There’s a gentleman on here approached me and said he’s around my age and lives in America. I asked in which state he lives and he didn’t respond. The next day he said “hello gorgeous” as if I was some beautiful lady. Very strange.
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Thank u very much @Korisnik that u wrote the warning and i wanted to tell something even if it is stupid maybe what happened. I one time got an argument with my parents because what happened and that i almost had to stop on PPG!!!! That is i think now almost two years ago and it did NOTTT happen again.
Some people who are here longer maybe already know it but i did not tell it more often. But now i want to tell it because maybe it helps everybody. So i chatted with someone for i think maybe 5 months or longer almost every day and that was super nice and friendly. But he also said he wanted to meet in that summer and he said it often so i thought maybe if you say no than it is also weird if u are friends from chatting for so long!!! And then maybe u dont chat anymore or it feels super cringe and awkward. 😬😬😬🙄 So i did not know how to react that u disappoint maybe that person so i just said yes. But later one of my friends asked about it because he was also chatting with somebody else and that was not nice how he chatted with her and he also said he wanted to meet to her. So she asked me about it and i told her and she said i had to block him immediately. So i did that and later the person got banned. ❌❌
And my parents said i was the one that made the mistake because you said yes and that is really stupid. But now i have rules what u can do with chatting and posting on forum. And also i speak often with my mom about what i chat or she asks about that. But not my dad because i dont want that because then he says that i must maybe stop PPG if he thinks that is better and i dont want that. So my mom does ask for example if people ask things and then i just tell her and that i do not give for example things about our home or personal things or that u meet and they dont know it EVENNNN if they are friends for long time and that is really important i think. And i think if they allow that u meet REALLYY good friends then they want to know it first and i think that my parents dont allow that without them being there too EVEN if u know that person really good.
But often in real life it happens more often that things happen from strangers. Like for example when we were this weekend at the mini lake we were dropped with the car by the dad of my friend and we were asked by strangers if we needed to be brought back home for example and u dont even know them. And in that case we are of course not stupid and we just said no. And things like that happen often that strangers say or ask things but you must just say no. BUTTTT i think it is a good tip that you say no in polite and nice way or they get maybe angry and in that case it is ALSOO dangerous so it is better to be polite but that u DONT say yes.
Sorry that i typed a lot but i wanted to explain it. And i also wanted to say that i never got money scam from anybody. But that would also not be very smart because i dont have a lot of money!!!!!!!!! 😛 😛 But other things that they want to know yes but u must be super careful and i think the tips from above like that u dont mention hometown and things like that are important.
Always remember, a true friend will accept "no" for an answer.
I once had a friend in Bucharest. Our chats were friendly and never flirtatious or romantic. I had to spend a few weeks in Romania and asked if she would like together for lunch or something. She was married and said that her husband wouldn't be comfortable with that. I said ok, I totally get that and didn't push it..
Gaslighting, guilt tripping and pushing are huge red flags
Thank u very much @Korisnik that u wrote the warning and i wanted to tell something even if it is stupid maybe what happened. I one time got an argument with my parents because what happened and that i almost had to stop on PPG!!!! That is i think now almost two years ago and it did NOTTT happen again.
Some people who are here longer maybe already know it but i did not tell it more often. But now i want to tell it because maybe it helps everybody. So i chatted with someone for i think maybe 5 months or longer almost every day and that was super nice and friendly. But he also said he wanted to meet in that summer and he said it often so i thought maybe if you say no than it is also weird if u are friends from chatting for so long!!! And then maybe u dont chat anymore or it feels super cringe and awkward. 😬😬😬🙄 So i did not know how to react that u disappoint maybe that person so i just said yes. But later one of my friends asked about it because he was also chatting with somebody else and that was not nice how he chatted with her and he also said he wanted to meet to her. So she asked me about it and i told her and she said i had to block him immediately. So i did that and later the person got banned. ❌❌
And my parents said i was the one that made the mistake because you said yes and that is really stupid. But now i have rules what u can do with chatting and posting on forum. And also i speak often with my mom about what i chat or she asks about that. But not my dad because i dont want that because then he says that i must maybe stop PPG if he thinks that is better and i dont want that. So my mom does ask for example if people ask things and then i just tell her and that i do not give for example things about our home or personal things or that u meet and they dont know it EVENNNN if they are friends for long time and that is really important i think. And i think if they allow that u meet REALLYY good friends then they want to know it first and i think that my parents dont allow that without them being there too EVEN if u know that person really good.
But often in real life it happens more often that things happen from strangers. Like for example when we were this weekend at the mini lake we were dropped with the car by the dad of my friend and we were asked by strangers if we needed to be brought back home for example and u dont even know them. And in that case we are of course not stupid and we just said no. And things like that happen often that strangers say or ask things but you must just say no. BUTTTT i think it is a good tip that you say no in polite and nice way or they get maybe angry and in that case it is ALSOO dangerous so it is better to be polite but that u DONT say yes.
It's the best to report and block these people immediately. You don't have to explain yourself to people. And yes, never meet with strangers. That's especially relevant for females and for minors. Even I would refuse to meet with majority of strangers despite being male in late 20s. I think you did a great job when you refused a ride home from those strangers.
Thats why those people typically want you to change to private Messengers (Telegram, WhatsApp, Signal) to avoid being reported and blocked.
Exactly... I plan on that. And excuse .. phone camera doesn't work, bad connection.. fine then you don't get my telegram. Oh and before I give it to you.. don't ask for money . And they usually block me at that point.
Always remember, a true friend will accept "no" for an answer.
I once had a friend in Bucharest. Our chats were friendly and never flirtatious or romantic. I had to spend a few weeks in Romania and asked if she would like together for lunch or something. She was married and said that her husband wouldn't be comfortable with that. I said ok, I totally get that and didn't push it..
Gaslighting, guilt tripping and pushing are huge red flags
Yes i think that is true what u say but that time i felt really unsure because you feel like you maybe loose a friend and you chatted almost EVERY day for like 5 months or longer and u dont want disappoint so i just said yes because of that. But my parents said that is a stupid mistake and i was just wrong but it was almost 2 years ago. But now i would tell first NOT my dad but to my mom if somebody asks to meet or personal stuff or she does not trust it any longer if im not honest about that.
It's the best to report and block these people immediately. You don't have to explain yourself to people. And yes, never meet with strangers. That's especially relevant for females and for minors. Even I would refuse to meet with majority of strangers despite being male in late 20s. I think you did a great job when you refused a ride home from those strangers.
People think often that it is only exaggerating but it happens really often that people who you dont even know ask things in real life or say things like for example that they say things like last weekend or they ask if u want maybe to hang out and give ur phone number or they say weird things like that they are a model scout but i dont believe them and some of my friends also had the same thing and they also never say yes. Because you dont even know WHO who they are and what they want and why they even say that and u cant trust that at all. And sometimes groups shout things to u but that happens to everybody i think and they just act like they are cool or something. So u can just ignore that almost always.