🥰 FIRST love ❤️

Can i ask: did anybody ever doubt to tell to others that maybe you have a first relationship or because you think maybe others also think it is embarrassing (for example if they think that he is maybe in a way that they think is not cool or because they have other strong opinions about things)?

I think that at your age it is actually the normal, expected behaviour. It is something you're not used to. It is something well outside the comfort or security zone. A lot un uncharted territory.

I haven't started a new relationship in 25 years ( that's the point of being married ) , but I can tell you that for a long time I was very cautious about what I showed whenever starting anything new. Uncertainties and then need to protect what is still fragile. My recent experience is more about the other end of the relationship. But even then, I did not show anything to the outside about what was crumbling and falling in pieces in me until it came to the light and the damage on me and on my soul could not be concealed.

What if I now started a new relationship? That's just pure theoretical, rethorical, you don't start anything new at 55, you stay on the side of the road, Hell, you stay there even for "friendship" after all 🙁 , as if you were not there anymore already. I know. I think I would take a time to build the link and until then that would be secret. That would only be the business of two persons : me and her. But if and once it builds up eventually, then that would be the colours I would fly and I wouldn't care about whatever the others would have to say on her or our relation.

Oww that i completely forgot about that if the relationship stops that everybody in the whole school asks about it!! 😬😬😬

Luckily I avoided that as we broke up right when he was graduating and therefore not at the school anymore😅

I think that at your age it is actually the normal, expected behaviour. It is something you're not used to. It is something well outside the comfort or security zone. A lot un uncharted territory.

I haven't started a new relationship in 25 years ( that's the point of being married ) , but I can tell you that for a long time I was very cautious about what I showed whenever starting anything new. Uncertainties and then need to protect what is still fragile. My recent experience is more about the other end of the relationship. But even then, I did not show anything to the outside about what was crumbling and falling in pieces in me until it came to the light and the damage on me and on my soul could not be concealed.

What if I now started a new relationship? That's just pure theoretical, rethorical, you don't start anything new at 55, you stay on the side of the road, Hell, you stay there even for "friendship" after all 🙁 , as if you were not there anymore already. I know. I think I would take a time to build the link and until then that would be secret. That would only be the business of two persons : me and her. But if and once it builds up eventually, then that would be the colours I would fly and I wouldn't care about whatever the others would have to say on her or our relation.

I think maybe biggest difference is that if you are at school EVERYBOODDYYY has opinions and say it and i feel like you have 7827391 people who judge you every time or say super loud what they think and not care about anything. So it is why i hesitate a lot about it if you know what others think about your relationship or who you have as boyfriend.

And i really wanted to say is that i hope that you get a new girlfriend that you really ❤️ or lots of friends because you are super friendly and kind!!! 😊😊

Luckily I avoided that as we broke up right when he was graduating and therefore not at the school anymore😅

Vibe you are LUCKKYYY about that but still others can say things and ask questions or just talk about it because they know you both. But it is less stressyyy i think so that is good. And Vibe about the interview from Vigga and Agnes: we go on holiday today and i think the last i can check messages is when we are at the airport around lunch when we fly. So if it is too late for posting it maybe you can post it or i can try when i am in China, but i dont know if the wifi works because we are in a home and not hotel. And it maybe is difficult with the VPN because PPG is blocked in China but i will try!!! But in any case i am back after two weeks!!! 🙏🙏🤗

Vibe you are LUCKKYYY about that but still others can say things and ask questions or just talk about it because they know you both. But it is less stressyyy i think so that is good. And Vibe about the interview from Vigga and Agnes: we go on holiday today and i think the last i can check messages is when we are at the airport around lunch when we fly. So if it is too late for posting it maybe you can post it or i can try when i am in China, but i dont know if the wifi works because we are in a home and not hotel. And it maybe is difficult with the VPN because PPG is blocked in China but i will try!!! But in any case i am back after two weeks!!! 🙏🙏🤗

I can try to post it if the WiFi and VPN isn’t working. If you haven’t been active for a few days I will post it in the interview forum😄

I think maybe biggest difference is that if you are at school EVERYBOODDYYY has opinions and say it and i feel like you have 7827391 people who judge you every time or say super loud what they think and not care about anything. So it is why i hesitate a lot about it if you know what others think about your relationship or who you have as boyfriend.

And i really wanted to say is that i hope that you get a new girlfriend that you really ❤️ or lots of friends because you are super friendly and kind!!! 😊😊

Don't think that the work environment is that different? I for long worked with my best friend. Well or rather someone I worked with for long became my best friend. So we were in contact outside of work, I was offering her chocolate for Easter, flowers for her birthday and tulips for women's day. Not because I had any love interest but because she had become an important and somewhat special person for me. What do you think the others started to think and worse, to say ? One day a colleague asked openly "Do you f...k her ? " . Our boss started to behave in an inconvenient ways towards her ( the guy is very jealous of others and thought "I want that too" ) . A mess. Now we both changed jobs, and things aren't simpler. We're still friends but distance has settled in. thank you colleagues, thank you idiot in chief. This created in her a fear of what others say, and I understand that.

Enjoy your holidays. Don't worry and don't take unnecessary risks using a VPN or else. PPG will still be there when you're back. Enjoy China , and the family 🙏

Don't think that the work environment is that different? I for long worked with my best friend. Well or rather someone I worked with for long became my best friend. So we were in contact outside of work, I was offering her chocolate for Easter, flowers for her birthday and tulips for women's day. Not because I had any love interest but because she had become an important and somewhat special person for me. What do you think the others started to think and worse, to say ? One day a colleague asked openly "Do you f...k her ? " . Our boss started to behave in an inconvenient ways towards her ( the guy is very jealous of others and thought "I want that too" ) . A mess. Now we both changed jobs, and things aren't simpler. We're still friends but distance has settled in. thank you colleagues, thank you idiot in chief. This created in her a fear of what others say, and I understand that.

Enjoy your holidays. Don't worry and don't take unnecessary risks using a VPN or else. PPG will still be there when you're back. Enjoy China , and the family 🙏

Merci beaucoup @-Phil-!!! 🙏🙏❤️ I really think that is unfair because you just tried to be a good friend and just treat her really nice and it is because others had like 10000 opinions that it is now this way and that is really bad. Im really sorryy it is that way. But i also hope that you get real ❤️ back in a GOOD way and others dont get between it!!!!!!!! 🌸🌈🥰 I hope text you and all others reallyyyy soon again when we are back (now we are waiting because we arrived MUCCHHHH too early they said and that my parents were super paranoid so we dont miss the flight)!!!! 😛 😛