So why aren't I getting ANY requests to be a pen pal?? OK, I'm 69 and I'm not Brad Pitt at 40. But I HAVE lived 69 years on the planet and for a penpal site, I'm thinking that's a LOT more valuable on here than being an 8 or 9. I'm on here to share life stories, learn different cultures, maybe even a smile or two....not to impress women with money, accomplishments, and trying to get dates. So ladies...let's be real here. Are you on here to be REAL pen-pals, or are you on here to get validation from men and "likes" from complete strangers? Please...throw the on-line dating "rulebook" away (that is, men have to pursue women). That does NOT apply on penpal sites. You can reach out to men, don't be scared or think you are "chasing". Nobody is chasing anyone on here! And if you do reach out, "Hi" or "Hey" isn't a proper introduction! Try a few sentences (!), ask a question......and be prepared to respond after a response. Remember....PENPAL site! Have you ever played tennis? BOTH people have to serve...BOTH people have to hit the ball back once it's hit to them! OK...lecture over. Now...let's try this again...
Thank you for your thoughtful reply! Really appreciate that. And just for clarification...I'm looking for women penpals for a specific reason. At 69, I'm done with dating...well, actually dating is done with me. I'm too old now...I think the current term is "cooked". But, simply because women don't want to date me or see me as valuable, is not reason for me to not want to communicate with women and share thoughts with them. The one great thing about being older is that you see all people as human beings...not objects that can only benefit your life or your lust. I've always liked women...had great women in my life and I harbor no bitterness to any whom my relationships did not last. I've got plenty of guy friends...but hardly any women friends. And I think that's a loss. I've always appreciated female perspectives and that's the real reason I've chosen to find female penpals only on this site. In case you were curious... 🙂
Hello, how are you all? Where are you from? How is weather there? My dad has died, my mum is sick and can't pay her medical bills, me and my 30 siblings are starving because we haven't eaten anything for a few years. @Fleurke and @Knightman2398 I'm a 15 year old girl and whoever first help us I will marry that person after we talk on telegram/whatsapp/instagram for better privacy and after you send me money for plane tickets so I can arrive in your country and marry you 🤣🤣
Women already have too many contacts. They don't need to look for new ones. Just look at how many contacts they get. Just for being women.
Why don't you use artificial intelligence to create a feminine image, with a feminine profile? You'll see, lots of people will contact you.
But the point is another: there are very few men and women of any value, here and out there. It's easy to make up the numbers, if you want. But the substance, the thing that matters, is extremely rare.
You've seen the movie Contact, so you know that we are our own best friends, in solitude. This is the real challenge we must accept, in my opinion.
Hello Knightman.
It's good to have frank and courageous people like you here on PPG.
Just be yourself, and stay calm and happy until you find a good friend. Pretending to be someone else just to find a friend will bring a friend to the "fake you", not real you. And that would not be satisfying.
Good luck!
Bruh. With all due respect..
Complaining about not getting any interest from perspective penpals publicy ain't a good look. Just sayin' ...
You also said "ladies"... is there a problem with talking to dudes? I didn't come on this site to chat with ladies.. I joined when I was single, now I'm not, but even single Jay came here with the hope of chatting with everyone.. regardless of gender.
Addressing the elephant in the room here as well. A lot of younger people don't wanna chat with people your age, or mine, and you know what? That's cool. Twenty something me wouldn't have been keen on chatting with someone in their 50s or 60s either. I didnt get alot of interest here until I started posting and interacting in the forums.
Sorry, but I think it's presumptuous to assume that all the women here want "validation" or LDR dating partners. None of the women I speak to here have indicated they are here for romance, quite the contrary actually. Maybe the people you approach just don't vibe with you, and that's life, I'm not everyone's cup of tea and I'm cool with that.
Just keep trying, be patient and keep zen, it makes the ones who actually wanna talk all the more awesome.