🙄❤️ Love Reset 🤷‍♀️😬

Hellooo everybody! 🙋‍♀️ I saw on a website that today is love reset day. And i read the explanation here: https://nationaltoday.com/love-reset-day/ but it is also super confusing. So i think they mean it is a day that if you are not in love or if you are in love but your relationship does not go really well that you reset it?? Like yourself or maybe the relationship?

And can i ask three questions bc i think they maybe are also important for love reset day:

1️⃣ Do you think a Love Reset Day is good or not?

2️⃣ What do you think is the most important for a relationship that you dont need a reset day?

3️⃣ Do you think ppl are more happy now or in the past of relationships?

Thank you very much for anybody who likes to answer or write abt this below!!! 🙏🙏😊🥰

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The article is a bit ambiguous; it doesn't really explain the meaning of "Reset," and in my opinion, it does that on purpose. There are moments when I agree with its statements, like when it says to love yourself so that you can build yourself up and that love will eventually arrive, and that if you're not happy with yourself, any relationship is going to be harder.

But for the rest, it feels like the writer is just trying to find excuses and avoid any responsibility for past and current experiences. For example: "If you're anxious or jealous, pause the relationship." That doesn't make any sense. The problem is exactly that, if you don't communicate with your partner, how can you fix problems?

I've learned this by reflecting on my past mistakes, what went wrong, why it happened, and how I can avoid it from happening again and certainly not by just hanging out with friends, writing myself love letters, or throwing myself into my career.

1️⃣ Do you think a Love Reset Day is good or not? Its good to take xare of your self love so if you work on yourself you will not need an love reset day

2️⃣ What do you think is the most important for a relationship that you dont need a reset day? Conversations ,people dont talk anymore

3️⃣ Do you think ppl are more happy now or in the past of relationships?i think its the same but nowdays when they are not happy in a relationship they look for it on the internet ☹️

hey @Yue_ very interesting forum againn✨✨✨

1. I think the theory of a love reset day is pretty cool, like hanging out with friends and treating yourself good, but in my opinion you should work on urself and your relationships everytime and improve things, not just one day

2. i think talking about everything or maybe quality time together prevents misunderstandings and stuff, so like @Fleurke said, communication is very important

3. I think problems exist in every relationship, just different. In the past it was handled different i think, so maybe thats why it seems like they were happier, or maybe they were, idk🥲

The article is a bit ambiguous; it doesn't really explain the meaning of "Reset," and in my opinion, it does that on purpose. There are moments when I agree with its statements, like when it says to love yourself so that you can build yourself up and that love will eventually arrive, and that if you're not happy with yourself, any relationship is going to be harder.

But for the rest, it feels like the writer is just trying to find excuses and avoid any responsibility for past and current experiences. For example: "If you're anxious or jealous, pause the relationship." That doesn't make any sense. The problem is exactly that, if you don't communicate with your partner, how can you fix problems?

I've learned this by reflecting on my past mistakes, what went wrong, why it happened, and how I can avoid it from happening again and certainly not by just hanging out with friends, writing myself love letters, or throwing myself into my career.

It is really nice to read what you write bc you also say that it is super confusing!!! And some things you dont agree right what they said. Thanksss that you took time to write everything!!! I want to think bit more also before i can answer like @Fleurke and @lori4na but my head feels now bit like 😵‍💫😵‍💫 bc of other stuff but i will also try to answer tomorrow the 3 questions!!! Thanks very much also Fleurke and Loriii for answering!!!!! 🙏🙏❤️

Thank you for tagging me! It's an interesting concept. For me, try to love urself and ur friends first, and then maybe consider having a relationship. Therefore I actually love the idea of having a love-reset day that reminds people to put their own feelings in the first place. Even the perfect relationships need to be reset now and then. Actually, not to be a pessimistic aromantic, I believe people should ask themselves "What do I get from this relationship", "Do I really need a relationship now?/Is it in any way good for me right now?" or "Why do I love my partner? Is it just hormone?", "Do I love my partner or do I just love dating someone". Love-reset day sounds like a perfect opportunity to think about these questions. By the way, the fact that love-reset day is one day after valentine's day is kinda funny. Feel like a perfect excuse to say "we should break up" after receiving a shitty valentine's day gift lol.

Hellooo everybody! 🙋‍♀️ I saw on a website that today is love reset day. And i read the explanation here: https://nationaltoday.com/love-reset-day/ but it is also super confusing. So i think they mean it is a day that if you are not in love or if you are in love but your relationship does not go really well that you reset it?? Like yourself or maybe the relationship?

And can i ask three questions bc i think they maybe are also important for love reset day:

1️⃣ Do you think a Love Reset Day is good or not?

2️⃣ What do you think is the most important for a relationship that you dont need a reset day?

3️⃣ Do you think ppl are more happy now or in the past of relationships?

Thank you very much for anybody who likes to answer or write abt this below!!! 🙏🙏😊🥰

These are tags of some ppl who we hope that want to answer the questions but we hope others will answer too bc it will be nice and funny to read we think!!! THANKSSSS very much!!!! 🙏🌈🌞⭐

@Etienne, @Simone724, @mayuuram, @Fleurke, @Idkbro, @Miss_Penpal, @diogenes_cask, @AgDel, @psysarah15, @Sabri_KC, @Colin_Der_Backfisch, @PinkiePie, @Torakka, @Vixie, @Lianshen, @_Aizhan_, @Nishu, @chiikawaattack, @Karumen, @Kittenwhiskes, @shirazikira, @Vixie, @lori4na, @Waterpol8girlll, @Douglasgao, @Hannah-, @Marco_ita89, @rambob, @H_E_A_R_T, @Lir_Elhan, @Piwipete, @Parsaa, @Jullian, @Savi2024, @Wildflower-Farm, @Call_me_mattia, @Pennarossa2024, @Diamond22, @Annika2007, @martutuni, @frozenpizza001, @PeterPositiv, @CharlesX, @Yannick_Islander, @BambooBlue, @Viovio_Sheronsky1205, @vtt3613, @JanyiahMoon27, @Kotyaka2023

1) I don’t know why we would need it, we have enough special days in the calendar tf is a love reset day💔

2) freedom?

3) I don’t really know depends on the people. Today it is a litle bit faster w relationships and people are like less serious.

Hiiii!! Thanks for taging meee<33

1️⃣ Do you think a Love Reset Day is good or not?

Well i like the idea, in my country things like valentines day aren't really celebrated. And i read somewhere that we are the second most single country in the world... So i think it's good to focus on self love and all that

2️⃣ What do you think is the most important for a relationship that you dont need a reset day?

Mhmmmm, thats hard personally i think its good to get a so called reset so you both get to look at the good but also bad sides of your relationship.

3️⃣ Do you think ppl are more happy now or in the past of relationships?

I think there's a lot more possibility to speak about the hard parts now, like it's more acceptable to show your feelings and talk about the stuff you struggle with than it was in the past.

At the same time, nowadays people are a lot more selfish and often say selfcare as an excuse to wiggle out of responsibility's in a relationship/friendship and such.

Thats all, once again thanksss

In our marriage my wife and I have failed to implement a fixed date on which a “love reset” is apparently scheduled to occur. Nevertheless, the existence of such a day of introspection may serve as a gentle reminder that certain processes are ongoing.

In our relationship we have a very low barrier to talk about basically anything. No holds barred in a gentle setting - I do not mean the predecessor of MMA in an octagon or a ring - is quite valuable in order to detect tiny areas to work on or any other perceived imbalances at an early stage. Makes life much easier and significantly better.

______________________________________________LOVE-and-LIGHT____________

>>> LOVE is what we long and strive for. If you have ever truly
loved someone, you will be infinte grateful for it!

WHY? Well, the rest is just distraction,
entertainment ... often even delusion.

RESET? YES,... from delusion.

I have absolutely no understanding of what that could possibly mean except a disguised ads from the founder of the said day...

I have absolutely no understanding of what that could possibly mean except a disguised ads from the founder of the said day...

I also think it is super confusing still @Lianshen!!! ANd this time is first that i cant even answer the own questions i made above abt that day and the topic bc im not fully sure. 🙄🙄

I want to tell you a little about my relationship for the past 6 years. I believe that even though a couple has a lot in common in tastes, hobbies, politic view, etc; ups and downs in a relationship are inevitable, and that's very normal.

so, when I read the concept of love reset, it reminded me of when my relationship was at a low point (it's like month before he got me a ring), we almost breaking up and I felt like there was no more love or it wasn't worth holding on to.

The reason why I feel that way is because of one or two things, which I don't wanna tell. but At that moment, I felt very tired, but also anxious.

and not long after that, There is content on IG created by a doctor who said that a relationship will feel more relaxed, harmonious, safe and comfortable if both partners show the same attachment style, it is divided into 4, anxious, avoidant, disorganized and secure.

Although in psychology, the healthiest pattern is the secure one, at least if anxious meets anxious or both have the same attachment style, at least it will cause less drama/conflict.

okay, back to the story, In short, the content really helped me, because it turns out that our attachment styles are different. And long story short, after days of calming down, I was ready to face that low point, at that moment i decided to meet him and talk about we have to fix this and try to be equally secure.

What I'm trying to say is, a love reset is actually a very normal thing, because relationships will definitely have ups and downs. And I think it's the right moment to reevaluate whether the relationship is worth it or not to continue. and if they choose to stay, usually the couple's relationship becomes stronger and more harmonious than before.

The point is, if in the relationship, you or both of you don't have space for self-introspection and relationship evaluation, Actually, that's bad for the future, because you're not used to fixing each other. which only led to confusion, because neither of you don't really knows for sure where your relationship happiness level is (just based on assumptions).

Don't let your relationship be the same as my parents' relationship, which was like a master and a servant. only one who can orders/demands/corrects, the other only obeys and accepts; even though in reality the judgment is so biassed and super error (manipulative). don't.

I confess I haven't read it.

That said, relationships are (also) made up of compromises, and constant affection, regardless of what the media or common romantic opinion may say, is not necessarily positive.

Short emotional breaks can improve a relationship.

‘Reset’ seems like something that belongs to the narrow-minded feminist movement, which is why I didn't open the link.

I confess I haven't read it.

That said, relationships are (also) made up of compromises, and constant affection, regardless of what the media or common romantic opinion may say, is not necessarily positive.

Short emotional breaks can improve a relationship.

‘Reset’ seems like something that belongs to the narrow-minded feminist movement, which is why I didn't open the link.

Thank you very much @Nightdew!! 🙏🙏 I am not completely sure of it but i think that reset is the same as like you said an emotional break. But i like the most what ppl write above like for example what you say about the affection and that compromises are also important!! And also the things others wrote above. 🙂 Grazie a lot for posting!!! 😊😇😇