HELP me with my very possible, maybe future Mother-In-Law

This is specific to our Taiwanese members. Please understand that I am not trying to be insulting or demeaning, but f**k is she driving me menty and she's only been here (at my house in the USA) five days. Mind you, I don't hate her, she seems nice and well meaning, but I'm getting super frus here....

1) She speaks to Jing in Hokkien. This is ok, I guess. But I know Mandarin better and I really wish she would speak in a language I can follow, because I KNOW she is talking about me...

2) She's somewhat critical. She asked what my dad did and I said he is dead, but he was a carpenter. That didn't seem to impress her. I then had to add that my grandparents raised me and that my grandpa was a Civil Engineer, that seemed to suffice.

3) I made steaks and she said I made too much food. TF?

4) I live next to a graveyard... don't me started on how much I've had to hear about that,

5) She keeps interfering with our Pilates exercises. Something about it being a waste of time.

6) she talks down to Jing in a loving but neggy manner and Jing just takes it. This irritates me because then Jing gets takes things out on ME about little things.

7) I had one beer, and she says I drink too much.

8) I was practicing in our room, with the volume down and the door closed and I got scolded for "disturbing the baby."

I have been to Taiwan and the Mainland. Is this typical? I don't remember my ex-gf's parents in Zhongshan being this way.. Is this a Taiwanese test or something?

If I had to describe my life in one word it would "ugh."

Sorry, rant over

One can only sympathize. I am familiar with the dominant position Asian parents can assume in relation to their offspring. My suggestion is to set clear boundaries from the onset - particularly if children are involved. Initial friction (if any) will soon be replaced with a sense of trust when it is clear that your house is “in order” and prospects are bright and secure for your newborn. Some topics may be somewhat open for discussion, other ones clearly fall within the parental prerogative. This is non-negotiable. A friendly - yet clear - reminder will often do the trick. In this regard it would be beneficial to first fine tune with your partner to avoid any unpleasant surprises and to speak with one voice (in any given language).