Today, I discovered that most of the people who is part of my friend group have been talking behind my back.
Honestly I already expected it (since this also happened 2-3 weeks ago to my other friend that used to be part of the group) but it hurts because I trusted them and I thought it was just my mind being paranoid (｡•́︿•̀｡).
I don't know what to do. I should say something, Stay quiet and wait or just leave?
hiii @Clementine_cat maybe you can first talk with that person so you know if you dont make a mistake about it? but if it is not really a friend i would just defriend and not think about it anymore or you will feel hurt. I am sorry that it happened to you and I hope that maybe it was a misunderstanding or that you feel better about it soon. 🍀🍀🙏🙏
Leaving is the easiest way, but i think if u just leave those words will be stuck in your heart. If you are so sad, tell them first, see what they can answer. This one is your opinion, after u heard what they said, you can choose if u want to leave or stay with them.
me and my friends talk behind of others too, but we all agree that we love them and we are just joking.
Today, I discovered that most of the people who is part of my friend group have been talking behind my back.
Honestly I already expected it (since this also happened 2-3 weeks ago to my other friend that used to be part of the group) but it hurts because I trusted them and I thought it was just my mind being paranoid (｡•́︿•̀｡).
I don't know what to do. I should say something, Stay quiet and wait or just leave?
For me personally, it's important to talk about my feelings. It's good for me to tell other people when something has really affected me. But also when I felt something very attentively. I've also simply left groups, but then I wasn't very attached to them with my emotions...then it works.
In such a situation, I would get very angry and leave these people. But that would be wrong. It is better to address the problem directly and ask for explanations. Then you can decide whether it is better to forgive or end the friendship.
talking behind a friends back proved a bad moral code. I wouldn't be a friend with such people any more. whether u and they have a discussion is not very important cus u can't distinguish their true thinking and probably they would talk behind ur back in a more covert way. of course it's just my opinion.
Today, I discovered that most of the people who is part of my friend group have been talking behind my back.
Honestly I already expected it (since this also happened 2-3 weeks ago to my other friend that used to be part of the group) but it hurts because I trusted them and I thought it was just my mind being paranoid (｡•́︿•̀｡).
I don't know what to do. I should say something, Stay quiet and wait or just leave?
dealing with traitor (fake friends) isn't new to me, at very first time ofcourse it hurts me a lot like I'm questioning myself what's wrong? do i accidentally made mistake which they don't like it? or am i a weirdo in their eyes? i'm so sad, blaming and cursing myself.
at first, i thought it's my mistake. but not until i did some social experiment, learning about human behaviour, personality, psychology, etc. and I came to the conclusion that, we won't be able to meet everyone's expectations. and we don't have to do it (fill their expectations). and we will always meet people who different from us and will always clash, or some hater or whatever it is that we think it's wrong but actually it's very normal.
cause, if they are our people, they don't need some clarification from us about who are we. and the hater would believe to things they wanna believe
and, no matter how much our flaws, our people would try to understand our situations, our flaws, our difference way of think.
and instead of leaving us, they would tell us or stop doing or discussing to things that will breaking the friendship.
like example, i believe in to reach the goals we need to gather some power (teamwork) while my friend believe individual work will save us from working twice or dealing with debate. and we both don't wanna debate it, cause we both know everyone has it's own right to do things they believe. and both are valid
so, what i'm trying to say is, in future you'll always be experience things like this, and its very normal if someone didn't like us. cause in the end all we need to do is focus to people we love and they also love us. thinking about people who wouldn't understand us only a wasting time.
but yknow what, if you have extra energy, it's actually so fun to play along their game. acting like it's hurt us so bad, until we sad and angry while at the same time we intimidating them by facing them and throw some sarcasm in front of them, and glare at them with our sharp eyes. and in the end they realized their mistake and got their apologized 😌🤌🏻
Nah leave them immediately i had a fake friend from 2019 to 2021 and from fake she slowly became aggressive ans toxic
But maybe it can also be a mistake and there is a misunderstanding. So i would ask it always first and talk with each other. I would be very afraid to make a mistake and just ignore that person but that later i found out that only i made the mistake and not my friend. And I also believe that it is good if you can forgive each other or it becomes maybe worse right. 🙄🙄
But maybe it can also be a mistake and there is a misunderstanding. So i would ask it always first and talk with each other. I would be very afraid to make a mistake and just ignore that person but that later i found out that only i made the mistake and not my friend. And I also believe that it is good if you can forgive each other or it becomes maybe worse right. 🙄🙄
yes, everyone has different situations, conditions, reason and factors behind it.
but, talking behind someone back isn't nice thing to do, dear... if we couldn't say nice thing behind someone back, we better shut our mouth or ask for clarification directly to the person 😊
