What do you think about the friendships between teenagers and adults?

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I think a lot about this when i’m on this website. Personally,now that i am 16 i don’t find exciting to be friends with someone younger (like 11/12/13/13 yrs) and I usually don’t have anything in common with younger people. I am asking this without any judgement,why does adults here are sometimes friends with teenagers ? I DO NOT mean it in an inappropriate and dirty way. I am just genuinely curious. I talked to some women a lot older than me and felt very comfortable and good,with a man it would be a lot different even if his intentions are not bad. I wouldn’t feel “safe” to be honest.

As I said,i don’t think anyone here is a bad person. I am curious to know how from an adult perspective being friends with a teenager is interesting.

I thought that maybe,for teenagers it’s good to talk to adults for advice and deeper conversations,and for adults it’s good to give advices to teenagers and also to talk to someone with a “different” mind. Of course a teenager and an adult are going to have a very different relationship than an adult and another adult or a teenager and another teenager.

What’s your opinion about this? Mine is,I don’t feel comfortable except with women

It’s because you grow up 😊

When you grow up, you become mature. You develop, and your tastes, habits, way of thinking, mentality, all evolve during your teenage years, and it’s totally normal! Then, you end up feeling closer to Adults mentality.

I once were 15 too, and it wasn’t that long ago! This is how I experienced it and how adults explain it to me. I think I’m still changing, usually there’s still a phase of big changes in your that shakes up your emotions a little, and it usually starts in teenage years until your early-mid twenties. 🙂

And since your way of thinking has developed, you begin to feel a distance between yours and that of the younger ones. You feel you’re growing up, and you start to feel a certain gap with the younger generation, you don't always understand why they behave in one way or another, so you feel that becoming friends with them becomes more complicated.

So you end up getting closer to the older people who have gone through this period of construction, sometimes a long time ago, and who understand you or whom you yourself understand. This is my take on it I think.

is that what you feel, or do you feel something different ? 🙂

I personally never felt specially uncomfortable about talking to other adults, because usually it’s about cordial and simple conversations about life, culture, etc.

But if it becomes more personal, it becomes complicated, so you still need to be careful on the internet.

Stay safe Rose 🙂

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As long as its friebdship and not love (i mean between teenagers and adults), no problem.

I can only write for me so i hope that people think it is ok. So I think that half my friends are adults and the other half my age and i like BOTHHH!! 🥰🥰 For me it is the most important that it is nice to chat about funny things or super serious things and that everybody is nice and kind to you. That is for me the most important thing. And i like that it is super different also between my friends so you always chat differently about things EVENNN if it is the same topic like on the forum. 🙂 So in normal life almost all my friends are the same like me almost but what i like here is that everybody is super different. NOTTT only age but also for example where they live and what they do and like. That makes it nice. And for me the most important thing is how they write and if they are kind persons. 🤗🤗✨✨


Maybe @Roseeeee you also like this forum: https://penpal-gate.net/forum/13-anything-and-everything/9978-the-line It is a bit different and a bit similar and i think both are nice to read!! So i hope that you like it. 🙂 And i hope that you dont mind if sometimes i chat with you about things because i really like that and it helped me a lot too always. ❤️❤️

I think a lot about this when i’m on this website. Personally,now that i am 16 i don’t find exciting to be friends with someone younger (like 11/12/13/13 yrs) and I usually don’t have anything in common with younger people. I am asking this without any judgement,why does adults here are sometimes friends with teenagers ? I DO NOT mean it in an inappropriate and dirty way. I am just genuinely curious. I talked to some women a lot older than me and felt very comfortable and good,with a man it would be a lot different even if his intentions are not bad. I wouldn’t feel “safe” to be honest.

As I said,i don’t think anyone here is a bad person. I am curious to know how from an adult perspective being friends with a teenager is interesting.

I thought that maybe,for teenagers it’s good to talk to adults for advice and deeper conversations,and for adults it’s good to give advices to teenagers and also to talk to someone with a “different” mind. Of course a teenager and an adult are going to have a very different relationship than an adult and another adult or a teenager and another teenager.

What’s your opinion about this? Mine is,I don’t feel comfortable except with women

Rispondo in italiano anche se non dovrei. Ricordi quando abbiamo litigato? Perché è successo? Perché tu e Parsa avevate fatto una cosa che a voi sembrava divertente e a me sembrava gravissima. Perché? Perché io ho 52 anni, te 15, lui ne aveva 13. Il mio mondo è diverso dal vostro. La differenza di età rende quasi impossibile l' amicizia. A me piace rapportarmi con i giovani perché non ho figli ma è quasi impossibile portare avanti un' amicizia

It depends (How they have their connections).

Rispondo in italiano anche se non dovrei. Ricordi quando abbiamo litigato? Perché è successo? Perché tu e Parsa avevate fatto una cosa che a voi sembrava divertente e a me sembrava gravissima. Perché? Perché io ho 52 anni, te 15, lui ne aveva 13. Il mio mondo è diverso dal vostro. La differenza di età rende quasi impossibile l' amicizia. A me piace rapportarmi con i giovani perché non ho figli ma è quasi impossibile portare avanti un' amicizia

esatto,sono amicizie che online non possono durare. dal vivo si,ho degli amici di mia madre che sono anche miei amici

esatto,sono amicizie che online non possono durare. dal vivo si,ho degli amici di mia madre che sono anche miei amici

Giusto 👍

I have never written to a younger person here on ppg myself. it was the young people themselves who first contacted me. I see no harm in conversations with young people as long as they are not strange questions or situations. I talk to them as if they were my own children. I treat them with respect. I find it fascinating to read their stories and their way of thinking. I was young too once lol

That's always difficult online. I don't actually think it's bad. I just don't think adults should talk to teenagers about adult problems.

If the young person doesn't feel comfortable with a contact, he or she should break off contact.

You're doing everything right Roseeeee.

That's always difficult online. I don't actually think it's bad. I just don't think adults should talk to teenagers about adult problems.

If the young person doesn't feel comfortable with a contact, he or she should break off contact.

You're doing everything right Roseeeee.

I think that is true what @Uzagka says but i also want to say that ALL my friends who are adults and also ALL my friends who are not always talk about nice things like for example to make a new forum or what you do in a day or just funny things. Also often serious things but they say for example their opinion if you ask something and that is really nice. And they are superrr patient and the most dont judge you also not on the forum. So on PPG i think almost everybody is really nice and act in a super nice way that everybody can be comfortable. And if not you can tell that or block or tell Etienne.

I spoke with a lots of younger people here esma-yue-sarah-mayuuraam-landrover-simonne -landrover-sabri etc i think there is respect in our conversation and we dont bother each other

What if, instead, for example, a 60 years old person should be friends with a person who is 30 years younger, but who is not a teenager aynmore? In other words, do you think that what it matters is the difference between their ages or just the fact itself of being a teenager? In general, i don't feel comfortable to talk with teenagers, but on this site i found out that some teenagers are better and more mature than many adult people (while other ones are just kids); so, i think the point is not how old are you or what's the difference between our ages, but if you feel comfortable to talk with the other person, and vice versa. Of course the lifestyle and the interests may be different, but this may happen even between people of the same age, isn't it? And, since there is mutual respect and both of the parts are happy to be friends each other, i see no problem about it. Also, don't believe too much that real life friendships are better than virtual ones, people are always the same, and if they want to abandon you, they will do it in any case -both online and in real life- and the fact you used to see each other in person means nothing.

Edited by Simone724 .