I used to think all guys were scary and bad, all because of the media and what I heard from family.
But after coming to this penpal website, I met so many really nice boys here.
There’s such a big difference between what the media says and real life.
Have you ever had this feeling too?
Like media tells you one thing, but when you actually go and meet people, it’s totally not like that? 😊
Hi Lissys, people can act all types of ways and it's great that you've met some nice folks.
From a woman in her 30's to you, a young girl, please be so careful, though, online as well as out there.
Thank you so much for your kind reminder! I will be really careful online. I’m just happy to meet so many nice people here. 😊
glad to hear that you have met a nice people. but at the same time you also need to keep alert, people can act, can pretend, can fake personality, can manipulate & groom until you believe them.
only time will tell if they're nice or evil (by keeping aware to every changes in them, consistency in their words, action, etc.)
Um, the most widely used media have pros but also major cons.
TikTok, just to give an example, is a source of insecurity.
It subjects people to excessively high standards, whether aesthetic (despite the numerous “tricks” to appear more attractive) or social (fame is not that important, yet many people would do anything to taste it), sloppy communication, and so on.
an unhealthy form of emotional communication
The media sometimes tend to portrays whatever is convenient and trending at a particular moment, or depending on their biases. It has been always easy to depict an entire group of people as bad or scary by inflating truly awful acts committed by only a very small proportion of them. Human beings have been doing this since the beginning of time and we will keep doing it because we are not able to look at our own inadequacies. Why bother trying to improve yourself when you can blame one specific group of all the evilness in this world?
It is true that men tend to be, on average, more physically aggressive than women. And yes, as a young woman, you should be aware that there are predatory men out there looking for someone to exploit, but they are a minority. You should also beware of some women. I work in an environment dominated by them, and I can say for certain that they can be just as aggressive as men, but more deceitful. They may go after your reputation simply because you are younger, more intelligent, or because you make them feel insecure about themselves. All of this while smiling at your face.
My take on this topic is not for you to lose faith in human beings. On the contrary, you should trust people, just not all the way trough, at least not at the beginning. Time will tell who is in front of you and what they want. And most of the time you'll realise they end up being decent people and sometimes amazing ones with which you'll bond forever.
Growing up, you will also gain experience, and your instincts will sharpen. It will become easier judging people, especially if you are careful.
About the media I follow the same principle, I believe half of what they say untill I have done my research or untill time prove them right or wrong.
Don't grow up being scared, have fun and faith in humanity just do it consciously.
I think social media is a mixed platform. Sometimes you can meet the kindest people and sometimes you can find people that can destroy your mentality. It’s vital you’re clever enough to understand between right and wrong. And never let anyone tell you what to do on this and know boundaries. xxx
