🙄 Questions to ask yourself 🙏

Hello everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I have collected from online 10 questions about yourself. If you want you can post answers below, BUTTT if you are not comfortable with that you can also just answer silently to yourself if you prefer that. 😊😊

If people like the questions i will make a part 2.

Questions:

1️⃣ Do you forgive people easily?

2️⃣ Is it easy for you to let go of stress?

3️⃣ How has your life been different than what you had imagined?

4️⃣ Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

5️⃣ What is the biggest obstacle in your life and what do you do to overcome it?

6️⃣ What is something you love now that you could not imagine that you would love when you were small?

7️⃣ Are you doing now in your life what you truly love to do?

8️⃣ Is there anything you can't let go off but you should?

9️⃣ What would you do if people would never judge you about something?

🔟 What are you most proud of that you did in the last 3 months?

These questions are super personal so only answer if you want to (and if so only answer the ones you want). Can you leave an emoji if you answer the questions silently for yourself so i know if i have to make a part 2? Thank you very much. 🙏🙏 🥰🥰

1️⃣ Do you forgive people easily?

When they hurt me, yes, but when they hurt people I care about, no. I'm still angry at my brother's friend who said he hated him and then proceeded to ignore him back in autumn. My brother was so sad, and even if they made up now, I still despise that friend of his. He sounds more like a fiend than a friend to me😒

2️⃣ Is it easy for you to let go of stress?

I usually just ignore it, so I guess so? When I am too stressed to ignore it, I don't do the thing I'm stressed about if I don't have to, but if I really have to I still do it, even if I don't like it. It's a bit complicated.

3️⃣ How has your life been different than what you had imagined?

It's disappointing even if I had no expectations.

4️⃣ Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

My family, I think. More specifically my sister and my mother.

5️⃣ What is the biggest obstacle in your life and what do you do to overcome it?

I might be my biggest obstacle, since I'm shy and kind of useless when it comes to social interactions. I'll need other people in life to succeed (teachers, supporting friends, etc.), and I don't even know how to talk to people, so that's kind of a big problem.

6️⃣ What is something you love now that you could not imagine that you would love when you were small?

Actually my tastes are pretty childish in general, so I don't know. Maybe horror games and scary movies/series?

7️⃣ Are you doing now in your life what you truly love to do?

Yes and no. I'm taking the classes I need to take to do what I want to do, so I'm working towards my goal, but I have too many classes at the same time to enjoy it.

8️⃣ Is there anything you can't let go off but you should?

Too many things. But getting rid of some toys I never use would be a good start. I love them all, but I don't even acknowledge their existence anymore so it's pointless...

9️⃣ What would you do if people would never judge you about something?

I would be the same, I don't really care about other people's opinion unless it's a person I look up to.

🔟 What are you most proud of that you did in the last 3 months?

I asked my mother if I could have a new video game a few days ago (and she said yes, yay!). It might not sound like much but I'm always so shy when I want to ask for something, so for me it's not nothing. Also I got an A on a math test recently (94.44%), and the teacher is very strict while grading the tests because she wants to prepare us (the students) for the exams at the end of the year.

Thank you very much for answering @Miss_Penpal!! Can i maybe ask about what you wrote in 5️⃣: do you think maybe you can get help from others to be more comfortable? And do you still plan to go to school instead of homeschooling next year? Bc that can be a BIGGG change and it can also help you if you are at school yourself too every day. I mean: it can feel more normal instead of scary if you are with others. 🙂

And 10: this is super good!!! For you: 🏆🥇🎗️

Thank you very much for answering @Miss_Penpal!! Can i maybe ask about what you wrote in 5️⃣: do you think maybe you can get help from others to be more comfortable? And do you still plan to go to school instead of homeschooling next year? Bc that can be a BIGGG change and it can also help you if you are at school yourself too every day. I mean: it can feel more normal instead of scary if you are with others. 🙂

I don't know if others can help me at this point. My mother is trying to send me back to school next year, but it's complicated. I don't want to go to the school near our house because it sucks and the aura around it is horrible (it feels like there's a portal leading to hell underneath it, or a demon living in the walls... You can feel something is wrong with that school simply by standing near it), and there is a school I really want to go to. My mother agreed to send me there, but since it's not the school near us we have to sign up for the school near us and then ask for a transfer (I know, it's complicated for nothing), and the people in charge of that said that there might not be enough place. So if the transfer doesn't work, we'll cancel the 'going back to school plan' because there's no way I'm going to the demonic school.

That is a strange rule @Miss_Penpal bc normally i think it should not matter if you want to go to which school and it can also depends on where you feel the nicest or maybe you have friends at a school somewhere and that should also matter. Not just where everybody lives. But i hope that there is a place for you so you can go to the school that you like the most!! 🙏🙏

1️⃣ Do you forgive people easily?

I always keep in my mind Seneca's words: "Errare humanum est, perseverare autem diabolicum." which is translated as "To err is human, but to persist in error is diabolical." Suchwise my forgiveness depends on the very nature of the person: either human or diabolical.

2️⃣ Is it easy for you to let go of stress?

Stress isn't my natural enemy. I try to have a mind that is free, lofty, fearless and steadfast.

3️⃣ How has your life been different than what you had imagined?

I am afraid that I shall recall yet another Latin phrase: "Faber est suae quisque fortunae." which is translated as "Every man is the artisan of his own fortune." Skillfulness takes a greater place than imagination does.

4️⃣ Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

Animals...

5️⃣ What is the biggest obstacle in your life and what do you do to overcome it?

In earlier ages, my ego was my biggest obstacle and rival in my life. I've had it blunt by serving unconditionally those whom I've considered inferiors at once.

6️⃣ What is something you love now that you could not imagine that you would love when you were small?

People I guess. I'm still surprised that I do it.

7️⃣ Are you doing now in your life what you truly love to do?

Absolutely.

8️⃣ Is there anything you can't let go off but you should?

No. There's nothing like that.

9️⃣ What would you do if people would never judge you about something?

I don't mind others' judegements since their opinions don't define me but theirselves. My acts aren't leashed on others' evaluation. Thus I don't need to wait until such a miraculous day since people always hasten to judge.

🔟 What are you most proud of that you did in the last 3 months?

One shouldn't be proud of his / her own acts. It's something like giving a polish on your ego. Let people be proud of your lofty acts, and make a response with your modesty.

Many thanks @diogenes_cask!!! I really like your answers but also i think that what you say are now for me impossible and i think also for others. Like not stressing about things and about others judging you. But i think what you can do is almost like perfect but also VERY difficult.

I also want to answer the questions myself:

1️⃣ Do you forgive people easily?

Yes if they dont make the same mistake again i can normally forgive people and there is not a problem anymore. Except if it is really serious and bad like a crime to my family or friends. Then it will be more difficult.

2️⃣ Is it easy for you to let go of stress?

Sometimes not and it depends what kind of stress. If i have exams i feel tensed and sometimes stressy but i can manage it and if i do the exam i do not black out and I am not afraid of it. But if for example you have to give a presentation and everybody looks at you i feel tensed and cant get that away.

3️⃣ How has your life been different than what you had imagined?

Now it is normally like what i thought but for the future i really dont know. Maybe @-Kiki- can say more about it but i am very afraid that after school and if you are at university it is IMPOSSIBLE to find a place where you can live. I am lucky i can stay home with my parents also when i go to university but everything gets so expensive and EVERY day there is in the news smt about houseprices getting SUPER HIGH. That is different than what i thought first but it is years from now before i go to university BUTTTT i think it maybe only gets worse. I am afraid that everything also normal things get only more expensive every day.

4️⃣ Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

My mom and my grandmom.

5️⃣ What is the biggest obstacle in your life and what do you do to overcome it?

Feeling nervous in groups and not feeling comfortable if you speak for a group or if everybody just listens to you. But i still try to do it. Of course sometimes you MUST like for example if you have to give a presentation at school. But also if there is a birthday party for example or if we are with a group outside school EVEN if it is not only my friend group i try to also go.

6️⃣ What is something you love now that you could not imagine that you would love when you were small?

Watching news and liking it. And in the beginning on PPG i was super nervous to even write on the forum and Parsaa convinved me to post on the forum anyway. And now i really like for example interviews or other forums that i want to create and i am not afraid of what people think bc as long as maybe 2 or 3 people like a forum that is enough for me.

7️⃣ Are you doing now in your life what you truly love to do?

Yes. But i think if i am in university it will be better for several reasons.

8️⃣ Is there anything you can't let go off but you should?

Some anxieties are difficult. But even if i cant let them go i try to still do the things.

9️⃣ What would you do if people would never judge you about something?

It would be much easier to speak in public. Bc you dont have to worry if you make mistakes and what people think of you anymore.

🔟 What are you most proud of that you did in the last 3 months?

I am proud that my parents were happy with the grades i got this year for physics and beta subjects like chemistry and math. Last year that was more difficult but i understand it now much better and for physics i even got a 9.2 out of 10 and the teacher asked if i want to have a beta profile next year. My dad was very happy about the grades but keeps asking why it cant be even higher and he thinks i should do what the teacher said and have a beta profile in school. But i am not sure bc i really like languages and history the most and maybe when i can choose it also art. But my mentor said you should do what you want but i also have to think of what my parents want and my physics teacher want. And he said that the other beta teachers agree with him. So now i think about maybe having a beta profile AND at least some alpha subjects like the languages Dutch, English and French (and not German bc it would be too much) and history. But that also means extra subjects also later when you have to do exams in the future. So i am proud of it but also i am really unsure what i must do now.

Hello everybody!! 🙋‍♀️ I have collected from online 10 questions about yourself. If you want you can post answers below, BUTTT if you are not comfortable with that you can also just answer silently to yourself if you prefer that. 😊😊

If people like the questions i will make a part 2.

Questions:

1️⃣ Do you forgive people easily?

2️⃣ Is it easy for you to let go of stress?

3️⃣ How has your life been different than what you had imagined?

4️⃣ Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

5️⃣ What is the biggest obstacle in your life and what do you do to overcome it?

6️⃣ What is something you love now that you could not imagine that you would love when you were small?

7️⃣ Are you doing now in your life what you truly love to do?

8️⃣ Is there anything you can't let go off but you should?

9️⃣ What would you do if people would never judge you about something?

🔟 What are you most proud of that you did in the last 3 months?

These questions are super personal so only answer if you want to (and if so only answer the ones you want). Can you leave an emoji if you answer the questions silently for yourself so i know if i have to make a part 2? Thank you very much. 🙏🙏 🥰🥰

1. no,I never forgive people and if I do,it takes months

2. i am very stressed all the time and I suffer from social anxiety so no,its very hard for me

3. I never had huge expectations for my life but for example I didn't expect my parents to divorce

4.my best friends,my mom and cats

5. my whole life. and I just find ways to get through it

6.i am getting interested in things like laws,the criminal justice system,the job of a lawyer...cause I am watching law and order svu

7. riding horses and taking care of myself,eating

8 .my traumas

10. I was able to come back to school

1️⃣ Do you forgive people easily?

Let's say that I am more forgetful and forgiving. It leads to ridiculous situations in which I can act out of spite, but can't remember exactly why except that the person acted too many times in an undesired way.

2️⃣ Is it easy for you to let go of stress?

I'm not a stressed person apparently; so I guess so?

3️⃣ How has your life been different than what you had imagined?

At this point; I cannot say. I derived a lot from what I imagined and changed of expectations many times. I'd say that I steer my boat a little more to a domain I aimed first.

4️⃣ Who has been the kindest to you in your life?

Animals. Humans pale in comparison; and it's easier to find comfort near them for me.

5️⃣ What is the biggest obstacle in your life and what do you do to overcome it?

I don't know exactly.

6️⃣ What is something you love now that you could not imagine that you would love when you were small?

I guess cooking.

7️⃣ Are you doing now in your life what you truly love to do?

Not exactly yet.

8️⃣ Is there anything you can't let go off but you should?

A few things, but this too shall pass.

9️⃣ What would you do if people would never judge you about something?

Nothing that I already do. People's opinion rarely is a metric to follow. We will judged anything and anyone improperly and sometimes being more foolish than the object of judgement.

🔟 What are you most proud of that you did in the last 3 months?

I can't remember anything for myself. Candidate events often crash onto a wall when facing self-evaluation. Many things could be improved or at least done differently.
I have been proud of others people's things though and, last night, even proud of the family's cat creativeness and intelligence to gets attention and care. This gremlin suddenly became smart as to find a way to make more noise, using his surrounding; to get attention and care at 2am; but also to run away when he sensed that his troubles would not lead to a negative feedback (a grumpy me running after his ass).

Thankssss very much @Roseeeee and @Lianshen!!! 🙏🙏🤗🤗🤗 I will reply later in our break and btw answer 10 is really funny @Lianshen!!! 😛

I wanted to ask you @Roseeeee but you can also say it privately if that is better: but do you think that it gets better that you have LESS difficulty with social problems and anxiety? I hope maybe if you feel less stressed and you can feel more relaxed that OTHER stress also gets less. I dont know if you know what i mean but it is like if you start being more comfortable that it also works in other places perhaps.

For @diogenes_cask and @Lianshen i have a question: if animals have been the nicest in your life i think it is also a surprise. Bc animals dont treat anybody bad bc they WANT to but if for example they bite or do other things it is bc of instinct. But with some people in your life they dont act bad to you too and you can trust them COMPLETELY. Like for me my mom and grandmom they would NEVER hurt me or treat me bad bc they want to. And if they do smt good they do that deliberate and not bc of an instinct. And that is extra nice if they act that way deliberately. I hope i dont describe it confusingly.

I wanted to ask you @Roseeeee but you can also say it privately if that is better: but do you think that it gets better that you have LESS difficulty with social problems and anxiety? I hope maybe if you feel less stressed and you can feel more relaxed that OTHER stress also gets less. I dont know if you know what i mean but it is like if you start being more comfortable that it also works in other places perhaps.

For @diogenes_cask and @Lianshen i have a question: if animals have been the nicest in your life i think it is also a surprise. Bc animals dont treat anybody bad bc they WANT to but if for example they bite or do other things it is bc of instinct. But with some people in your life they dont act bad to you too and you can trust them COMPLETELY. Like for me my mom and grandmom they would NEVER hurt me or treat me bad bc they want to. And if they do smt good they do that deliberate and not bc of an instinct. And that is extra nice if they act that way deliberately. I hope i dont describe it confusingly.

yes of course it feels better if I am not stressed,stress ruins everything

I wanted to ask you @Roseeeee but you can also say it privately if that is better: but do you think that it gets better that you have LESS difficulty with social problems and anxiety? I hope maybe if you feel less stressed and you can feel more relaxed that OTHER stress also gets less. I dont know if you know what i mean but it is like if you start being more comfortable that it also works in other places perhaps.

For @diogenes_cask and @Lianshen i have a question: if animals have been the nicest in your life i think it is also a surprise. Bc animals dont treat anybody bad bc they WANT to but if for example they bite or do other things it is bc of instinct. But with some people in your life they dont act bad to you too and you can trust them COMPLETELY. Like for me my mom and grandmom they would NEVER hurt me or treat me bad bc they want to. And if they do smt good they do that deliberate and not bc of an instinct. And that is extra nice if they act that way deliberately. I hope i dont describe it confusingly.

I don't think that it's a big surprise. Of course, there are/were some nice people in my life but some exceptional minority can't justify a vast factual majority. As Fyodor Dostoyevsky quoth once: “People speak sometimes about the "bestial" cruelty of man, but that is terribly unjust and offensive to beasts, no animal could ever be so cruel as a man, so artfully, so artistically cruel.” We, mankind, love to deny our zoological taxonomy and set ourselves a new divinely-favoured status, superior to all other species. We deny our instinctual behaviours and set them a new literature.

I don't think that it's a big surprise. Of course, there are/were some nice people in my life but some exceptional minority can't justify a vast factual majority. As Fyodor Dostoyevsky quoth once: “People speak sometimes about the "bestial" cruelty of man, but that is terribly unjust and offensive to beasts, no animal could ever be so cruel as a man, so artfully, so artistically cruel.” We, mankind, love to deny our zoological taxonomy and set ourselves a new divinely-favoured status, superior to all other species. We deny our instinctual behaviours and set them a new literature.

I think you are an exception @diogenes_cask and i hope that i can be too and some other of our friends here. 😊😊

For @diogenes_cask and @Lianshen i have a question: if animals have been the nicest in your life i think it is also a surprise. Bc animals dont treat anybody bad bc they WANT to but if for example they bite or do other things it is bc of instinct. But with some people in your life they dont act bad to you too and you can trust them COMPLETELY. Like for me my mom and grandmom they would NEVER hurt me or treat me bad bc they want to. And if they do smt good they do that deliberate and not bc of an instinct. And that is extra nice if they act that way deliberately. I hope i dont describe it confusingly.

I wouldn't be too quick and blame everything on "instinct", for learning is not the priviledge of humanity.

I agree with @diogenes_cask andhere I remember of a biography of Zhu Yuanzhang (first emperor of the Ming) by Wu Han in which you can see quite well how we, humans, get very creative when it comes to tormenting our conspecifics. Even in daily life, I must admit that I haven't a very good opinion on most people, especially when I see kindness being motivated or erased in the blink of an eye.
Maybe that's why I direct myself to animals way faster; but also because I do not need to speak out anything to them.