Both …… Actually I’d be talkative after getting on well with he/she, how to start a friendship is the problem. (That’s why I seldom send a message to anyone on this website, although I know people are nice🙁
ah, well for the online side (specifically penpal-gate) my idea is generally to read profiles. It always helps a lot if you already know a little about a person, then you can start with finding common interests, and trying to talk about that. Or as Oxiu said, you could ask them some questions 🙂
