I think I lost a friend Всякая всячина

Hi ! I just wanted to talk about something difficult that just happened to me. Sorry if I make mistakes, I'm bad at English :') Maybe you can share your own experience, I think this could be helpful for all of us (and me, for sure !)

So I met my first German penpal on an other website about 3 or 4 years ago. We sent a lot of letters. I even said she was my "German sister". I also went to her house in Germany for one week, then she went to my house in France. We began to be good friends.
In the meantime, I had health problems, however I went to her house for the second time, whereas I was in a bad mood. I have understand after a long time that she wrote emails to my mother. I didn't know what they said, but I felt betrayed because of this secret conversation.
I tried to send her emails and messages. She answered back and explained me that she had a lot of homework and she got new friends. On the one hand, I trusted her, but on the other hand, I felt like she was lying. It feels like I have been replaced, and I can't stand it. I feel like a huge part of my life is gone now.

Do you ever feel like this ?
Sorry for this loooong message !
I hope you are fine !
So, have a nice weekend !

Friends are like leaves
With time and seasons, some will fall and some will remain after all...
The most important is that the next season, new leaves will come and grow from you tree... except if you are a tree without leaves
So don't worry about your "falling" friends, they will only feed the ground than will later give all the need for growing back new leaves.

I think you'd better ask her to explain why she did that.If she continue to treat you like this, I think you don't need to waste time on her anymore.If she doesn't want to be your friend anymore, there's no need to keep writing to her. Find a new friend!Wish you all the best!

I also had a fantastic friend recently, he was like a big brother to me but he hurt me, you know, it hurt so damn well that he will cry to this day, he couldn't tell me everything

Thank you for your answers ! I will write a private message to you !

I completely understand why you feel betrayed. I would ask your mum why she did that and tell your friend about your feelings. Even if that meant you wouldn't talk anymore.

I’m truly sorry for what happened to you: you seemed to be good friends indeed!
I would firstly ask my mother to tell me more about that conversation, but I would undoubtedly feel betrayed as well.
I will give you an advice: friends go and come, it’s life.

Firstly hello from the other side of the world lol.

I think Everyone or most of people had an experience like that in his life and you have to move on and live that behind you because if she loves you as a friend she will explain to you if not you're wasting your time, I'm sorry for what happened to you so you have to be strong and continue also you're young and you'll meet nice nice people. have a nice day!

Hej thank you for sharing this! Stay close

Hello

I think that losing friends is a natural process because you are changing, they are changing and world is changing.

I lost a lot of penpal friends. Sometimes because I was an awful person with toxic behavior and sometimes because they were. I wish I could contact some of them now and tell that I am a better person than I was but for them it doesn't really matters now. So, whatever.

It's very important to build proper personal borders. You can't expect from anyone full understanding of your deep feelings and thoughts and nobody should expect it from you.

Good luck with that situation, it's painful.