Yep! Born and raised but I've been living in Turin for almost 20 years ☺️
thats awesome i have a friend in turin hope its nice their
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@marylinmanson sorryyy i cant write a lot now bc it is super late and im almost too tired to sleep!!! 😛 😛 BUTTT u should read this: interview with Chantal and i didnt check but im almost 100% sure she also talks abt Turin where she lives 🙂
Have a nice evening everybody!!!!!! 🥱🥱😴😴😴⭐✨
Yeah, Turin is a wonderful city 😍 there's a lot to see
oooo how wonderfull i cant wait to goo one day
@marylinmanson sorryyy i cant write a lot now bc it is super late and im almost too tired to sleep!!! 😛 😛 BUTTT u should read this: interview with Chantal and i didnt check but im almost 100% sure she also talks abt Turin where she lives 🙂
Have a nice evening everybody!!!!!! 🥱🥱😴😴😴⭐✨
Yes, I talked about Turin, I'm really in love with this city 😍
thnxxx @marylinmanson for posting!! 🙏🙏😊😊 but i dont understand exactly what happened bc it was in a group or u mean that u had two relationships?
ANDDD @-Phil- i wanted to say that u write really beautiful like what u said a sun opening in me each time my eyes met her eyes i never heard smb write that. It is really beautiful. But what from your story really also got me is that u wrote abt cultural differences. That is smt that worries me a LOTTT. Ok so let me explain. I live in The Netherlands and like in school for example and other things everything is Dutch. But in our house it is more that my parents think Chinese culture is more important and it is also me. So i really think how u do that in a good way if u have a relationship with a person who is NOTTT from Chinese culture but u also dont want that he feels like u think ur culture is more important than him or his or maybe it could be a problem in other ways bc i ALSOOO dont want my parents to feel like it is not good and u dont care abt our home anymore. So it feels like u can only do it wrong and not good. What was in your first love the cultural difference and what happened as the biggest problems?
To @Niko_Formi i also want to say thank u very much for writing abt u and what happened!!! Im not sure what u discovered bc u said u found out things but i hope that it was not super painful for u and that u are ok now!!!! And one thing that i wanted to say is i understand what u said that it’s more a feeling, so it’s difficult to explain abt how u know the other person has a crush on u. But that is also the most difficult bc if u THINK that it is maybe the case but u are not really sure u can also be really making a mistake and that u didnt understand it correctly. And in that case it can maybe be super embarrassing. Or at least that is what i would be most afraid of.
Thank you very much again @Olenaaaa for writing!!! And im really sorry what happened bc if u date a person then you DONT think that he has a fiancee or a relationship with smb else. BUTTTT i think that is not your fault bc you could not know abt it. So i think it is HIS mistake that he didnt tell you and he should not do that bc he hurts both you and also his fiancee. I really hope that all the hurt and pain goes away bc i think you deserve smb a LOTTTTTTT better. 🥰❤️ Btw it is really nice that u said abt Paris bc i want to maybe study in Paris for 3 or maybe 6 months in the future if i go to university. Or maybe another French city like for example Lyon or other places. 🙂
Paris is a great city! I would say it revealed me and showed that I’m capable for me. This city is so loud and can be really calm and silent, depends on what are you looking for. I think Paris is about that everyone can be that version of yourself without being afraid of judgement. This is how I perceive this city. Also I believe you had heard about expression “Paris is the city of love”, and I would say that for me it was love to myself, where I’ve learned how to love myself, how to appreciate and to choose myself.
It was the place which healed me after this story. I proud of myself because I didn’t give up and was able to move on. Talking about him, I can say only that he doesn’t respect himself since can’t respect his own choice and brings pain to other people.
Paris is a great city! I would say it revealed me and showed that I’m capable for me. This city is so loud and can be really calm and silent, depends on what are you looking for. I think Paris is about that everyone can be that version of yourself without being afraid of judgement. This is how I perceive this city. Also I believe you had heard about expression “Paris is the city of love”, and I would say that for me it was love to myself, where I’ve learned how to love myself, how to appreciate and to choose myself.It was the place which healed me after this story. I proud of myself because I didn’t give up and was able to move on. Talking about him, I can say only that he doesn’t respect himself since can’t respect his own choice and brings pain to other people.
im sorry for confusing you i had 2 relation ships
ANDDD @-Phil- i wanted to say that u write really beautiful like what u said a sun opening in me each time my eyes met her eyes i never heard smb write that. It is really beautiful. But what from your story really also got me is that u wrote abt cultural differences. That is smt that worries me a LOTTT. Ok so let me explain. I live in The Netherlands and like in school for example and other things everything is Dutch. But in our house it is more that my parents think Chinese culture is more important and it is also me. So i really think how u do that in a good way if u have a relationship with a person who is NOTTT from Chinese culture but u also dont want that he feels like u think ur culture is more important than him or his or maybe it could be a problem in other ways bc i ALSOOO dont want my parents to feel like it is not good and u dont care abt our home anymore. So it feels like u can only do it wrong and not good. What was in your first love the cultural difference and what happened as the biggest problems?
Cultural differences can be bridged but both need to build part of the bridge, and indeed there is a risk that parents, family, friends reject the bridge being built, making it difficult for us, humans in need of belonging to "our" group. Back in 1991, it was maybe not that obvious.though I sincerely hope it's not as difficult nowadays than then. For the rest, I'll reply in PM
Paris is a great city! I would say it revealed me and showed that I’m capable for me. This city is so loud and can be really calm and silent, depends on what are you looking for. I think Paris is about that everyone can be that version of yourself without being afraid of judgement. This is how I perceive this city. Also I believe you had heard about expression “Paris is the city of love”, and I would say that for me it was love to myself, where I’ve learned how to love myself, how to appreciate and to choose myself.It was the place which healed me after this story. I proud of myself because I didn’t give up and was able to move on. Talking about him, I can say only that he doesn’t respect himself since can’t respect his own choice and brings pain to other people.
It is really beautiful how u described it abt that Paris healed u in that way and is city of LOVEEEE bc now u also love yourself again too!!! 😊😊🥰🥰 I know that @Sabri_KC lives not really far from Paris so maybe he has also nice tips maybe for the next time if u go!!! 🙂 I was in Paris one time with my family and we saw a LOTTT of things bc we try to see as many things that we can in EVERY day!!! 😛 😛 I like it except in museums like the Louvre bc my mom walks SOOO fast to every next famous painting it goes too fast and i prefer see LESS but that u can look longer. But the city is very beautiful but i think you saw the most beautiful Paris bc what it means for you!!! 🌈🌞❤️
Cultural differences can be bridged but both need to build part of the bridge, and indeed there is a risk that parents, family, friends reject the bridge being built, making it difficult for us, humans in need of belonging to "our" group. Back in 1991, it was maybe not that obvious.though I sincerely hope it's not as difficult nowadays than then. For the rest, I'll reply in PM
Thank u very much @-Phil- and u really made me think of also DIFFERENT TYPES of cultural differences and some tbh i didnt think of yet and some others i think can be a problem but it depends bc u dont know how others will react abt it. But i think my parents are not TOOOO strict abt some things of differences. But i also didnt really talk much abt it tbh so it is more how they are now if i have friends who are Dutch or from other backgrounds that they meet. 😬🙄 But i do think it is super funny when my dad tries to speak Dutch with them and tries to act more Dutch bc im not used to that!!! 😛
For who likes to know it i saw on the list of things today that it is today National Ex Spouse day. So i read abt it bc i didnt know abt this day and here it is explained online:
National Ex Spouse Day, curiously inserted into the calendar exactly two months after Valentine’s Day, has become a time to reflect on the positive moments you shared with your ex. That’s correct. Look — you married them. There must have been something you liked — that is, before they snapped.
Think of them fondly — before celebrating the fact that they’re gone.
You can read more abt it here where i copied it: https://nationaltoday.com/national-ex-spouse-day/ but i think that part is also really beautiful!!!!!!!!!!!! ❣️❣️❣️ But of course if there are terrible things that happened than it is most of the pain that u can feel. But maybe for others it is also different a bit and that they remember beautiful things too. 🌸🌹✨🌈🌞
Can i ask: did anybody ever doubt to tell to others that maybe you have a first relationship or because you think maybe others also think it is embarrassing (for example if they think that he is maybe in a way that they think is not cool or because they have other strong opinions about things)?
Can i ask: did anybody ever doubt to tell to others that maybe you have a first relationship or because you think maybe others also think it is embarrassing (for example if they think that he is maybe in a way that they think is not cool or because they have other strong opinions about things)?
My relationship was only know by my closest friends and my family because we didn’t want people to judge us as he was a grade above me. I did get out in the end and I couldn’t walk around the school without people shouting after me wanting me to confirm that we were together or to answer questions
My relationship was only know by my closest friends and my family because we didn’t want people to judge us as he was a grade above me. I did get out in the end and I couldn’t walk around the school without people shouting after me wanting me to confirm that we were together or to answer questions
Oww that i completely forgot about that if the relationship stops that everybody in the whole school asks about it!! 😬😬😬
Can i ask: did anybody ever doubt to tell to others that maybe you have a first relationship or because you think maybe others also think it is embarrassing (for example if they think that he is maybe in a way that they think is not cool or because they have other strong opinions about things)?
I think that at your age it is actually the normal, expected behaviour. It is something you're not used to. It is something well outside the comfort or security zone. A lot un uncharted territory.
I haven't started a new relationship in 25 years ( that's the point of being married ) , but I can tell you that for a long time I was very cautious about what I showed whenever starting anything new. Uncertainties and then need to protect what is still fragile. My recent experience is more about the other end of the relationship. But even then, I did not show anything to the outside about what was crumbling and falling in pieces in me until it came to the light and the damage on me and on my soul could not be concealed.
What if I now started a new relationship? That's just pure theoretical, rethorical, you don't start anything new at 55, you stay on the side of the road, Hell, you stay there even for "friendship" after all 🙁 , as if you were not there anymore already. I know. I think I would take a time to build the link and until then that would be secret. That would only be the business of two persons : me and her. But if and once it builds up eventually, then that would be the colours I would fly and I wouldn't care about whatever the others would have to say on her or our relation.
I think that at your age it is actually the normal, expected behaviour. It is something you're not used to. It is something well outside the comfort or security zone. A lot un uncharted territory.
I haven't started a new relationship in 25 years ( that's the point of being married ) , but I can tell you that for a long time I was very cautious about what I showed whenever starting anything new. Uncertainties and then need to protect what is still fragile. My recent experience is more about the other end of the relationship. But even then, I did not show anything to the outside about what was crumbling and falling in pieces in me until it came to the light and the damage on me and on my soul could not be concealed.
What if I now started a new relationship? That's just pure theoretical, rethorical, you don't start anything new at 55, you stay on the side of the road, Hell, you stay there even for "friendship" after all 🙁 , as if you were not there anymore already. I know. I think I would take a time to build the link and until then that would be secret. That would only be the business of two persons : me and her. But if and once it builds up eventually, then that would be the colours I would fly and I wouldn't care about whatever the others would have to say on her or our relation.
I think maybe biggest difference is that if you are at school EVERYBOODDYYY has opinions and say it and i feel like you have 7827391 people who judge you every time or say super loud what they think and not care about anything. So it is why i hesitate a lot about it if you know what others think about your relationship or who you have as boyfriend.
And i really wanted to say is that i hope that you get a new girlfriend that you really ❤️ or lots of friends because you are super friendly and kind!!! 😊😊
Luckily I avoided that as we broke up right when he was graduating and therefore not at the school anymore😅
Vibe you are LUCKKYYY about that but still others can say things and ask questions or just talk about it because they know you both. But it is less stressyyy i think so that is good. And Vibe about the interview from Vigga and Agnes: we go on holiday today and i think the last i can check messages is when we are at the airport around lunch when we fly. So if it is too late for posting it maybe you can post it or i can try when i am in China, but i dont know if the wifi works because we are in a home and not hotel. And it maybe is difficult with the VPN because PPG is blocked in China but i will try!!! But in any case i am back after two weeks!!! 🙏🙏🤗
Vibe you are LUCKKYYY about that but still others can say things and ask questions or just talk about it because they know you both. But it is less stressyyy i think so that is good. And Vibe about the interview from Vigga and Agnes: we go on holiday today and i think the last i can check messages is when we are at the airport around lunch when we fly. So if it is too late for posting it maybe you can post it or i can try when i am in China, but i dont know if the wifi works because we are in a home and not hotel. And it maybe is difficult with the VPN because PPG is blocked in China but i will try!!! But in any case i am back after two weeks!!! 🙏🙏🤗
I can try to post it if the WiFi and VPN isn’t working. If you haven’t been active for a few days I will post it in the interview forum😄
I think maybe biggest difference is that if you are at school EVERYBOODDYYY has opinions and say it and i feel like you have 7827391 people who judge you every time or say super loud what they think and not care about anything. So it is why i hesitate a lot about it if you know what others think about your relationship or who you have as boyfriend.
And i really wanted to say is that i hope that you get a new girlfriend that you really ❤️ or lots of friends because you are super friendly and kind!!! 😊😊
Don't think that the work environment is that different? I for long worked with my best friend. Well or rather someone I worked with for long became my best friend. So we were in contact outside of work, I was offering her chocolate for Easter, flowers for her birthday and tulips for women's day. Not because I had any love interest but because she had become an important and somewhat special person for me. What do you think the others started to think and worse, to say ? One day a colleague asked openly "Do you f...k her ? " . Our boss started to behave in an inconvenient ways towards her ( the guy is very jealous of others and thought "I want that too" ) . A mess. Now we both changed jobs, and things aren't simpler. We're still friends but distance has settled in. thank you colleagues, thank you idiot in chief. This created in her a fear of what others say, and I understand that.
Enjoy your holidays. Don't worry and don't take unnecessary risks using a VPN or else. PPG will still be there when you're back. Enjoy China , and the family 🙏
Don't think that the work environment is that different? I for long worked with my best friend. Well or rather someone I worked with for long became my best friend. So we were in contact outside of work, I was offering her chocolate for Easter, flowers for her birthday and tulips for women's day. Not because I had any love interest but because she had become an important and somewhat special person for me. What do you think the others started to think and worse, to say ? One day a colleague asked openly "Do you f...k her ? " . Our boss started to behave in an inconvenient ways towards her ( the guy is very jealous of others and thought "I want that too" ) . A mess. Now we both changed jobs, and things aren't simpler. We're still friends but distance has settled in. thank you colleagues, thank you idiot in chief. This created in her a fear of what others say, and I understand that.
Enjoy your holidays. Don't worry and don't take unnecessary risks using a VPN or else. PPG will still be there when you're back. Enjoy China , and the family 🙏
Merci beaucoup @-Phil-!!! 🙏🙏❤️ I really think that is unfair because you just tried to be a good friend and just treat her really nice and it is because others had like 10000 opinions that it is now this way and that is really bad. Im really sorryy it is that way. But i also hope that you get real ❤️ back in a GOOD way and others dont get between it!!!!!!!! 🌸🌈🥰 I hope text you and all others reallyyyy soon again when we are back (now we are waiting because we arrived MUCCHHHH too early they said and that my parents were super paranoid so we dont miss the flight)!!!! 😛 😛