long distance relationships 🌎👩‍❤️‍👨

What are your takes on long distance relationships?

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1️⃣ Do you think it's realistic?

2️⃣ Do you think there's a difference between adults and teenagers being affected?

3️⃣ What does it take in your opinion to make it work?

4️⃣ In what extent would you consider it different to a more closer relationship, like "a normal one" ?

5️⃣ Do you have experience in long distance?

I don't have personal experience in long distance relationships, but I imagine like everything, this too depends how well people are suited to it. For some, it just doesn't work no matter what and for some it might even be the preferred way. So I suppose it would depend on who's in it. It might be harder for teens, since they have less control over where and when they travel than grown-ups. Same of course can be true if the grown-up is poor.

I guess the biggest pitfall of a long-distance relationship these days is the lack of physical intimacy. These days, you can have video-calls and whatnots to most places in the world, it might be inconvenient time-wise, but it's possible. So no reason a long-distance relationship would hamper deep conversations or common banter or even virtual lunch-dates, though they might be an evening snack for one party. But I guess this is where we come to the personal: how well do the people in the relationship deal with not being able to touch each other for extended periods of time? How do the people in the relationship deal with the inability to hug their partner for instance? For some it's a nightmare, but some might be ok with only getting to see more rarely. One person's hell is another's heaven and all that =)

I don't have personal experience in long distance relationships, but I imagine like everything, this too depends how well people are suited to it. For some, it just doesn't work no matter what and for some it might even be the preferred way. So I suppose it would depend on who's in it. It might be harder for teens, since they have less control over where and when they travel than grown-ups. Same of course can be true if the grown-up is poor.

I guess the biggest pitfall of a long-distance relationship these days is the lack of physical intimacy. These days, you can have video-calls and whatnots to most places in the world, it might be inconvenient time-wise, but it's possible. So no reason a long-distance relationship would hamper deep conversations or common banter or even virtual lunch-dates, though they might be an evening snack for one party. But I guess this is where we come to the personal: how well do the people in the relationship deal with not being able to touch each other for extended periods of time? How do the people in the relationship deal with the inability to hug their partner for instance? For some it's a nightmare, but some might be ok with only getting to see more rarely. One person's hell is another's heaven and all that =)

Beautifully said! I totally agree 🙂

Hiii colin!!! It is really nice that you are making a forum again!!! 😛 😛 Ok i dont know if you can only answer if you have had that or ANYBODY can answer. So i will just write what i think:

1️⃣ Do you think it's realistic?

I think yes bc for example even here some ppl mentioned on the forum that they have a relationship and they live EVEN on different continents. But i think maybe it can only work if you KNOW that you will live together in the future and if you speak each other a LOTTT.

2️⃣ Do you think there's a difference between adults and teenagers being affected?

I think no bc the only important thing is if you really ❤️ each other. BUTTT one thing that is different is that adults can see each other faster (like paying for tickets to go to another country to meet each other again).

3️⃣ What does it take in your opinion to make it work?

Idk but i think talking a lot and that you try to meet each other in a vacation.

4️⃣ In what extent would you consider it different to a more closer relationship?

Idk exactly what you mean. Do you mean closer like how far you live or that you are super close together and you can share ANYTHING. Bc i think even if you are far away you can be super close. That is for normal friendship and i think also for if you are in a relationship. And if you mean closer from living from each other: i think that it is MUCH easier if you are close bc you can meet each other really often ANDDD you can be together also for super important moments like bdays or vday or other special days if smt happens.

5️⃣ Do you have experience in long distance?

No.

Hiii colin!!! It is really nice that you are making a forum again!!! 😛 😛 Ok i dont know if you can only answer if you have had that or ANYBODY can answer. So i will just write what i think:

1️⃣ Do you think it's realistic?

I think yes bc for example even here some ppl mentioned on the forum that they have a relationship and they live EVEN on different continents. But i think maybe it can only work if you KNOW that you will live together in the future and if you speak each other a LOTTT.

2️⃣ Do you think there's a difference between adults and teenagers being affected?

I think no bc the only important thing is if you really ❤️ each other. BUTTT one thing that is different is that adults can see each other faster (like paying for tickets to go to another country to meet each other again).

3️⃣ What does it take in your opinion to make it work?

Idk but i think talking a lot and that you try to meet each other in a vacation.

4️⃣ In what extent would you consider it different to a more closer relationship?

Idk exactly what you mean. Do you mean closer like how far you live or that you are super close together and you can share ANYTHING. Bc i think even if you are far away you can be super close. That is for normal friendship and i think also for if you are in a relationship. And if you mean closer from living from each other: i think that it is MUCH easier if you are close bc you can meet each other really often ANDDD you can be together also for super important moments like bdays or vday or other special days if smt happens.

5️⃣ Do you have experience in long distance?

No.

Hey @Yue_ ! Thanks for your answer. And yes, for the 4th question I was referring to less distance, living closer together. 🙂

Hey @Yue_ ! Thanks for your answer. And yes, for the 4th question I was referring to less distance, living closer together. 🙂

Colinnn im curious abt why you choose the topic!!! 😛 😛 So im curious what you think abt the questions!!!!!! 🙂 ANDDD sorry abt question 4 bc i was not really sure!!

Well I made this topic because it's a question I often ask myself. Like I know many people trying long distance, but no one I know actually made it for longer than a year. So I was just curious what other people think about it.

I mean I have had 2 long distance relationships and they never really turned out well...*sob sob*

Hello bro, nice forum, but before i answer, Are questions 2 & 3 are such a connected questions? And for question number 2, can you explain it again? cause i feel like i'm not quite sure about the question @Colin_Der_Backfisch

Hey! Well yeah, 2 and 3 can sort of be connected, but don't have to. With question 2 I meant what is different when teenies having a long distance relationship to adults having it. Like different possibilities, different responsibilities, ...

Hello bro, nice forum, but before i answer, Are questions 2 & 3 are such a connected questions? And for question number 2, can you explain it again? cause i feel like i'm not quite sure about the question @Colin_Der_Backfisch

No, it isn’t a real relationship: it’s a simulacrum, a simulation, a sublimation of a relationship. It’s a way of saying: I’m with you, you’re with me, but in reality you are not together, not in the proper sense of the word. You are far away, physically; you don’t look at each other, you don’t know what the other person smells like, what expression they have when they think you’re not watching. It’s only a “game” where you tell each other you’re in love, but they’re just words — not hugs, kisses, caresses, or attentions. It isn't pulling up her zipper so she won’t get cold, it isn’t having a hot chocolate together, it isn’t seeing her laugh when you splash each other at the beach. It’s only a collection of pretty words. Among adults, especially those who have already experienced real relationships, a long-distance relationship (a fully long-distance one) is either impossible or completely fake. Some people are forced to live apart because of work or other necessities, but stories teach us that “out of sight, out of mind,” and these relationships don’t last long. Among younger people it seems to be quite common, but it’s only a symptom of the “illness” affecting digital natives: everything happens online — even love, even affection — as if people were no longer capable of relating normally, face to face, body to body. And no matter how much one might insist that feelings are intense, they are only shadows of the real ones you experience when you are truly, physically together with someone. From my own experience, having had two significant relationships maintained at a distance — seeing each other in person rarely, though intensely — they simply do not work, in any way. No matter how much you care for someone, love needs to be nourished, and the energy that keeps it alive passes only through bodies, not through electromagnetic waves.

No, it isn’t a real relationship: it’s a simulacrum, a simulation, a sublimation of a relationship.

I don't think there's any reason to have this stark a view on it. Sometimes people meet on a holiday etc. and the relationship begins with getting to know one another online rather than face to face. For a lot of the get-to-know, online works just as well. In the long term, one person at least will have to move, I don't think a long-distance relationship can be a whole life thing.

Having a long-distance relationship can also be a phase. One person has to work or study abroad for a year and the couple goes long distance for the duration, then returns normal. A relationship that has existed for years does not suddenly end and become not-a-relationship because people live in different places for a little while.