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I think it also highly depends in which stadium you and your partner are in your life. If one of them is still studying, while the other wants to settle down, it's not going to work out eventually. An age gap of 5 years would be kinda bad if one of them is 17 and the other is 22. Whereas 33 and 38 would be acceptable for most people. Same with bigger age gaps. 20 and 40 would be weird, but 40 and 60 less, because they're adults who most likely figured themselves out more over the years. I couldn't date someone years younger than me now, as they're still children to me. I wouldn't mind someone a little older, as boys tend to grow up slower than girls. And no, that's not sexist. Also, I don't get golddiggers. Like alright, you want money, but you're really going to go for it that way? I couldn't. That's my view on this topic.

I never understood gold diggers, I once read a story in a magazine about a woman who married a very rich man and had children with him. She almost didn't want to sleep with her husband because he was so ugly, but she stayed with it because she lived a life of luxury. in my eyes is that you are selling your soul to the devil

TOPIC TODAY: TODAY WHEN PEOPLE ARE DIVORCE FROM THEIR PARTNER WHY DO THEY GO LATER WITH SOMEONE MUCH YOUNGER. I KNOW IN SOME RELIGIONS, MARRYING A YOUNGER WOMAN IS A GUARANTEE THAT SHE WILL HELP YOU LATER AS YOU GET OLDER. TODAY I SEE WOMEN OF 25 WITH MEN OF 60 AND WOMEN OF 65 WITH MEN OF 30 I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR YOUR HONEST OPINION (PLEASE SERIOUS REACTIONS) I MYSELF COULD NEVER GO WITH SOMEONE WHO IS 20 YEARS YOUNGER. WHERE IS THE BORDER FOR YOU?

WHY ARE YOU YELLING???

I don't see so many couples like that, but it seems to be more prevalent than before.
For young man with an older woman, I'd say that it starts to be a "new trend" (not so new, not so real either) I noticed on internet, maybe because of some website/content... or because they believe that young women don't worth the effort/are not accessible on the "love market", because internet says so. Generally though, I think that you will generally not find a 20years old man with a woman 60+, otherwise, it's obviously a gigolo. Nonetheless, those couples are more for "fun" and both women and men in this kind of relationship know that it won't last long.

For a young woman and an older man, I think it is more comon as women want a """more mature""" man, and a man focus on appearance/sign of fertility. Evolutionnary biology would state that women are naturally more inclined to pick a man who has more resources (better established, with better work, social position...) as it is not so easy to determine reproductive values from physical traits only, whereas men tend to prefer young women because that is when they are the most fertile.
I guess that a huge age gap might be because those traits are a bit exagerrated to some extent (maybe by socio-cultural practices).

On my part, like @-Kiki- said, I wouldn't have dated a girl 6 years younger than me when I was 20, but today, things are completely different and here I see myself doing something I different.

It is just ridicules the max age gap between me and my future partner should be 4 years (4 years are creepy but OKAY) (The rest is creepy when u think through it!) for example: I m 24 my future partner 20 or my future partner 24 and I am 20 NOT MORE (THE BEST: sammmmmmeee aggeeee)

You are 14. 4 years differences when you are 14 or 30 is world apart.
There is also a "rule" stating that a man should look for a woman half his age + 7.

WHY ARE YOU YELLING???

I don't see so many couples like that, but it seems to be more prevalent than before.
For young man with an older woman, I'd say that it starts to be a "new trend" (not so new, not so real either) I noticed on internet, maybe because of some website/content... or because they believe that young women don't worth the effort/are not accessible on the "love market", because internet says so. Generally though, I think that you will generally not find a 20years old man with a woman 60+, otherwise, it's obviously a gigolo. Nonetheless, those couples are more for "fun" and both women and men in this kind of relationship know that it won't last long.

For a young woman and an older man, I think it is more comon as women want a """more mature""" man, and a man focus on appearance/sign of fertility. Evolutionnary biology would state that women are naturally more inclined to pick a man who has more resources (better established, with better work, social position...) as it is not so easy to determine reproductive values from physical traits only, whereas men tend to prefer young women because that is when they are the most fertile.
I guess that a huge age gap might be because those traits are a bit exagerrated to some extent (maybe by socio-cultural practices).

On my part, like @-Kiki- said, I wouldn't have dated a girl 6 years younger than me when I was 20, but today, things are completely different and here I see myself doing something I different.

You are 14. 4 years differences when you are 14 or 30 is world apart.
There is also a "rule" stating that a man should look for a woman half his age + 7.

where do you see me screaming? I have never heard or seen anyone shout in a written topic

You are 14. 4 years differences when you are 14 or 30 is world apart.
There is also a "rule" stating that a man should look for a woman half his age + 7.

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where do you see me screaming? I have never heard or seen anyone shout in a written topic

Caps lock is used to "yell" on internet.

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4 years differences for a 14 means either 10 or 18. There is a monumental difference in brain and body development between these ages.
If your "??" was refering to the rule, it's an old rule. It states that if you are 14, your ideal partner should be 14/2+7 (hence 14 years old), but if you are 30, then 30/2+7 = 22. This "rule" was mainly coined for men looking for women.

Caps lock is used to "yell" on internet.

4 years differences for a 14 means either 10 or 18. There is a monumental difference in brain and body development between these ages.
If your "??" was refering to the rule, it's an old rule. It states that if you are 14, your ideal partner should be 14/2+7 (hence 14 years old), but if you are 30, then 30/2+7 = 22. This "rule" was mainly coined for men looking for women.

yeah okay now i understand what u mean but yeah my opinion from NOW i guess i ll not chnge it 😂

I think that everyone has a personal life and opinions, but if we want to think that in the future this will spread and problems will arise, then I think it is not very interesting, but if a percentage of people are like this, then we should say that it is their personal life, of course. Many people are not interested in this opinion!

TOPIC TODAY: TODAY WHEN PEOPLE ARE DIVORCE FROM THEIR PARTNER WHY DO THEY GO LATER WITH SOMEONE MUCH YOUNGER. I KNOW IN SOME RELIGIONS, MARRYING A YOUNGER WOMAN IS A GUARANTEE THAT SHE WILL HELP YOU LATER AS YOU GET OLDER. TODAY I SEE WOMEN OF 25 WITH MEN OF 60 AND WOMEN OF 65 WITH MEN OF 30 I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR YOUR HONEST OPINION (PLEASE SERIOUS REACTIONS) I MYSELF COULD NEVER GO WITH SOMEONE WHO IS 20 YEARS YOUNGER. WHERE IS THE BORDER FOR YOU?

From my personal observations, there are several factors that are the basis for consideration.

1. Those who are younger see older people as being better able to give them direction, better able to understand them, better able to accept their strengths and weaknesses without having to overreact. like when faced with a problem, those who are younger consider that at least they are not in a prolonged drama or a small problem that is blown out of proportion.

2. If the previous factors are not the case, it could be due to economic factors. the fact, the older we get, the higher and more mature our positions and the more money we have.

3. If these two factors are not the reasons they base their attention on, it could be that there is an element of grooming. It could be that before they are finally of legal age, the older person slowly grooms them. especially if it turns out that the younger party has daddy issues

4. actually it's their sugar daddy/mommy hahaha

personally, for such a long age difference.. I find myself a bit wondering, because it seems like you married your father/mother. like, how can???
(unless suddenly tom felton or tom hiddleston ask me out, well, even though they are starting to enter their 40s, at least they are still hot haha)

but from the perspective of the person who does it, it is more or less like the factors I have described. like it or not, and it might seems weird.. but the world is like this, not everyone is the same.

From my personal observations, there are several factors that are the basis for consideration.

1. Those who are younger see older people as being better able to give them direction, better able to understand them, better able to accept their strengths and weaknesses without having to overreact. like when faced with a problem, those who are younger consider that at least they are not in a prolonged drama or a small problem that is blown out of proportion.

2. If the previous factors are not the case, it could be due to economic factors. the fact, the older we get, the higher and more mature our positions and the more money we have.

3. If these two factors are not the reasons they base their attention on, it could be that there is an element of grooming. It could be that before they are finally of legal age, the older person slowly grooms them. especially if it turns out that the younger party has daddy issues

4. actually it's their sugar daddy/mommy hahaha

personally, for such a long age difference.. I find myself a bit wondering, because it seems like you married your father/mother. like, how can???
(unless suddenly tom felton or tom hiddleston ask me out, well, even though they are starting to enter their 40s, at least they are still hot haha)

but from the perspective of the person who does it, it is more or less like the factors I have described. like it or not, and it might seems weird.. but the world is like this, not everyone is the same.

Number 4 make me laufg

Number 4 make me laufg

it's an open secret hahaha

I don't think age matters a lot in a relationship, but 15 years of difference is starting to be a bit much.

Age gap in relationships, isn't such an enigmatic matter I think. There is some common rule: "People desire what they don't have". An old person has no more "energy, biology, and even anatomy of youth", a young person has no "material flexibility, social status and power". It seems to me kind of a Commensalism.

Age gap in relationships, isn't such an enigmatic matter I think. There is some common rule: "People desire what they don't have". An old person has no more "energy, biology, and even anatomy of youth", a young person has no "material flexibility, social status and power". It seems to me kind of a Commensalism.

Thanks for you opinion

Age gap in relationships, isn't such an enigmatic matter I think. There is some common rule: "People desire what they don't have". An old person has no more "energy, biology, and even anatomy of youth", a young person has no "material flexibility, social status and power". It seems to me kind of a Commensalism.

How to know about 'desire' ? Is it happen to all?

I think most of the times if you have a relationship the guy is a bit older almost always. But my dad is 5 years older than my mom but i dont think that is a problem. So the only thing that is important is that they are very happy and I hope always. 🥰🥰

How to know about 'desire' ? Is it happen to all?

Only "desire" wins over public stigma since the desire is kind of a rodent on our common sense. Of course not valid in each and every case but yet exception proves the rule.

Only "desire" wins over public stigma since the desire is kind of a rodent on our common sense. Of course not valid in each and every case but yet exception proves the rule.

Fair enough. And what do you think, is the desire itself are bad?

Fair enough. And what do you think, is the desire itself are bad?

Stoicism seems to grasp that desire is social in nature, but assumes that people can basically learn to become indifferent to desire through stoic practices. It means that's neither good, nor bad but natural. If your desires are the sculptor of your character, then that's kind of a bad art.