable is a waste of time and effort

3) stay in your comfort zone when it comes to romance and dating, unless you're committed to major changes in your life.

Can u maybe tell what happened or is maybe super private? Sorryyy if i ask too privately now!!! 🫢🫣🤐🤐