problem bf

. my cat 😘

Lately, I’ve been feeling pretty anxious about him because next year he’s leaving to study far away, while I still have two years of college left; so this will be my last year with him, and that’s really upsetting me.And next year, we won't be able to see each other every day—or even at all—because he'll be studying too far away.So I'm pretty sure he'll leave me in this situation.He hasn't left me yet, but he'll have to go to university, and I'll still have one year of college left without him.So that's why I think things between him and me won't last forever.He’s often told me he was afraid we’d break up, but I feel like we won’t have a choice—he’ll be a five-hour drive away from my college.If we manage to stay together long-distance and see each other again once I have my own apartment in two years, we won't be able to date, because I'll be leaving to study on the opposite side of the country—an eight-hour drive away from him.that so complicatedAnd my parents don't know anything about it, because I'm not supposed to be in a relationship.

What would you do, or what advice would you give me, to put my mind at ease?😥

I'm open to any advice.🩷

When you said "problem boyfriend." I was going to say "call the police," because I thought you were being abused or something like this.

I wish I could give you an easy answer that would have a happy outcome, but your situation is a difficult one. Know that you are not alone in this, I had a similar situation when I graduated High School all those years ago. We ended up breaking up, because we went in different directions in life, and I have no regrets about this.

You have two options:

1) you can do a long distance relationship. This is emotionally difficult, and you must have a very strong relationship to make this work. I am assuming that he will also have to do his National Service Obligation as well, so need to make sure both of you are willing to commit to this.

2) You can break up and go continue with life. I understand this will be very difficult to emotionally process, but if you care for each other, it might be for the best, and that doesn't mean that you can't reconnect later. A good friend that I had in High School joined the Marines when he graduated. His girlfriend went on to Nursing School, and they broke up. Fast forward to the late 90s and the reconnected. They have been married for almost 30 years now, so there is hope. If it's meant to be, then it will work, but you may have to lose first to win later.

I assume, because you live Busan, he is going to University in Seoul? If so, my congratulations to him! I know that is a big distance, I lived in Daegu, so Busan wasn't a big distance for me on the train. I really hope things work out for the two of you, and that you find peace, no matter what choices you make.